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« Reply #50 on: August 07, 2009, 10:59:10 PM »

Thanks everyone, I'm now doing practical things like looking into care, ramps, wheelchairs etc.  Once the   operation is over and assuming (praying) it is  success, then I will set to work and make it as smooth for Mum & Dad as I can.  Thursday and yesterday were horrendous but I am getting my head together now, I'll always miss my Molly, I am tearing up now, getting up to a quiet empty house is weird - but she will always be in my memory and you know what - they are only happy memories, she was such a sweet natured loving dog, everyone loved her, even people who didn't like dogs!.  When I get time I'm going to see if I can post her pic as my avatar I already have it on facebook.

Thank you all for the support, it really does mean so much  :grouphug;

Fingers crossed for Monday, I will keep you posted.
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« Reply #51 on: August 07, 2009, 11:00:05 PM »

 :grouphug; Thinking of you Rose, giving you a big hug. I hope all goes well on Monday, what a long weekend it will be for you.
Love to you, Mum and Dad     Yvonne
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« Reply #52 on: August 07, 2009, 11:18:31 PM »

Rose, so sorry about Molly. I lost my beloved cat in May and we had the same relationship that you had with Molly. It's hard to lose your best friend. We will all be praying for you and for your family. Best wishes to Dad, bless his heart. :grouphug;
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« Reply #53 on: August 08, 2009, 05:56:33 AM »

 :cuddle; Thinking of you Rose and will continued to pray.  :cuddle;
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« Reply #54 on: August 08, 2009, 06:28:40 AM »

Keeping you all in my prayers, everyday.   Love you, Rose    :cuddle;
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« Reply #55 on: August 08, 2009, 09:48:22 AM »

Just back from visiting Dad and he seems a little brighter today and is now accepting that whilst it won't be easy he will be out of pain and have a better quality of life. That's made me feel a little more cheerful.

Just to add to my woes today I was painting the radiatior (we started decorating the dining room before all this) and it fell on my foot.  I was OK driving to hospital and back (4 hours round trip) but it now aches like mad and I have an ice p back on it............what will I do next I wonder  :rofl;

Hey how do you like the new avatar - my dear sweet Molly dog! Much missed but such happy memories,

 love you all for caring so much about us xxx
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« Reply #56 on: August 08, 2009, 09:54:43 AM »

aww Molly looks like a sweet dog (and I am not a dog person as everyone here knows!!!)....

I'm sorry about your foot too.. it does seem to be a trying time for you.

I'm also sorry the English cricketers are letting you down (no wait, no I'm not!!!  :rofl;)!!! GO AUSSIES!!!! heheheh

hugs for you xoxoxoxo
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« Reply #57 on: August 08, 2009, 10:00:40 AM »

Keep those happy memories, rose dear.

Molly looks like such a sweetie.

Hugs.

 :cuddle;

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« Reply #58 on: August 08, 2009, 10:01:53 AM »

 :grouphug; Rose, one step at a time. That is what I say every morning when I get get. Keep your foot up as much as possible and rotate cold and warm as see if that helps. Bless your heart. Molly will always be with you. :cuddle;
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« Reply #59 on: August 08, 2009, 12:35:46 PM »

Thanks again for all the love.
Richmel - you told me one test does not a series make - so don't laugh too soon, wait until we get to the Oval  ;)
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« Reply #60 on: August 08, 2009, 04:33:37 PM »

Oh Rose...

I'm SO sorry to hear of your present troubles... What a lot you've been through as a family... We chatted so much you and I about our concerns and difficulties, but I think we both kept our sense of humour, and please God we'll never lose it... It's what keeps us dsane!...

I'm also very upset to hear of your loss of Molly... We do love our pawed people, and it's one of the most awful, and harrowing decisions we have to make as pet parents... Please God, when things get better, you'll take another fur baby into your life and your heart... We'd never admit it, but we just can't live without them... By the way, that's a lovely pic... She was a dote!...

I'll be thinking of, and praying for your parents and yourself on Monday...

May God bless and protect you all...

God bless...

Darth...
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« Reply #61 on: August 08, 2009, 05:02:06 PM »

Rose,
Please let Your Father and Mother, know, that there are many People, here, Praying for and Wishing them a Safe Journey, in the Adjustments, they will have to make in the Weeks ahead.

The only Animal, I had, in My Life, that I really Loved, Died about Twelve Years Ago. Her Name was Molly. I still think about that Dog.
I'm Sorry, You lost Your Molly.

Please, take some time and care for Yourself, also. It's so Important, right now.
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« Reply #62 on: August 08, 2009, 07:20:29 PM »

She was a beautiful dog, Rose and I'm sure she was a wonderful friend.

I hope the foot is not swelling.

 :cuddle;
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« Reply #63 on: August 09, 2009, 12:07:54 AM »

Good morning my friends, thank you again for your support. 

My foot was very painful when I got home last night and beginning to swell, but I got some ice on it and kept it elevated, this morning it is a lot more comfortable - but I'm not complaining when I think of the pain Dad is in.  Matt, my son, is here and able to drive us over today so I can rest it a bit longer.

Darth you are so right about a sense of humour, dad hasn't lost his ........yesterday, before we arrived,  the nurse came to help him back to bed from the toilet (he's a bit wobbly as his foot is so sore) she told me she'd said to him "here Bill take my arm" and he'd replied "yes, if they're having my leg I'll have your arm" and they'd had a laugh.............I hope he never loses that I think it's part of his 'scouse' inheritance (born in Liverpool for those of you who do not live in the UK or Ireland!!).

Lots of love to you all, I will keep you posted.
Rose xx
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« Reply #64 on: August 09, 2009, 12:33:29 AM »

I think humour is a great tool for dealing with trauma and traumatic situations. Sometimes I sit in dialysis and really the only thing to do is laugh. We often discuss with the nurses that without a sense of humour you might as well give up - and I think there is definitely something to that.

Rose glad you have your son over to help with things and give you some support.
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« Reply #65 on: August 09, 2009, 05:29:29 AM »

Agreed Folks...

I visit a 104 year old in a Nursing Home, and she says that she'll only grow old when she loses her sense of humour...

Please God it all works out for your family and your dad... And yes, I fully understand the Scouser sense of humour... Very similar to the Irish...

May God bless and protect you all...

Darth...
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« Reply #66 on: August 09, 2009, 06:22:23 AM »

Speaking of sense of humour.....

England all out for 263. Australia wins!!!  >:D :rofl;
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« Reply #67 on: August 09, 2009, 07:38:21 AM »

Yes, so much better to laugh than cry.  I have taken to beating pillows with a tennis racquet when I am really frustrated or upset and need to do something with the negative energy.  It's a good path to laughter.  If you try it, be sure to turn the tennis racquet so that the flat side is perpendicular to the floor.  You don't want to damage your wrist!   :cuddle;
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« Reply #68 on: August 09, 2009, 12:18:00 PM »

Speaking of sense of humour.....

England all out for 263. Australia wins!!!  >:D :rofl;

We thought we'd give you a chance  :rofl;

Yes, so much better to laugh than cry.  I have taken to beating pillows with a tennis racquet when I am really frustrated or upset  :cuddle;

I 'strangle' a tea towel  :rofl;



I visit a 104 year old in a Nursing Home, and she says that she'll only grow old when she loses her sense of humour...


I love that, it really gives you hope doesn't  it.

Thanks everyone for being here for me through this tough time, hopefully tomorrow will come and go and we can start to plan our new lives when Dad will hopefully be free of pain. This is not the end, it is the beginning.
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« Reply #69 on: August 09, 2009, 02:12:23 PM »





I visit a 104 year old in a Nursing Home, and she says that she'll only grow old when she loses her sense of humour...


I love that, it really gives you hope doesn't  it.
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Yep, this lady's amazing... Just moved into the home last year at the age of 103 because she was hit by a van when she was out on her bycycle going to the post office to collect the 'Old People's' pensions... The 'Old People' she speaks of are in their seventies and eighties!.... STILL hand sews, and embroiders (without glasses!) vestments for her grandson who's a priest, crochets Christening Robes in very fine silk yarn, reads the Irish Times daily, and what I REALLY envy, she can do the cryptic crossword, and always finishes it!...

Rose, I'll be thinking of and praying for you and your parents tomorrow...

May God bless and protect you all....

God bless...

Darth...
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« Reply #70 on: August 09, 2009, 11:50:32 PM »

Rose I love the photo of Molly, please keep her there, I can now tell you apart from the other rose on this site, but also Molly looks so loveable.
I am thinking of you today, It will be a very long day for you I hope Dad will be the first one on the list for his operation.
Also hope your son is still with you for the time being, it helps so much when you have your nearest and dearest.
Sorry about your foot I hope it is on the mend, I bet it is all the colours of the rainbow now!
Goodluck and Love goes out to you Dad  Yvonne
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« Reply #71 on: August 10, 2009, 04:16:59 AM »

It's mid day now, Dad still waiting and no one can tell us when he may go into theatre.  Never mind, as long as all goes well............but the waiting isn't nice.
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« Reply #72 on: August 10, 2009, 05:31:14 AM »

It's likely to be a long wait, I'm afraid, Rose...

Amputations for reasons of infection or gangerene are regarded as 'Dirty Procedures' (dreadful expression!), and the Operating Theatre cannot be used again until it has been deep cleaned... For that reason, unless it's a dire emergency, they usually get the rest of the theatre list done, and leave such procedures as your dad's until last...

Please know that I am thinking of, and praying for you, your mum and siblings, and of course,  your dad...

May God bless and protect you all...

Love...

Darth...
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« Reply #73 on: August 10, 2009, 06:18:50 AM »

I woke up thinking of you and your family this morning.  Thank you for the update.  I know the waiting is hard...I'm thinking of you!
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« Reply #74 on: August 10, 2009, 06:26:12 AM »


I'd love to be able to fetch you and your Mum a nice cup of tea and chat a bit while you wait but due to geographical humbug I can only do this in spirit.
Thinking of you.
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