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« Reply #75 on: December 18, 2012, 12:40:47 PM »

I'd certainly go along with installing bullet resistant doors and windows at all schools and daycare facilities, but again, how expensive is that?  I truly don't know, so I'd be grateful if someone could tell me.  It that an expense that should be borne by the school districts alone?  Again, do you think that people would be willing to pay for that?  How long would it take to retrofit all schools?

Should we be thinking about installing bullet proof doors and windows in all public places?
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« Reply #76 on: December 18, 2012, 12:59:50 PM »

Some People are being kind of unreasonable right now. Yes, it was tragic, terrible, and I still cant believe it happened. I wish it hadnt happened, and I too was scared and saddened, and worried... but then reason set in, and I was brought to the conclusion that we need to continue to live our lives. Not only for our own sake, but because We CAN. There are people who died from these tragedies, and their families, friends, and communities, who lost a piece of themselves because of these tragedies. Yes, please, pray for them or whatever you believe. Yes, mourn for them. Worry that it could happen, because it could, BUT hope that it wont. And stop fighting and arguing about things we cannot change. Why do that? Love one another and be happy that we will live another day, and our families are whole, because not all have that luxury right now.

Maybe merely mourning is not enough.  And why get stuck into that trap of falling into inaction because these are things that "cannot change"?  How many times in our history have people defied the odds and have indeed changed things that everyone else said could not be changed?  Are we not a community here at IHD who are working hard to change the status quo that is dialysis as we know it?  How many people said that slavery was here to stay or that women could never get the vote?  We are not a nation that has ever sat back and done nothing because we truly thought that things would never change.  Change is the essence of mankind.  And change is happening at a faster and faster rate.

I can't help but remember that it wasn't all that long ago that no one really thought twice about drinking and driving.  Just about everyone smoked.  No one thought those things would ever change, but they did, and now smoking and drunk driving are socially unacceptable, and texting while driving is swiftly becoming unacceptable as well.  Our fascination with violence coupled with a general sweeping under the rug of mental illness CAN change. 

Yes, we should continue to live our lives, but we should also strive to make changes so that our lives, and the lives of our fellow Americans, will get better and safer.

Its possible that there may be a laspe in understanding here. Im not saying, dont try to change it. I am saying Dont fight and argue about it. The people who fight and argue about it arent trying to change it, they are just fighting and arguing. seems to me it would be in everyones better interest to put forth the effort used fighting and arguing into making changes... but thats just my opinion lol



I'd certainly go along with installing bullet resistant doors and windows at all schools and daycare facilities, but again, how expensive is that?  I truly don't know, so I'd be grateful if someone could tell me.  It that an expense that should be borne by the school districts alone?  Again, do you think that people would be willing to pay for that?  How long would it take to retrofit all schools?

Should we be thinking about installing bullet proof doors and windows in all public places?

I think thats a good idea... The cost doesnt outweigh the benefit. But as someone stated above somewhere, if they want in, they will find a way. same is with the gun issue, if they want one, they will find a way. its the law abiding people that will be left helpless.
Honestly, people in entertainment should get paid a hell of a lot less, and that money go toward schooling, and mental health, and other things we do need that have nothing to do with this thread so i wont bring them up lol

My only question though, why did it take such a tragedy to get people in such an uproar? I mean, like I have said, things like this have happened many times in the past, why now? why not then? Just an observation...

And ya, that is kind of ... eh... tattling? are we 5? I dont really understand tattling anyway, its one of my pet peeves with my son. I tell him unless someone is hurting you do not tell me, because I will send you away (im so mean! and im never far away that I dont know whats going on anyway,  but i got tired of constantly hearing him and my neice, he touched my blanket, she told me to sit down, she stole my crayon etc) Its better to confront the problem than to make someone else deal with it... especially at our ages.

"cant we all just get along?" lol i keep thinking about that song, "Why can't we be friends, why can't we be friends?"

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« Reply #77 on: December 18, 2012, 01:08:03 PM »

GLM, my apologies if I misunderstood the intent of your post!  Fighting and arguing just for the sake of fighting and arguing won't change anything, but fighting and arguing has been a part of our heritage from this nation's founding, and that's OK as long as the goal is to actually eventually come to an agreement.

I think this particular tragedy "feels different", and it IS different because the victims were school children.  I think we all felt it.  As horrified as I was when I heard about the shootings in Arizona, Aurora, Ft. Hood and the Sikh temple in Wisconsin, hearing that so many young children were murdered at school made me gasp and then cry.  It was exactly the same feeling I had when I heard about Dunblane.  Children shot down while in their classrooms.  Such young children are some of the most defenseless in society, and that's what makes this one so different.
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« Reply #78 on: December 18, 2012, 02:20:44 PM »

I frankly am frustrated MM has to go on and on about her way and considers no one else is right.  Maybe there would be a teacher that would jump at the chance to have a gun. Right now they are not allowed.  Their freedom has been taken away.  She just assumes all teachers would cower at the thought.  It doesn't have to be all or none ya know.  Those that feel comfortable can do it.


LOL!  And here I was just agreeing with Hemodoc that focussing on gun control only without also considering mental health issues would be an ineffective way of dealing with the problem.   :rofl;

No, I am making no assumptions about what teachers want or don't want.  If there are teachers who are willing to go through the training and be properly certified, then that's fine.  But before we go that route, we need to be very careful about how we would allow there to be storage of weapons and ammunition in an elementary school room that would keep such materiel safe from children yet still easily and quickly accessible.

So Rerun, if you were a grade school teacher in a class of, say, 20 6 year olds, how would you yourself get to your gun quickly yet still keep it safe from inquisitive little boys?  Would you keep that gun in your desk already loaded?  What kind of weapon would you have?

Do you think that most parents would be OK with their child's schoolteacher keeping a loaded rifle at her desk?

At any rate, thank you for your kind words.
What about the parents who have to work with this teacher who has just "jumped at the chance" to have access to a gun at school? Don't you think it might interfere with my ability to honestly criticize this person's work when it is warranted (and I found my younger boy's kindergarten teacher downright abusive to him - just imagine if I had to go in there knowing she had a weapon.) When I asked the boys how they would feel if they had to go through security similar to an airport before school each day, Aidan said it would make school feel like a prison. I do suspect he's right. Do the kids get any say in this whatsoever? Both my kids said they would be scared if they knew that teachers had access to guns. My older son asked "what if that teacher got angry?" The younger boy said he would be scared if he didn't know the teacher, because "we wouldn't know if they were good or evil".

I, too, wish people would not go crying to the admins every time the discussion gets a bit heated. I have seen nothing written here that cannot be worked out between adults. It really saddens me that someone (or someones) feel they have to pester Karol with this, especially as it was her birthday yesterday. Sheesh.
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« Reply #79 on: December 18, 2012, 02:31:10 PM »

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Lastly, I just heard on the news that people who are on the terrorist "no-fly" list are still legally permitted to have and/or purchase guns.  This surprised me. 
This is because the "no fly list" is not a finding of guilt; does not involve due process; does not give the non-flier the opportunity to confront the evidence against him/her; poses no mechanism to dispute the finding before a neutral finder of fact; etc.    Depriving someone of a constitutional right without any of the aforementioned procedural safeguards is unlikely to survive even intermediate scrutiny.
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« Reply #80 on: December 18, 2012, 02:44:32 PM »

This is because the "no fly list" is not a finding of guilt; does not involve due process; does not give the non-flier the opportunity to confront the evidence against him/her; poses no mechanism to dispute the finding before a neutral finder of fact; etc.    Depriving someone of a constitutional right without any of the aforementioned procedural safeguards is unlikely to survive even intermediate scrutiny.
My brother-in-law is apparently on a no-fly list in America. The only reason this hasn't forced him to write off the country as a holiday destination entirely is because the person they are actually concerned about is female. Otherwise, he is convinced that he would still be sequestered somewhere, arguing this out with Americans who struggle to understand his accent.  :P
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« Reply #81 on: December 18, 2012, 03:22:28 PM »

My school has security like an airport. we had to remove our shoes, and stuff from pockets, and our coats, etc. And then we had to go through a metal detector. Sometimes a pat down, especially for people like me, who had multiple piercings. We were not allowed to wear belts, high top sneakers or boots ( because of long laces), we couldnt bring metal pop cans to school, there was a huge list of stuff...then only thing left was our fists, and plastic silverwear at lunch... (maybe a textbook? heh)  And our teachers were trained on the 'art' of tackling the crap out of you if you were a threat to anyone. (I once saw a small student get tackled, and sat on, by a very hefty group of teachers. But that student was 'out of control') Yet I can tell you there was still violence.


And let me remind you, that was a little over 10 years ago.
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« Reply #82 on: December 18, 2012, 03:50:09 PM »

Gothic, it sounds like what we are thinking could or should be done, your school did it 10 years ago.  Maybe there was still violence but the kids came out alive at the end of the day.

My nephew is a State Trouper and because he has the training and practice he has a cute little gun (off duty) that he slips in the back of his pants and he can draw it so fast the person would not know what hit him. I wanted one but he said no because I don't know how to use it and I'd have to start with bigger guns to get the feel of it.  Unfortunately you won't get HIM at the school to protect kids.  I'm sure we could only afford someone off RENO 911.  We are going to get a guy who is over trying to see if anything is left from the FREE breakfast instead of doing his job.  The cops at our mall are a joke.

It is going to have to be "maybe we have guns on site and maybe we don't".  Make my day.....  You wonder why people have assult rifles at all.  Makes me wonder if people who love guns so much why they don't have those missiles they launch off their shoulders here.  I bet a few people have those somewhere under their bed. 
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« Reply #83 on: December 18, 2012, 04:08:23 PM »

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Lastly, I just heard on the news that people who are on the terrorist "no-fly" list are still legally permitted to have and/or purchase guns.  This surprised me. 
This is because the "no fly list" is not a finding of guilt; does not involve due process; does not give the non-flier the opportunity to confront the evidence against him/her; poses no mechanism to dispute the finding before a neutral finder of fact; etc.    Depriving someone of a constitutional right without any of the aforementioned procedural safeguards is unlikely to survive even intermediate scrutiny.

Hmm...yes, I understand.  Those are good points.

Would you mind telling me more about your own personal mindset regarding guns?  Do you own guns?  How many and what kind?  Where do you buy your guns?  Do you carry a concealed weapon while you are out and about, just going about your daily business?  What kind of background check did you have to submit to before getting a gun?  Do you hunt?

In your state, In which public places is a person allowed to carry a gun? 

Do you have a weapon at home, ready at alll times in case an intruder breaks into your home?  Do other family members who live with you also have weapons at the ready for self defense?

One thing I've always wondered...if a person is allowed to carry a gun, what is the logic in keeping it concealed?  It seems to me that if it is concealed, it will much harder to get to it, especially if you are female and are carrying groceries, if you see what I mean.  Wouldn't you want others to know that you are carrying so that they would be less inclined to mess with you?  I don't like the idea, personally, of conceal/carry, but if you are allowed to carry, then why conceal?  Do you have any insight you could share with me?

What does "gun control" mean to you?  What do you support, and what do you oppose...and why?  What are your views regarding unregulated gun purchases at gun shows or on websites?  Where do you think the line should be drawn, if there there should be any line drawn at all, regarding ammunition?  How easy is it for guns and ammunition to be purchased or traded by people who are not legally eligible for gun ownership?

As a gun enthusiast, what would you say today to the families of those killed in Newtown who might want tougher gun laws?  What do YOU think should be done to reduce the number of these tragedies?  There are millions upon milliions of guns in this country; do all of these gun owners feel so defenseless without their own private arsenal?

We can all make sweeping statements, but I'd really like to hear from one individual who can coherently and willingly share their personal thoughts and experiences.  I am really trying to understand why any one person would feel the need or desire to own multiple weapons along with various kinds of ammunition, so I've picked you to ask simply because yours is the first name I saw on this thread this evening.  I apologize if you feel like I am putting you on the defensive; that is not my intention although I'd understand if you felt that way.  I just have so many questions and would really like the opportunity to understand.  Thank you!
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« Reply #84 on: December 18, 2012, 07:30:42 PM »

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No, I don't hunt.  I have no interest whatsoever in killing anything.   My big blood exposure is going come if/when I make the PD->HD transition.

I shoot competitively.  Some people push balls around a finely manicured landscape into little holes.  My game is somewhat different.  There are reasons people own guns other than just "feeling safe" or "hunting".  In fact, from a "feeling safe" perspective, there is not really any difference between 1-2 guns and a large collection - so there must be reasons other than "protection" or nobody would collect (but then, you wouldn't play a whole game of golf with one club would you?).

The only areas in my state that are off limits to concealed carry for licensed people are schools, federal facilities, and some state buildings and courthouses (by administrative prohibition, not law).

Background check required to own any gun in my state, and nobody gets a permit good for concealed carry unless the local police decide they should have one.   I have such a permit, but do not carry on a daily basis.

Concealed gives the element of surprise if one needs a gun and, in certain liberal states, the mere sight of a gun prompts "man with a gun" calls to the police, wastes everyone's time, and puts people ill at ease.  Except in placed like New Hampshire and Arizona and maybe Alaska. Civilians tend to conceal when carrying for the same reasons that out of uniform off duty police do.   I can say with reasonable confidence that my carry permit would most definitely be revoked if the local PD started to get reports of me carrying openly (it's "just not done" in my state).

From my point of view, it boils down to the equality of all in a free society.   "Special" people will always have access to guns.   Bloomberg calls for bans while surrounded by an armed detail; famous people like Bill Cosby; Shaun Penn and Donald Trump get carry permits in NYC where they are unavailable to "normal" people.     My main criteria is that I oppose all laws that create a special class of people and give privileges to the rich, powerful, connected or even off duty/retired police that are not afforded to "ordinary folk".   Part of that "All men are created equal" thing some radicals came up with in 1776.
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« Reply #85 on: December 18, 2012, 08:22:43 PM »

Oh man, am I glad for this thread.  The day after this happened, the place I worked closed down the next day to honor this devasted community.  I was sick at heart.  I don't know the answers, but I agree, something should be done.  I have weapons in my home. Know how to use them.  I have them for protection only.

This guy was a wack job.  Pre-meditated murder is the worst, but on innocent children.  May he burn in Hell for his act.  He knew full well what he was doing.  Cowardly _ _ _.  Yea he saved us from a loooonnng drawn out trial, but it would have been more justified to have him die a slow & painful death.  Yes Im Christian & I definately feel this way towards this EVIL boy, man whatever you want to call him.

At anyrate, alot of the people I work with have children the ages of these & I have grand-children of this age.  It is uncontionable to me.  Those children were of an innocent age and I think that is what is at the very rage within our souls.  Im glad we shut down one day to honor them.  I work for some really good hearted people and God Bless them everyone.

Newtown will never be the same.  I remember those murders in Dublin too?  That was not so long ago either.  Yea I think something should be done, but I don't think gun laws will do anything to solve it.  There will always be a sick B_ _ _ _ _D out there wanting to kill for some ungodly reason. 

Im sick to my stomach thinking about this!

God Forgive me for my thoughts, but Im not passive in situations such as these!  It chaps my ass!!!!
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« Reply #86 on: December 19, 2012, 03:21:02 AM »

STOP!

There are many bad things that are happening in this world right now. 

This is about:

(CNN) -- When a gunman opened fire inside a Newtown, Connecticut, elementary school Friday, he cut short 26 lives. Six women who worked at Sandy Hook Elementary were killed, in addition to 20 students -- twelve girls and eight boys -- according to state police.
Here are details about their lives:
Charlotte Bacon, 6
Charlotte was sweet, outgoing and full of energy, her grandmother told CNN affiliate WCCO in Minnesota.
"This is tough. This is surreal. You can't believe this could happen," Irene Hagen told the network. "The whole family is just devastated and we're all trying to come to terms with it."
She said her granddaughter loved school and dresses. Her hair was a mass of beautiful red curls.
"It's horrible. It's really horrible," Hagen told WCCO. "It's hard to believe that someone would kill children, innocent children."
Rachel D'Avino, 29
She likely didn't know it when she died, but her best friend was about to propose.
He had recently asked Rachel's parents for permission, and he was planning to ask for her hand in marriage on Christmas Eve.
That and other details about Rachel's life were described in an obituary posted on the website of Munson-Lovetere Funeral Homes of Connecticut.
"Her presence and tremendous smile brightened any room she entered," it read.
Born in Waterbury, Rachel received her undergraduate degree from the University of Hartford and her Masters from Post University. She was working toward her Doctorate at the University of St. Joseph of Hartford.
Rachel loved karate, cooking, animals, photography and her two younger siblings.
"Her passion, however, was her occupation as a behavioral therapist working with children within the autism spectrum," the obituary read.
In lieu of flowers, it asked that donations be made to Autism Speaks, an advocay organization.
Olivia Engel, 6
Her favorite stuffed animal was a lamb; pink and purple were her favorite colors.
Olivia's family posted a statement on Facebook with those and other details about their beloved daughter.
"She was insightful for her age and had a great sense of humor. She laughed a lot and always lit up a room including the people around her. She was very creative and was always drawing and designing things," her family said.
Olivia took art and dance lessons, played tennis, soccer and swam. She was involved in Girl Scouts and musical theater. She loved school and did well in math and reading.
Her family described her as a "grateful child ... never greedy." Each night, Olivia led grace at the dinner table.
Dylan Hockley, 6
"To know him was to love him," Dylan's grandmother told the Boston Herald about her grandson.
Dylan loved video games, jumping on a trampoline, watching movies and munching garlic bread, she said. He had dimples, blue eyes and "the most mischievous little grin," Theresa Moretti told the newspaper.
She said her daughter and son-in-law moved to Connecticut from England and chose to live where they did because of the schools. Dylan had an older brother.
"He was an angel," Moretti told the Herald. "And I think that's now why he's in heaven."
Dawn Lafferty Hochsprung, 47
Hochsprung, who became Sandy Hook Elementary School's principal two years ago, was "really nice and very fun, but she was also very much a tough lady in the right sort of sense," friend Tom Prunty said. And the students loved her. "Even little kids know when someone cares about them, and that was her," Prunty said.
"I never saw her without a smile," said Aimee Seaver, mother of a first-grader.
Hochsprung lived in Woodbury, Connecticut, with her husband, two daughters and three stepdaughters.
The longtime career educator majored in special education for her bachelor's and master's degrees in the 1990s and had just entered the Ph.D. program at Esteves School of Education at the Sage Colleges in New York last summer. Hochsprung led a school district's strategic planning panel and was the recipient of a national school grant.
Her accomplishments included overseeing the installation of a new security system requiring every visitor to ring the front entrance's doorbell after the school doors locked at 9:30 a.m.
"My mom, Dawn Hochsprung, was taken tragically from me. But she went down in a blaze of glory that truly represents who she was," her daughter, Cristina Hassinger, tweeted.
Jesse Lewis, 6
Jesse loved math, riding horses and playing at his mom's farm, his father told the New York Post.
"He was just a happy boy," said Neil Heslin. "Everybody knew Jesse."
He told the newspaper his son was to make gingerbread houses at school Friday. Heslin was planning to help.
Instead, the last time he saw his son was when he dropped him off at school at 9 a.m.
"He was going to go places in life," Heslin told the Post.
Ana Marquez-Greene, 6
"1, 2, 3, ready and go," Ana counts down in a homemade video provided to CNN affiliate WTIC.
The girl in pigtails stands in front of a piano as her brother plays. Her voice is clear, bigger than her size. Ana smiles and waves.
Her father, Jimmy Greene, is a jazz musician. His representative released a statement on Ana's death, describing the little girl as "beautiful and vibrant."
"The family has requested privacy at this time of heartbreaking loss," it read. They "have asked us to relay their sincere gratitude for the outpouring of support and sympathy locally, nationally and internationally."
Grace McDonnell, 7
The ultimate "girly girl." Grace loved wearing pink and playing dress-up with jewelry, her grandmother told the Boston Herald.
As Mary Ann McDonnell spoke, she was surrounded by Christmas presents meant for Grace, Gracie, as she was sometimes called.
The little girl loved art, gymnastics, soccer and her small spaniel, Puddin', her grandmother said.
"She was a wonderful little girl. She was always smiling," McDonnell told the newspaper. "I think everybody should know about these beautiful children whose lives were cut short."
Anne Marie Murphy, 52
A hero. That's how a first responder reportedly described Murphy to her father.
He told Newsday that authorities told him her body was found in a classroom, covering young children killed in the shooting in an apparent attempt to shield them.
"She died doing what she loved. She was serving children and serving God," Murphy's mother, Alice McGowan, told the newspaper.
A married mother of four, Murphy was artistic and hardworking, her parents said.
"She was a happy soul," her mother told Newsday. "She was a very good daughter, a good mother, a good wife."
Emilie Parker, 6
She could "light up a room," Emilie's father said about his oldest daughter.
Robbie Parker described her as "bright, creative and very loving." Emilie was always willing to try new things, he said, except food. Her laugh was infectious.
"My daughter Emilie would be one of the first ones to be standing up and giving her love and support to all of those victims, because that is the type of person she is," said Parker.
He said she was "an exceptional artist and she always carried around her markers and pencils so she never missed an opportunity to draw a picture or make a card for someone."
"This world is a better place because she has been in it," Parker said.
Emilie's aunt described her niece as the "sweetest little girl I've ever known."
The family is devastated that "someone so beautiful and perfect is no longer going to be in our lives and for no reason," said Jill Cottle Garrett.
Emilie's father, who works as a physician's assistant in the newborn unit at the Danbury hospital, recalled his last conversation with his daughter was in Portuguese, a language he was teaching her.
"She said that she loved me, and I gave her a kiss and I was out the door," he said.
Noah Pozner, 6
"He had a huge heart and he was so much fun, a little bit rambunctious, lots of spirit," Noah's aunt told CNN. "He was really the light of the room."
Victoria Haller said her nephew loved playing with his cousins and siblings, especially his twin sister.
"He was a gorgeous, gorgeous boy and he could really get what he wanted just by batting those long eyelashes and looking at you with those big blue eyes. You really couldn't say no to him," she said.
His siblings don't know yet the exact way in which Noah passed away, Haller said.
"How do you tell them that's how their brother died?" she asked. "It's the unthinkable really."
Jessica Rekos, 6
Jessica loved everything about horses -- horse movies, horse books, drawing horses and writing stories about them.
She asked Santa this year for new cowgirl boots and a cowgirl hat. Her family had promised she could get her own horse when she turned 10.
"She was a creative, beautiful, little girl," her family said in a statement, describing Jessica as their "rock."
"She had an answer for everything, she didn't miss a trick, and she outsmarted us every time. We called her our little CEO for the way she carefully thought out and planned everything," they said. "We can not imagine our life without her."
Jessica also loved orca whales and playing with her two little brothers.
"We are mourning her loss, sharing our beautiful memories we have of her, and trying to help her brother Travis understand why he can't play with his best friend," her family said.
Lauren Rousseau, 30
Rousseau, a permanent substitute teacher at Sandy Hook Elementary, "wanted to be a teacher from before she even went to kindergarten," her mother said in a written statement Saturday. "We will miss her terribly and will take comfort knowing that she had achieved that dream," Teresa Rousseau said.
She grew up in Danbury, Connecticut, and earned a bachelor's degree from the University of Connecticut and a master's degree in elementary education from the University of Bridgeport.
Rousseau "worked as a substitute teacher in Danbury, New Milford and Newtown before she was hired in November as a permanent substitute teacher at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown," her mother said.
Mary Sherlach, 56
Sherlach, Sandy Hook Elementary's school psychologist, was with Hochsprung when they heard a "pop, pop, pop" sound around 9:30 a.m., a parent with both women at the time told CNN. Sherlach was shot to death after heading into the hall to find out what was happening.
"I ... am always ready to assist in problem-solving, intervention and prevention," Sherlach wrote on her website.
Sherlach earned her undergraduate degree in psychology at SUNY Cortland and a master's degree at Southern Connecticut State University. She worked as a rehabilitation assistant at a group home for disabled adults and as a community mental health placement specialist before becoming a school psychologist.
She worked in three Connecticut school systems before moving to Sandy Hook Elementary in 1994. During her time in Newtown, Sherlach kept busy as a member of numerous groups such as the district conflict resolution committee, safe school climate committee, crisis intervention team and student instructional team.
Sherlach and her husband for more than three decades lived in Trumbull, Connecticut, and, together, they were "proud parents" of two daughters in their late 20s. Her website listed her interests as gardening, reading and going to the theater.
Victoria Soto, 27
Soto, a first-grade teacher at Sandy Hook Elementary, moved her students away from the classroom door when she heard gunfire, which students initially "thought were hammers falling," according to the father of one of her students.
"That's when the gunman burst in, did not say a word, no facial expressions, and proceeded to shoot their teacher," said Robert Licata, whose 6-year-old son, Aiden, escaped by running past the shooter.
Soto's mother said her daughter was selfless.
"She would not hesitate to think to save anyone else before herself and especially children. She loved them more than life, and she would definitely put herself in front of them any day," Donna Soto told CNN's Piers Morgan.
Soto wanted to be a teacher since she was 3 and talked about her students with "such fondness and caring," her mother said.
Soto's cousin, James Wiltsie, said Soto "instinctively went into action when a monster came into her classroom and tried to protect the kids that she loved so much."
"We just want the public to know that Vicki was a hero," he said.
Soto had a dog she loved. The black lab Roxie spent Saturday wandering around Soto's apartment, apparently looking for her, relatives said.
Other victims
Daniel Barden, 7; Josephine Gay, 7; Madeleine Hsu, 6; Catherine Hubbard, 6; Chase Kowalski, 7; James Mattioli, 6; Jack Pinto, 6; Caroline Previdi, 6; Avielle Richman, 6; Benjamin Wheeler, 6; Allison Wyatt, 6.


To make this thread about your politics or religious views is wrong.  If you can't see that then I guess you never will.

May they rest in peace.

Chill out YL, that is bad for your health. Everyone is angered and shocked by these tragic events that sadly could have been prevented.  If Rerun and Moosemom and even me want to talk openly about these issues, that is the IHD way YL in the OFF TOPIC, DISCUSS ANYTHING YOU
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STOP!

There are many bad things that are happening in this world right now. 

This is about:

(CNN) -- When a gunman opened fire inside a Newtown, Connecticut, elementary school Friday, he cut short 26 lives. Six women who worked at Sandy Hook Elementary were killed, in addition to 20 students -- twelve girls and eight boys -- according to state police.
Here are details about their lives:
Charlotte Bacon, 6
Charlotte was sweet, outgoing and full of energy, her grandmother told CNN affiliate WCCO in Minnesota.
"This is tough. This is surreal. You can't believe this could happen," Irene Hagen told the network. "The whole family is just devastated and we're all trying to come to terms with it."
She said her granddaughter loved school and dresses. Her hair was a mass of beautiful red curls.
"It's horrible. It's really horrible," Hagen told WCCO. "It's hard to believe that someone would kill children, innocent children."
Rachel D'Avino, 29
She likely didn't know it when she died, but her best friend was about to propose.
He had recently asked Rachel's parents for permission, and he was planning to ask for her hand in marriage on Christmas Eve.
That and other details about Rachel's life were described in an obituary posted on the website of Munson-Lovetere Funeral Homes of Connecticut.
"Her presence and tremendous smile brightened any room she entered," it read.
Born in Waterbury, Rachel received her undergraduate degree from the University of Hartford and her Masters from Post University. She was working toward her Doctorate at the University of St. Joseph of Hartford.
Rachel loved karate, cooking, animals, photography and her two younger siblings.
"Her passion, however, was her occupation as a behavioral therapist working with children within the autism spectrum," the obituary read.
In lieu of flowers, it asked that donations be made to Autism Speaks, an advocay organization.
Olivia Engel, 6
Her favorite stuffed animal was a lamb; pink and purple were her favorite colors.
Olivia's family posted a statement on Facebook with those and other details about their beloved daughter.
"She was insightful for her age and had a great sense of humor. She laughed a lot and always lit up a room including the people around her. She was very creative and was always drawing and designing things," her family said.
Olivia took art and dance lessons, played tennis, soccer and swam. She was involved in Girl Scouts and musical theater. She loved school and did well in math and reading.
Her family described her as a "grateful child ... never greedy." Each night, Olivia led grace at the dinner table.
Dylan Hockley, 6
"To know him was to love him," Dylan's grandmother told the Boston Herald about her grandson.
Dylan loved video games, jumping on a trampoline, watching movies and munching garlic bread, she said. He had dimples, blue eyes and "the most mischievous little grin," Theresa Moretti told the newspaper.
She said her daughter and son-in-law moved to Connecticut from England and chose to live where they did because of the schools. Dylan had an older brother.
"He was an angel," Moretti told the Herald. "And I think that's now why he's in heaven."
Dawn Lafferty Hochsprung, 47
Hochsprung, who became Sandy Hook Elementary School's principal two years ago, was "really nice and very fun, but she was also very much a tough lady in the right sort of sense," friend Tom Prunty said. And the students loved her. "Even little kids know when someone cares about them, and that was her," Prunty said.
"I never saw her without a smile," said Aimee Seaver, mother of a first-grader.
Hochsprung lived in Woodbury, Connecticut, with her husband, two daughters and three stepdaughters.
The longtime career educator majored in special education for her bachelor's and master's degrees in the 1990s and had just entered the Ph.D. program at Esteves School of Education at the Sage Colleges in New York last summer. Hochsprung led a school district's strategic planning panel and was the recipient of a national school grant.
Her accomplishments included overseeing the installation of a new security system requiring every visitor to ring the front entrance's doorbell after the school doors locked at 9:30 a.m.
"My mom, Dawn Hochsprung, was taken tragically from me. But she went down in a blaze of glory that truly represents who she was," her daughter, Cristina Hassinger, tweeted.
Jesse Lewis, 6
Jesse loved math, riding horses and playing at his mom's farm, his father told the New York Post.
"He was just a happy boy," said Neil Heslin. "Everybody knew Jesse."
He told the newspaper his son was to make gingerbread houses at school Friday. Heslin was planning to help.
Instead, the last time he saw his son was when he dropped him off at school at 9 a.m.
"He was going to go places in life," Heslin told the Post.
Ana Marquez-Greene, 6
"1, 2, 3, ready and go," Ana counts down in a homemade video provided to CNN affiliate WTIC.
The girl in pigtails stands in front of a piano as her brother plays. Her voice is clear, bigger than her size. Ana smiles and waves.
Her father, Jimmy Greene, is a jazz musician. His representative released a statement on Ana's death, describing the little girl as "beautiful and vibrant."
"The family has requested privacy at this time of heartbreaking loss," it read. They "have asked us to relay their sincere gratitude for the outpouring of support and sympathy locally, nationally and internationally."
Grace McDonnell, 7
The ultimate "girly girl." Grace loved wearing pink and playing dress-up with jewelry, her grandmother told the Boston Herald.
As Mary Ann McDonnell spoke, she was surrounded by Christmas presents meant for Grace, Gracie, as she was sometimes called.
The little girl loved art, gymnastics, soccer and her small spaniel, Puddin', her grandmother said.
"She was a wonderful little girl. She was always smiling," McDonnell told the newspaper. "I think everybody should know about these beautiful children whose lives were cut short."
Anne Marie Murphy, 52
A hero. That's how a first responder reportedly described Murphy to her father.
He told Newsday that authorities told him her body was found in a classroom, covering young children killed in the shooting in an apparent attempt to shield them.
"She died doing what she loved. She was serving children and serving God," Murphy's mother, Alice McGowan, told the newspaper.
A married mother of four, Murphy was artistic and hardworking, her parents said.
"She was a happy soul," her mother told Newsday. "She was a very good daughter, a good mother, a good wife."
Emilie Parker, 6
She could "light up a room," Emilie's father said about his oldest daughter.
Robbie Parker described her as "bright, creative and very loving." Emilie was always willing to try new things, he said, except food. Her laugh was infectious.
"My daughter Emilie would be one of the first ones to be standing up and giving her love and support to all of those victims, because that is the type of person she is," said Parker.
He said she was "an exceptional artist and she always carried around her markers and pencils so she never missed an opportunity to draw a picture or make a card for someone."
"This world is a better place because she has been in it," Parker said.
Emilie's aunt described her niece as the "sweetest little girl I've ever known."
The family is devastated that "someone so beautiful and perfect is no longer going to be in our lives and for no reason," said Jill Cottle Garrett.
Emilie's father, who works as a physician's assistant in the newborn unit at the Danbury hospital, recalled his last conversation with his daughter was in Portuguese, a language he was teaching her.
"She said that she loved me, and I gave her a kiss and I was out the door," he said.
Noah Pozner, 6
"He had a huge heart and he was so much fun, a little bit rambunctious, lots of spirit," Noah's aunt told CNN. "He was really the light of the room."
Victoria Haller said her nephew loved playing with his cousins and siblings, especially his twin sister.
"He was a gorgeous, gorgeous boy and he could really get what he wanted just by batting those long eyelashes and looking at you with those big blue eyes. You really couldn't say no to him," she said.
His siblings don't know yet the exact way in which Noah passed away, Haller said.
"How do you tell them that's how their brother died?" she asked. "It's the unthinkable really."
Jessica Rekos, 6
Jessica loved everything about horses -- horse movies, horse books, drawing horses and writing stories about them.
She asked Santa this year for new cowgirl boots and a cowgirl hat. Her family had promised she could get her own horse when she turned 10.
"She was a creative, beautiful, little girl," her family said in a statement, describing Jessica as their "rock."
"She had an answer for everything, she didn't miss a trick, and she outsmarted us every time. We called her our little CEO for the way she carefully thought out and planned everything," they said. "We can not imagine our life without her."
Jessica also loved orca whales and playing with her two little brothers.
"We are mourning her loss, sharing our beautiful memories we have of her, and trying to help her brother Travis understand why he can't play with his best friend," her family said.
Lauren Rousseau, 30
Rousseau, a permanent substitute teacher at Sandy Hook Elementary, "wanted to be a teacher from before she even went to kindergarten," her mother said in a written statement Saturday. "We will miss her terribly and will take comfort knowing that she had achieved that dream," Teresa Rousseau said.
She grew up in Danbury, Connecticut, and earned a bachelor's degree from the University of Connecticut and a master's degree in elementary education from the University of Bridgeport.
Rousseau "worked as a substitute teacher in Danbury, New Milford and Newtown before she was hired in November as a permanent substitute teacher at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown," her mother said.
Mary Sherlach, 56
Sherlach, Sandy Hook Elementary's school psychologist, was with Hochsprung when they heard a "pop, pop, pop" sound around 9:30 a.m., a parent with both women at the time told CNN. Sherlach was shot to death after heading into the hall to find out what was happening.
"I ... am always ready to assist in problem-solving, intervention and prevention," Sherlach wrote on her website.
Sherlach earned her undergraduate degree in psychology at SUNY Cortland and a master's degree at Southern Connecticut State University. She worked as a rehabilitation assistant at a group home for disabled adults and as a community mental health placement specialist before becoming a school psychologist.
She worked in three Connecticut school systems before moving to Sandy Hook Elementary in 1994. During her time in Newtown, Sherlach kept busy as a member of numerous groups such as the district conflict resolution committee, safe school climate committee, crisis intervention team and student instructional team.
Sherlach and her husband for more than three decades lived in Trumbull, Connecticut, and, together, they were "proud parents" of two daughters in their late 20s. Her website listed her interests as gardening, reading and going to the theater.
Victoria Soto, 27
Soto, a first-grade teacher at Sandy Hook Elementary, moved her students away from the classroom door when she heard gunfire, which students initially "thought were hammers falling," according to the father of one of her students.
"That's when the gunman burst in, did not say a word, no facial expressions, and proceeded to shoot their teacher," said Robert Licata, whose 6-year-old son, Aiden, escaped by running past the shooter.
Soto's mother said her daughter was selfless.
"She would not hesitate to think to save anyone else before herself and especially children. She loved them more than life, and she would definitely put herself in front of them any day," Donna Soto told CNN's Piers Morgan.
Soto wanted to be a teacher since she was 3 and talked about her students with "such fondness and caring," her mother said.
Soto's cousin, James Wiltsie, said Soto "instinctively went into action when a monster came into her classroom and tried to protect the kids that she loved so much."
"We just want the public to know that Vicki was a hero," he said.
Soto had a dog she loved. The black lab Roxie spent Saturday wandering around Soto's apartment, apparently looking for her, relatives said.
Other victims
Daniel Barden, 7; Josephine Gay, 7; Madeleine Hsu, 6; Catherine Hubbard, 6; Chase Kowalski, 7; James Mattioli, 6; Jack Pinto, 6; Caroline Previdi, 6; Avielle Richman, 6; Benjamin Wheeler, 6; Allison Wyatt, 6.


To make this thread about your politics or religious views is wrong.  If you can't see that then I guess you never will.

May they rest in peace.

Chill out YL, that is bad for your health. Everyone is angered and shocked by these tragic events that sadly could have been prevented.  If Rerun and Moosemom and even me want to talk openly about these issues, that is the IHD way YL in the OFF TOPIC, DISCUSS ANYTHING YOU
WANT SECTION. We are all sickened and angered by the loss of innocent life which some of us likewise feel about abortion. Sorry, but if you can't handle discussions on these issues, perhaps you need to take a time out.

Again you show that you do not have a clue about what you are talking about.  If you don't know, don't say anything about it.  It really makes you look like a stupid  :sir ken; . I guess if the  :sir ken; fits, wear it.

You owe me an apology for stating facts about me that are completely untrue.

Hey YL, chill out man.
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« Reply #88 on: December 19, 2012, 10:36:58 AM »

the schools in my district have used the "doorbell" system since columbine. the same system they use at sandy hook. works well  if you don't know the person or can see the guns. however if the person is known to the office as in this case......well  there you know the gunman is inside and........ i don't know what the answer is.
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« Reply #89 on: December 19, 2012, 11:06:02 AM »

the schools in my district have used the "doorbell" system since columbine. the same system they use at sandy hook. works well  if you don't know the person or can see the guns. however if the person is known to the office as in this case......well  there you know the gunman is inside and........ i don't know what the answer is.

This guy was not known to the office. He was wearing black gear and a mask of some sort. He broke into the office via the window. He did not ring a bell or even try to use the door. I don't know if he shot it open w/one of his many guns and ammo, or if he kicked it in, or what. But he was not let in by anyone on the staff. Contrary to early reports, his mother never worked at the school, nor was he ever a student there.

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« Reply #90 on: December 19, 2012, 12:56:11 PM »

the schools in my district have used the "doorbell" system since columbine. the same system they use at sandy hook. works well  if you don't know the person or can see the guns. however if the person is known to the office as in this case......well  there you know the gunman is inside and........ i don't know what the answer is.
They do in my town as well.  If you are not known, you get buzzed in and report to the office to explain your business in the school and given a visitor tag if they decide to let you in.  The effectiveness of this approach in deterring a suicidal, motivated and armed adversary is left as an exercise to the reader.

I have visited a secure facility where the person opening the door is behind ballistic glass and does not open the entrance until AFTER you have passed through a metal detector and your belongings/parcels have passed a self-serve x-ray scanner. While more effective, it's probably not practical at a public school.
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« Reply #91 on: December 19, 2012, 01:06:17 PM »

SimonDog, thanks so much for your replies to my questions.  I appreciate it.  Like I've said before, I can see the fun one can have in a shooting competition.

I've never really thought about gun ownership from the point of view of making sure that there are no "special" groups/individuals that have access to guns while "regular folk" do not.  Do you have any idea why the likes of Bill Cosby, Sean Penn and Donald Trump would be granted special permits to carry in NYC or why they would even want them in the first place?

Yeah, I can understand that openly carrying a handgun is "not done".

Thanks again for your reply.
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« Reply #92 on: December 19, 2012, 01:47:55 PM »

SimonDog, thanks so much for your replies to my questions.  I appreciate it.  Like I've said before, I can see the fun one can have in a shooting competition.

I've never really thought about gun ownership from the point of view of making sure that there are no "special" groups/individuals that have access to guns while "regular folk" do not.  Do you have any idea why the likes of Bill Cosby, Sean Penn and Donald Trump would be granted special permits to carry in NYC or why they would even want them in the first place?

Yeah, I can understand that openly carrying a handgun is "not done".

Thanks again for your reply.

Dear Moosemom,

Some of the most distressed folks in any of these mass shootings are the lawful gun owners who have done nothing wrong, but will have the blame of these atrocities placed on them since it is such a hot political issue.

This case appears to be a failure of two things from what we know to this date. First, the mental health system. The latest reports are that the motive for this killing was the kid over hearing that his mother wanted to place him in a mental institution. If the mother was in consultation with a mental health counselor and it was the opinion that the child was a danger to himself or others, that demands an immediate response.

I sent people in ambulances from my office when I suspected that they were a danger to themselves or others many times in my career.  If the concern was that the kid was a danger to himself or others, then that demands an immediate intervention and not plans to intervene in the future.

The second issue is that of how did this kid have any access to his mother's lawful weapons if she was so concerned as to consider placing him in a mental institution.

Just as with the Aurora shooter, there was an opportunity to prevent the taking of life. In the last 40 years, the mental health system was systematically dismantled. Inpatient treatment centers are woefully lacking in this nation. Mental health coverage is often limited to 12 outpatient visits in 12 months which may be appropriate for folks dealing with difficulties in life, but not for patients with severe mental illnesses.

Those of us that do own guns understood that gun control would always be an important part of Obama's second term. We also understand that just as most major nations have lost gun rights, it is only a matter of time before they take them away here as well. Sadly, the hoped for safety will never materialize and in fact, with the horrific gang problem we have today, disarming law abiding citizens is the last thing we should be considering.

Improving school security has the most hope of preventing future tragedies. CT never overturned their assault weapon ban after the Federal ban expired in 2004. Many of the proposed "fixes" for this issue are already in place in CT today yet they failed to prevent this tragedy.

Perhaps it is time to take an objective look at what causes these tragedies instead of just reacting in an emotional manner.  Many in the gun community believe that there are things we can fix to improve safety for all.
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« Reply #93 on: December 19, 2012, 02:11:29 PM »

Aidan said it would make school feel like a prison. I do suspect he's right. Do the kids get any say in this whatsoever? Both my kids said they would be scared if they knew that teachers had access to guns. My older son asked "what if that teacher got angry?" The younger boy said he would be scared if he didn't know the teacher, because "we wouldn't know if they were good or evil".
I wasn't going to comment on this thread, mostly because it's made me realise that American culture is in many respects so completely different to British culture that we may as well come from different planets, but I think this is one of the most important issues about what's happened ...

The majority of children feel safe, happy and secure at school.  This is without the need for security guards and airport style scanners and armed teachers. And children have the right to feel safe in school; some children spend more time on school premises than they may spend in their own homes so the environment needs to support them in feeling safe, secure and happy.  Arming members of staff or creating an environment which is too secure will scare many children.  A life of fear and paranoia is not something any of us should want for children. Surely it could even cause problems further down the line as (for some) the fear and paranoia that is subcosciously drummed into them at an early age may manifest itself in adulthood?

This tragedy was so sad because it is so very VERY rare.  And although it is no consolation for the families of those poor little angels, we should be thankful that none of us live in communities where this is everyday (or even every year) news. We cannot wrap our children in cotton wool on the basis that it might happen again, somewhere in the world, one day in the maybe distant future; they must have the opportunity and enjoyment to actually be children.  Yes, we can learn to take precautions and try our best to prevent something like this happening but we shouldn't do it to the extent that we scare children.

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[As a sidenote, I am interested in seeing the statistics which show the UK has had an alleged increase in violent crimes since the gun/firearms legislation changed following our own tragedy at Dunblane in 1996, especially bearing in mind that the UK has NEVER had the gun culture that America has.  I'm more inclined to believe that if violent crime statistics have risen it's purely because more people report them now (I suspect such crimes as domestic violence and rape are to be found within the realm of violent crime, but I may be mistaken).]
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« Reply #94 on: December 19, 2012, 02:20:40 PM »

the schools in my district have used the "doorbell" system since columbine. the same system they use at sandy hook. works well  if you don't know the person or can see the guns. however if the person is known to the office as in this case......well  there you know the gunman is inside and........ i don't know what the answer is.

This guy was not known to the office. He was wearing black gear and a mask of some sort. He broke into the office via the window. He did not ring a bell or even try to use the door. I don't know if he shot it open w/one of his many guns and ammo, or if he kicked it in, or what. But he was not let in by anyone on the staff. Contrary to early reports, his mother never worked at the school, nor was he ever a student there.

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Latest reports:  Nancy Lanza volunteered with the kindergartners for numerous years at Sandy Hook Elementary School.  Also, Adam Lanza attended 5th grade there.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/12/19/adam-lanza-motive_n_2329508.html

http://www.usatoday.com/story/news/2012/12/18/adam-lanza-sandy-hook-student/1777525/
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This tragedy was so sad because it is so very VERY rare. 


The US has had 61 mass killings (meaning 5 or more dead) since 1982.  That doesn't even include incidents like the man who shoot his child's mother and her cousin outside the counselor's office just minutes from my house - the day after Newport.  Is two a year on average really all that rare?
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« Reply #96 on: December 19, 2012, 02:39:51 PM »

Tuesday night, Washington Post columnist Charles Krauthammer offered a proposition that could offer legislators in Washington, D.C. the chance to avoid a kneejerk reaction to last week’s shooting in Newton, CT.
 
Krauthammer’s hypothetical committee apparently would be different from the task force headed by Vice President Joe Biden in that it would be fashioned much like the 2002 9/11 Commission, which both then-President George W. Bush and Congress had a hand in establishing.
 
“There are people who want to use this as a partisan advantage or to scapegoat the NRA or to win over one side in this argument,” Krauthammer said. “I think one way to get around that in the passion of the moment is to do what Joe Lieberman suggested. To appoint a commission — this is not to put it off indefinitely — we had a commission after 9-11 because there is going to be a rush to judgment on this. I think it’s likely that we’re going to pass weapons laws that will be completely useless and I think it would be far better to appoint a commission to report in three months, six months, maybe Lieberman, maybe Giuliani to head it and to report and to look not just at guns, which is the only place where liberals want to look, but to look at the other two elements of any mass shooting.”
 
According to Krauthammer, the gun issue isn’t the only facet of the crime that the commission should examine.
 
“There is the shooter, there is the gun and the environment,” Krauthammer said. “And we’re talking about the commitment laws for the dangerously mentally ill, which are extremely lax in the United States of America. And although it would not probably have affected what happened in Connecticut, it would surely have affected what happened in Tucson where the guy was obviously a danger. Everybody knew he was. And the only way you could stop him, the only way you could incarcerate him is after he killed.’
 
“And the third element is the culture, the violence,” he continued. “In the movies, in the video games where without a doubt children are desensitized to violence. It’s either glorified or trivialized to a point that is truly shocking. And if you have a kid looking at a screen who is already sort of living in an internal world where you mow down people for entertainment on the screen, no pain, no consequences, it’s not surprising they would imitate that.”

http://dailycaller.com/2012/12/19/krauthammer-proposes-newtown-commission-headed-by-lieberman-giuliani/#ixzz2FXVfXT6Q


Krauthammer: I Would Start With The Psychology of the Killer

Dr. Charles Krauthammer explains his views on today’s terrible tragedy: “People are going to divide into three camps, there are three elements here, the psychology of the shooter, you’ve got the weapon, and you’ve got the cultural environment. . . . I tend to gravitate towards the psychology of the killer.”
 
http://www.nationalreview.com/corner/335721/krauthammer-i-would-start-psychology-killer-nathaniel-botwinick
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« Reply #97 on: December 19, 2012, 02:42:11 PM »

Aidan said it would make school feel like a prison. I do suspect he's right. Do the kids get any say in this whatsoever? Both my kids said they would be scared if they knew that teachers had access to guns. My older son asked "what if that teacher got angry?" The younger boy said he would be scared if he didn't know the teacher, because "we wouldn't know if they were good or evil".
I wasn't going to comment on this thread, mostly because it's made me realise that American culture is in many respects so completely different to British culture that we may as well come from different planets, but I think this is one of the most important issues about what's happened ...

The majority of children feel safe, happy and secure at school.  This is without the need for security guards and airport style scanners and armed teachers. And children have the right to feel safe in school; some children spend more time on school premises than they may spend in their own homes so the environment needs to support them in feeling safe, secure and happy.  Arming members of staff or creating an environment which is too secure will scare many children.  A life of fear and paranoia is not something any of us should want for children. Surely it could even cause problems further down the line as (for some) the fear and paranoia that is subcosciously drummed into them at an early age may manifest itself in adulthood?

This tragedy was so sad because it is so very VERY rare.  And although it is no consolation for the families of those poor little angels, we should be thankful that none of us live in communities where this is everyday (or even every year) news. We cannot wrap our children in cotton wool on the basis that it might happen again, somewhere in the world, one day in the maybe distant future; they must have the opportunity and enjoyment to actually be children.  Yes, we can learn to take precautions and try our best to prevent something like this happening but we shouldn't do it to the extent that we scare children.

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[As a sidenote, I am interested in seeing the statistics which show the UK has had an alleged increase in violent crimes since the gun/firearms legislation changed following our own tragedy at Dunblane in 1996, especially bearing in mind that the UK has NEVER had the gun culture that America has.  I'm more inclined to believe that if violent crime statistics have risen it's purely because more people report them now (I suspect such crimes as domestic violence and rape are to be found within the realm of violent crime, but I may be mistaken).]

Dear Poppylicious,

There are actually several simple steps that schools could make happen quickly that would be essentially invisible to the kids themselves.  In fact, that is the preferred manner in which to approach this issue. Israel handles things in a very direct manner without all of the PC that we have in America.

Despite the constant terrorist threats, one aspect of the Israeli school security plans are selected members who carry concealed. These people are not identified. Massad Ayoob, a well know firearms and police expert believes we should immediately implement the same steps that they have in Israel, Peru and the Philippines which have essentially eliminated mass killings in their schools. Here is his commentary.

http://www.personaldefensesolutions.net/massadsurvey.htm

As far as increased gun crimes in the UK, that is according to government stats. Here is a report on the increasing danger from guns in the UK since the ban.

http://townhall.com/tipsheet/katiepavlich/2012/12/11/gun-crime-soars-in-england-where-guns-are-banned-n1464528
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« Reply #98 on: December 19, 2012, 02:43:45 PM »

I didn't want to read this thread.  It is too incredibly sad and unthinkable.  Death and funerals should not happen with children.  I was a teacher for 20 years.  I am at my grandkids school 3 days a week.  They have a good security system, but not much is going to stop a madman.

I don't understand the arguements here.  Most posts are focusing on everything but simply mourning the loss of these innocent children.    If you want to argue gun control, start a thread about it.  But the anger between members regarding such a horrific act seems very childish.  Everyone wants to be right.  It isn't a contest.  They are your opinions -- each are right or wrong. 

Can we put the arguing aside, pull together as a group and give the respect these children deserve?  Pray, send positive energy, weep for the families who are burying their children.

You don't know how much time this takes up with the admin team and rumor is, it won't take much more to close this down.   Play nice.  You are alive and can hug your children tonight.
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« Reply #99 on: December 19, 2012, 02:49:46 PM »

I didn't want to read this thread.  It is too incredibly sad and unthinkable.  Death and funerals happen with children.  I was a teacher for 20 years.  I am at my grandkids school 3 days a week.  They have a good security system, but not much is going to stop a madman.

I don't understand the arguements here.  Most posts are focusing on everything but simply mourning the loss of these innocent children.    If you want to argue gun control, start a thread about it.  But the anger between members regarding such a horrific act seems very childish.  Everyone wants to be right.  It isn't a contest.  They are your opinions -- each are right or wrong. 

Can we put the arguing aside, pull together as a group and give the respect these children deserve?  Pray, send positive energy, weep for the families who are burying their children.

You don't know how much time this takes up with the admin team and rumor is, it won't take much more to close this down.   Play nice.  You are alive and can hug your children tonight.

Paris, you are a beautiful voice of reason! Thank you for your post, and for pointing out what this thread was really for from the beginning.

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