Ignorant things people have said to you

[Rerun]

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[woodsman]

Neighbor said to me "your no fun any more!!!  nice guy...  then he was run over by his own tractor while unloding it from a trailor, he is fine but his leg is not, i said to him your no fun anymore and walked away!!!!    KARMA

[Rerun]

Neighbor said to me "your no fun any more!!!  nice guy...  then he was run over by his own tractor while unloding it from a trailor, he is fine but his leg is not, i said to him your no fun anymore and walked away!!!!    KARMA

                     

[Dragonette]

"Now that you have a new kidney,do you stilll have to do dialysis?"

"Yes, and that is why I went through all that! I just wanted more surgery, medications and bloodwork. That, and I liked the attention. Oh yeah, and the wonderful hospital food 

[senior-chief]

Neighbor said to me "your no fun any more!!!  nice guy...  then he was run over by his own tractor while unloding it from a trailor, he is fine but his leg is not, i said to him your no fun anymore and walked away!!!!    KARMA

My pet peeve?  Friends tell me how great and how wonderful I look.  Inference:  it can't be "that" bad.

[Des]

I had to arrange an alternative transport to D on Wednesday. An old guy from church picked me up and he was very annoyed that I choze to go to the hospital for dialysis. His friend's brother does it at home and he has no problems whatsoever.
Very patiently I told him that his friends brother is on PD and I am on HD and that I didn't CHOOSE to do anything but are very reluctantly forced to do so, to stay alive.

Why don't they just ask.. but they love to make assumptions on a tit-bit of information they heard somewhere from someone.

[MooseMom]

OK, OK, OK...so I am not the posterlady for "Suffering with Grace" and "CKD Makes Me Happy and Teaches Me How to be a Better Person."  I accept that.  But get this...yesterday I had to go to the bank because I had a CD that had matured, and I wanted to take out a lump sum and put the rest in a new CD.  It so happens that I am getting my basement laundry room refinished because that's where I am going to be setting up the waterworks for NxStage and where I will be storing my supplies, and I don't want it to be the Black Hole that it is now.  So I sit down with the nice bank lady and tell her what I want to do.  She has the audacity to obliquely ask me what I am planning on doing with the lump sum I am taking out (no doubt hoping that I am planning to reinvest it in her bank).  As my next stop was to my neph appt (which, as you know, always makes me go nuts), I was not in the gentlest of moods, so since she asked, I told her.  She looked quite pitiful and gobsmacked, and then do you know what she said?  She said, "Well, you seem like you've accepted what's happened; you sound so happy."    ME!  MOOSEMOM!  Sounding "happy"!??  And then you know what she said???  SHE SAID THE ONE THING THAT IS GUARANTEED TO MAKE ME GO BALLISTIC!! She told me that God doesn't give us more that what we can cope with.  Like God Himself told her that.  I just looked at her and told her that I had seen people crumple under the pressure of all sorts of tragedy (I used to be a volunteer counsellor to parents of autistic/special needs kids, so I know what I'm talking about).  Anyway, I just had to laugh (after I got out of there)...that someone told me that I seem "happy" and "accepting".  She obviously hasn't read my IHD posts.  I thought you all might get a giggle out of this.  And I hope y'all will be proud of my acting skills.  "And the Academy Award goes to...."

[jbeany]

Oooooh, I hate that "God doesn't give us more than we can handle" BS!    How about the number of people who can't handle their lives and commit suicide?   How about what he's given to abused kids?  Shall I ask my friends' 4 adopted children, all siblings from the same mother, all under the age of 8, how they managed to handle what God gave them?  Or maybe all the belt scars on their little backs are answer enough for that!

Okay, off soap box here - but that one makes my teeth grind.   


Oh, and it's 5 kids now - they just adopted the mom's latest newborn, too - but at least "mom" didn't have a chance to hurt or half-starve that one.

[okarol]

Oooooh, I hate that "God doesn't give us more than we can handle" BS!   

It's a dumb saying. Look at the people killed in the holocaust. I'd say they got more than they could handle.

[casper2636]

I would have been ballistic!! And then smacked her to where the sun don't shine

[mogee]

I have a series of ten buttonholes along the length of my fistula.  Because I've been dialysing for years they are slightly dimpled.

I was buying groceries and the cashier noticed the holes in my arm.  She was well tattooed and had several piercings.  She asked me about my buttonholes. It seemed to me that she was interested in them as another form of body modification.  After I explained their purpose she looked a bit disappointed that they weren't ornamental.

[jbeany]

Okay, that's just funny, mogee!  Just think, if you dress punk, no one would notice the fistula anymore!

[MooseMom]

Mogee, that's a really funny story.  I bet that's not the answer she expected!

[needlephobic]

The all time stupid question  Say you had surgery or broke a arm or leg ect ect somebody has to ask DID IT HURT? 

[Bajanne]

I have a series of ten buttonholes along the length of my fistula.  Because I've been dialysing for years they are slightly dimpled.

I was buying groceries and the cashier noticed the holes in my arm.  She was well tattooed and had several piercings.  She asked me about my buttonholes. It seemed to me that she was interested in them as another form of body modification.  After I explained their purpose she looked a bit disappointed that they weren't ornamental.

[Riki]

I have a series of ten buttonholes along the length of my fistula.  Because I've been dialysing for years they are slightly dimpled.

I was buying groceries and the cashier noticed the holes in my arm.  She was well tattooed and had several piercings.  She asked me about my buttonholes. It seemed to me that she was interested in them as another form of body modification.  After I explained their purpose she looked a bit disappointed that they weren't ornamental.

I love that....

[murphy]

we had a visiting nurse for awhile.  He actually said " i'm sure you'd be a very nice person if you weren't so uremic"  I feel sorry for whichever fresinious clinic he went to next.

[Restorer]

we had a visiting nurse for awhile.  He actually said " i'm sure you'd be a very nice person if you weren't so uremic"  I feel sorry for whichever fresinious clinic he went to next.

What you should have said in response: "I'm sure you'd be a very nice person if you weren't so much of an asshole."   

[MooseMom]

we had a visiting nurse for awhile.  He actually said " i'm sure you'd be a very nice person if you weren't so uremic"  I feel sorry for whichever fresinious clinic he went to next.

This just doesn't even make any sense.

[ChickenLittle56]

uThe worst thing anyone told me was a family member telling me tat I should go into a nursing home. This was when I fist started going to D and having al lot of medical issues.

[sillysar30]

I had my best friends boyfriend say  I look like a heroin addict , yea needless to say I don't hang around him much anymore for fear that i'll deck him, Or that my boyfriend will deck him 

[monrein]

I was 26 when I started D and was teaching French at a university in Nova Scotia, Canada.  A student approached me one day and told me that some students had noticed the "track" marks on my arm and were wondering if I was an addict.  I was actually grateful for this person's honesty and it gave me a chance to talk to my class about dialysis and organ donation.  A few students opted to check me out at home hooked up to the machine ( I ended up tutoring one of them during my first hour on) and quite a few wanted to know how to sign up to become organ donors.
 People often say rubbish because they're horribly uncomfortable...if you were a heroin addict you could go to detox and get off the heroin...getting off D is tricky too...maybe he'd like to donate a kidney so you wouldn't have to needle yourself any more  (fat chance right?).

Then of course you could make him feel really bad by telling him about how damned hard it is to be so young (never easy mind you, no matter our age) and have to go through all you do.   

[sillysar30]

thank you honey, and that selfish prick would never donate a kidney , I really have a strong dislike for him

[MooseMom]

thank you honey, and that selfish prick would never donate a kidney , I really have a strong dislike for him

I'm not surprised you dislike him.  What a moron.  Really...how can a person be so obviously obnoxious?

[Riki]

When talking to someone about dialysis, and they say something stupid like, "you're too young to have to go through something like that" I smile very sweetly and say, "I was 12 when I started." Usually shuts them up.  It's the people who don't believe you could be on dialysis, cuz "that only happens to old people."  It's a problem that I have with a lot of information about coping with kidney disease, it's usually focusing on people 50+.  I'm 32 years old and I've been living with kidney disease for 20 years.