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Auntie V
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« on: March 08, 2009, 02:46:41 PM »
The hospice nurse has confirmed that Mom is now in the active stage of dying. As of yesterday at 2PM she thought that she had less than 48 hours. We are keeping her comfortable with morphine and atavan at this point. My brother and SIL will be staying a couple extra days to be here and support me. I will keep you posted.
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« Reply #1 on: March 08, 2009, 02:51:35 PM »
 :grouphug;  I am praying for all of you.
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Fistulagram 09/2008. In hospital 10/30/08, Bowel Obstruction.
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« Reply #2 on: March 08, 2009, 03:04:01 PM »
Sending prayers your way, for you and
all of your family


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« Reply #3 on: March 08, 2009, 03:10:55 PM »
Not sure what to say other than that I hope she goes peacefully and without pain.
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« Reply #4 on: March 08, 2009, 03:52:39 PM »
May God wrap His loving arms around your family and may His angels gather around your Mother and give her peace.   You will all be in my prayers. 
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« Reply #5 on: March 08, 2009, 06:04:14 PM »
 :grouphug;
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« Reply #6 on: March 08, 2009, 06:05:56 PM »
 :grouphug; my Prayers for a peaceful journey.
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« Reply #7 on: March 08, 2009, 06:51:36 PM »
Praying for you all.  Be strong.  Hold her hand.  I read somewhere that the sense of hearing is the last thing to leave us.  Talk to her, sing to her, pray aloud for her (if you believe in prayer), tell her how much she has meant to you, how much she has done for you, and how much you'll miss her.

My heart is really, really heavy for you at this time.  Know that there are many people thinking of you, your mom, and your family at this time.  We're here if you need to talk.
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« Reply #8 on: March 08, 2009, 07:48:00 PM »
I am so sorry for your family...I will be thinking of your family. Its hard-no matter what else it is.  :'(
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« Reply #9 on: March 08, 2009, 09:41:40 PM »

God bless your mom and your family.  :grouphug;
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« Reply #10 on: March 08, 2009, 09:42:19 PM »
May God take her into his hands.   :grouphug;
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« Reply #11 on: March 09, 2009, 12:07:01 AM »
I hope you can be with her to the end and that it will be peaceful - you have been a wonderful daughter, no mother could ask for more.  :grouphug;
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« Reply #12 on: March 09, 2009, 05:41:10 AM »
My thoughts are with you and your family.
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« Reply #13 on: March 09, 2009, 06:11:35 AM »
prayers-Thoughts & good wishes to all involved.  :cuddle; :grouphug; :cuddle;
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« Reply #14 on: March 09, 2009, 07:11:04 AM »
 :grouphug;  :grouphug;  :grouphug;
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« Reply #15 on: March 09, 2009, 07:38:55 AM »
 Sending love...
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« Reply #16 on: March 09, 2009, 10:30:33 AM »
 :grouphug; will keep your family in my thoughts
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« Reply #17 on: March 09, 2009, 10:59:28 AM »
Keep talking to her.  Read to her.  Just let her know you are there.   God be with you all.
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« Reply #18 on: March 09, 2009, 11:03:05 AM »
 :grouphug; :grouphug; :grouphug; So sorry to hear that.
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« Reply #19 on: March 09, 2009, 01:25:22 PM »
May your Mom pass with no pain, no regrets and the utmost serenity.   :cuddle; :grouphug; :cuddle;
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« Reply #20 on: March 09, 2009, 05:04:17 PM »
Just a little update 6PM Monday

Mom still is hanging on. I do not know how. It seems like she has taken her last breath several times today but always starts breathing again. This long goodbye is really hard but at least I have my brother from Wyoming here. She seems to be resting well so we are just here loving on her and being with her.
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« Reply #21 on: March 09, 2009, 05:06:08 PM »
 :grouphug; God bless you and your Mom.
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« Reply #22 on: March 09, 2009, 05:23:51 PM »
 :grouphug;  :cuddle;
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« Reply #23 on: March 09, 2009, 06:20:54 PM »


We stayed all night with Goofynina - thinking each breath would be her last - I think I even counted between breaths - she was peaceful at the end - that's the best you can hope for.
I know it's hard Auntie V - you've done all you can - she's lucky to have had such a loving daughter.
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Jenna is our daughter, bad bladder damaged her kidneys.
Was on in-center hemodialysis 2003-2007.
7 yr transplant lost due to rejection.
She did PD Sept. 2013 - July 2017
Found a swap living donor using social media, friends, family.
New kidney in a paired donation swap July 26, 2017.
Her story ---> https://www.facebook.com/WantedKidneyDonor
Please watch her video: http://youtu.be/D9ZuVJ_s80Y
Living Donors Rock! http://www.livingdonorsonline.org -
News video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J-7KvgQDWpU
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« Reply #24 on: March 09, 2009, 06:35:25 PM »
Tell her it is okay to go home.  Maybe she needs to hear that.  I hope she is comfortable and in peace soon.
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