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It's all going wrong
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willieandwinnie
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August 06, 2009, 02:58:59 AM »
Oh rose, I am so sorry to hear about your Molly. Keep those wonderful memories close to your heart.
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I am really sorry to hear about Molly. We have had to do the same with some of our animals over the years and it is always a very sad time. At some point you will, hopefully, be ready for another dog. There are so many out there that need a loving home.
I hope there is some positive news on your dad soon. I continue to keep you and your dad and mom in my thoughts and prayers.
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August 06, 2009, 04:13:39 AM »
Rose, I'm so, so sorry about your Molly. It sounds like you were a good "mom" to her to the end; she was a lucky dog. Still, I know your heart is hurting terribly after losing her.
I'll be waiting to hear the news from your dad, and I'll be thinking about you all day long. Be strong, Rose! Be brave! People all around the world are sending positive thoughts and good vibes your way.
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Rose, I'm so sorry about Molly. I am keeping your dad in my thoughts and hoping to read good news from you soon.
Take care.
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Rose, I am so sorry to hear about your Molly.
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Rose I to am so sorry about Molly, that was the last thing you wanted while trying to cope with you Dad. I wished I lived nearer to you so I could help out. I do hope things get better for Dad and send love to your Mum. Yvonne
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I'm so sorry Rose. I've been thinking and praying for you!
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I am so sorry for your loss. I don't know how my husband would handle the loss of his beloved dog, Missy. I really do feel your loss! You have enough to deal with these days.
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August 06, 2009, 11:26:10 AM »
Oh Rose! I am so very sorry!
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So sad to hear about your losing Molly (btw that was my grandmother's name), never easy but likely all the harder for you since Molly helped you so much after your husband's death. Sending you love and hugs.
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Your caring thoughts are helping me get through this awful day, it has not improved, we saw the vascular surgeon and he has admitted Dad to hospital for a lower left leg amputation on Monday. We were surprised that he was admitted there and then but took the bed while it was available. Things will be hard for him and Mum when he gets home and there will be a lot of adjusting to do and a lot of things to sort to get the home ready (ramps etc) but we are trying to remain positive. He will be free of this unbearable pain and hopefully free of (or on less) morphine which has been clouding his mind lately with ever increasing doses.
Rerun, I told Mum about the elephant and we've both agreed 'one bite at a time' - I so love that simile.
Thank you all so much for your kindnesses. xxx
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Dear Rose, what an incredibly sad day for you. I am sorry about Molly. Our pets give us so much comfort and love. And your poor Dad, just one thing after another. This sounds so monumental, but with Rerun's advice, I know you and your Mom will take it bite by bite. You are loved by so many here and we worry about your sweet Dad. I hope you can feel our arms around you during the days ahead. Give you Dad a kiss from me.
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Keeping you and your family in my prayers Rose.
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Jenna is our daughter, bad bladder damaged her kidneys.
Was on in-center hemodialysis 2003-2007.
7 yr transplant lost due to rejection.
She did PD Sept. 2013 - July 2017
Found a swap living donor using social media, friends, family.
New kidney in a paired donation swap July 26, 2017.
Her story --->
https://www.facebook.com/WantedKidneyDonor
Please watch her video:
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Rose, there are not words to express how sad I feel for all you are going through. I can hardly imagine how difficult this day had been for you. Sending caring thoughts.
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August 06, 2009, 11:14:00 PM »
I am sending hugs and love all the way from South Africa.....
I hope things look better soon.
Thinking of you.
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It's friday morning and I sit at my laptop with tears pouring down my face because it's so hard waking to find Molly gone, I miss her so. On the positive side my cousin called last night and said he will do all the alterations we need for Dad to have access at home which is a fantastic help, God bless him. The operation is now scheduled for Monday to allow his dialysis to be sorted. We will get there, I have to go I can't see for tears. Your support means so much xxx
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August 07, 2009, 04:15:45 AM »
Rose sweetie I am so sad about Molly. I was just thinking this morning as I didn't want to get out of bed and having my cat snuggled up against me how wonderful and loving our pet companions are, and I dread the day when I will have to say goodbye to her because she is my best friend at times... so I understand your tears and sadness that she is not with you anymore.. All I can offer is the positive thought that she went quickly and peacefully - and I think that is what we would all want - for ourselves and our loved ones. In time, when you are ready, you may wish to find yourself another 4 legged furry friend...
About your Dad.. this is, I guess, what you expected to happen and obviously they are treating it seriously to get it done ASAP. Again looking positively about it (as you clearly are trying to do) that if it ends his current suffering and pain that can only be a good thing. Yes, a lot of adjustments for him and the family absolutely, but it seems this is something that needs to happen for him.
You know you have us and every thought we can muster sending you love and support....
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Home haemo 1980-1985 (self-cannulated with 15 gauge sharps)
Cadaveric transplant 1985
New upper-arm fistula April 2008
Uldall-Cook catheter inserted May 2008
Haemo-dialysis, self care unit June 2008
(2 1/2 hours X 5 weekly)
Self-cannulated, 15 gauge blunts, buttonholes.
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First failed kidney transplant removed Apr. 2009
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August 07, 2009, 07:53:34 AM »
My heart aches for you, Rose. I am sending you a big hug.
I wish I could do more.
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August 07, 2009, 08:48:36 AM »
Rose... I am so so so sorry to hear about your Molly, please know that you and your faily are in my prayers..
Never forget how strong you are Rose, you have all IHD's strenght behind you also
Hugs to your mom and dad
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August 07, 2009, 05:42:21 PM »
For you, for your mum and dad, and for Molly, who will live in your memory.
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Thinking of you, Rose...
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