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« Reply #25 on: March 09, 2009, 07:07:04 PM »
Quote from: Auntie V on March 09, 2009, 05:04:17 PM
Just a little update 6PM Monday

Mom still is hanging on. I do not know how. It seems like she has taken her last breath several times today but always starts breathing again. This long goodbye is really hard but at least I have my brother from Wyoming here. She seems to be resting well so we are just here loving on her and being with her.

You are doing all the right things. Just being there has to be a big comfort for your mom. I remember when my mom passed on I thought she had died at one point. I had agreed to remove her oxygen as quick as possible because she didn't want the indentations on her face. So I thought she had taken her last breath and I removed the oxygen and all of a sudden she breathed in and out, I was so embarrassed, but you know she would have laughed about it in life, but I felt so bad. It's the hardest thing to do just waiting so my prayers are with you and your family in these last hours.  :grouphug;  :grouphug;  Thank you for checking in with us through this difficult time.
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« Reply #26 on: March 10, 2009, 12:21:59 PM »
Mom joined Dad this morning at 2:50. It was very peaceful and she was with the ones that loved her. I know that she is in a better place and there will be nor more pain. Thank you all for your support and prayers. Having your support has helped me through this very difficult time. Now I am just going to give myself a couple days to rest up. I will keep in touch with my new friends here though.
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« Reply #27 on: March 10, 2009, 12:35:06 PM »
Hi Vicky...

I'm new to IHD...

I've been following your story about your mum... I am caring for my mum who's in ESRF too, so your journey has had a certain resonance for me... My turn to travel that road has yet to come...

May your dear mum rest in peace... As we say in Ireland, May God be good to her...

Please know that my thoughts are with you, and my prayers are for you and your family...

In your time of sorrow...

May God bless and protect you...
May you see God's light on the path ahead
When the road you walk is dark.
May you always hear,
Even in your hour of sorrow,
The gentle singing of the lark.
When times are hard may hardness
Never turn your heart to stone,
May you always remember
when the shadows fall—
You do not walk alone.


Love and hugs...

Carolyn/Darthvadar...
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Cared for my late mum, Elsie who had Kidney Failure... Darling mum died on July 15th 2014... May her gentle soul rest in peace....
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« Reply #28 on: March 10, 2009, 12:36:08 PM »
Godbless you Aunti V.

Your mom is now an Angel back with her husband.  A sad yet happy day.
Thank you for being so strong and agreeeing with your mothers wishes.  It must have been very hard for you as i know it would have been for me.

BIG  :grouphug; to you and yours.
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« Reply #29 on: March 10, 2009, 12:53:44 PM »
 :grouphug; Godspeed mother.
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« Reply #30 on: March 10, 2009, 01:06:16 PM »
Your mother is safe now with no pain. God bless her and your loving family.
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« Reply #31 on: March 10, 2009, 01:13:42 PM »
 :grouphug; Auntie V. You are in my thoughts and prayers.  :cuddle;
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« Reply #32 on: March 10, 2009, 01:55:22 PM »
Your in my thoughts- I am sorry for your loss- I hope you have found some sense of peace.  :'(  :grouphug;
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« Reply #33 on: March 10, 2009, 03:16:15 PM »
She is on the otherside and we will meet again.

         God Bless~                                     :grouphug;
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« Reply #34 on: March 10, 2009, 03:20:07 PM »
I hope that YOU have found a sense of peace also Auntie V.  I found it very inspirational, the way in which you respected your Mom's wishes and helped her through this last phase in her life here on earth.   :grouphug; :cuddle;
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« Reply #35 on: March 10, 2009, 03:34:48 PM »
God Bless you Mom and all your family for being there for Mom.    :grouphug;
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« Reply #36 on: March 10, 2009, 05:09:20 PM »
This is a lesson in love and dignity.  May your mother rest in peace.  :grouphug;
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« Reply #37 on: March 10, 2009, 05:15:33 PM »
Rest peacefully your work here on earth is finished. Go now and reap your rewards for being a faithful servant.
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« Reply #38 on: March 10, 2009, 05:20:58 PM »
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« Reply #39 on: March 10, 2009, 06:01:39 PM »
Just knowing you were with her in those last days here will be special to you for all time.  God bless you and your family.  :grouphug;
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« Reply #40 on: March 10, 2009, 06:20:12 PM »
 :grouphug;  I'm without words.  It's so hard losing a Mother.  God Bless.
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« Reply #41 on: March 10, 2009, 06:52:01 PM »
Vicky, I watched my own mother die while under hospice care. It's not an easything to do. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

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« Reply #42 on: March 10, 2009, 07:32:39 PM »
Thinking of you and all of your family in this most difficult time...
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« Reply #43 on: March 11, 2009, 12:06:46 AM »
Sending love and prayers your way. You have been the best daughter right until the end.  Now take care of yourself and come here often  :grouphug; May your Mum rest in peace with your Dad now.
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« Reply #44 on: March 11, 2009, 01:31:03 AM »
I am so thankful for the time you have had with her since she made her decision.  This is indeed leaving with grace, dignity, and surrounded by love.  Please know that we are with you in spirit as you deal with your loss.
We are expecting you back at IHD.  You have lots to offer those going through a similar experience.
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« Reply #45 on: March 11, 2009, 08:15:12 AM »
 :grouphug; :grouphug; :grouphug;
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« Reply #46 on: March 12, 2009, 12:18:23 AM »
 :grouphug; :grouphug; I am so sorry for your loss, Yvonne
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« Reply #47 on: March 12, 2009, 01:11:57 PM »
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« Reply #48 on: March 13, 2009, 11:05:09 AM »
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« Reply #49 on: March 13, 2009, 12:37:49 PM »
You were such a blessing to your Mother.  Thank you for sharing this part of her life with us.    :grouphug;
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