I miss Dan.

[Hanify]

I know he bit people's heads off a few too many times, and I'm sorry for those people who were on the ass end (wee pun) of him overreacting to their criticism, but I miss his humour.  Who can I be rude to now???

[okarol]

Just for the record... It's his choice not to participate here. He was not banned. I am sorry he doesn't choose to stay involved.

[Jean]

I miss him too. He was just a funny, old fashioned kind of guy. Hope he comes back.

[Rerun]

I hope they all come back.

                             

[Hanify]

Just for the record... It's his choice not to participate here. He was not banned. I am sorry he doesn't choose to stay involved.

That's right Okarol - I realised after I'd posted I should have mentioned that.  Still.

[Des]

He hurt a lot of people by speaking his mind. (even me, that is why I changed my signature)
We are fragile creatures and reading some of his posts taught me to re-read my posts to make sure I don't affend anybody.

Lesson: you must be able to take what you dish out.....

I will try to remember this valuable lesson myself in everyday life.

This post was just what was in my head and it is NOT the beginning of a fight or judging anybody or anything.....

[twirl]

what do you mean you changed your signature?
I email Dan so we still "talk" several times a day -- I miss him too and I miss Flip Bob --

[del]

I miss him too but it is his own choice not to be here.  On a forum like this you have to respect everybody's opinion.  I figure the world would be pretty boring if we all agreed on things. You can disagree without hurting other people's feelings.  The world would be a lot nicer place to live if we could all do that all of the time!!! 

[pelagia]

Live and learn is a good motto when it comes to a public forum like this.  Could there be any other place, real or virtual, where you could be interacting with so many people from so many different walks of life?

I can't be here as much as I was in the past, but when I am here I sure do miss seeing the posts of those who helped me through difficult times with their humor, wisdom, concern, or even their irreverence -  Flip, Stauff, AnnaBanana, Boxman, Sluff, Cindy, David13, Rose and others.

I GREATLY appreciate my IHD friends.  There is so much to be learned here at IHD about kidney disease and about life. 

[willowtreewren]

I miss Dan.

Communication in the electronic forum is always fraught with the possibility of misinterpretation. I think even more so than many other kinds of communication since it seems that it should be fast and easy.

With approaching it as a quick communication mode, we tend to only "hear" our internal voice and not take the time to listen to how our words may be interpreted. What seems perfectly reasonable and even polite to us may come off as unreasonable and even downright rude to others.

Add to the mix that this is an international forum with folks from many very different cultures and the possibility of offending others is even greater.

I wish we could all take a little more time to think about how we sound AND take less offense from posts of others. After all, communication is a two way street with responsibility for clear communication resting on the sender and receiver.

Just my 

Aleta

[RichardMEL]

Well it's Dan's choice and maybe he'll come back when he's calmed down from whatever he's upset about now. Seems like we've lost Lucinda forever but again that's her choice. It's sad, but these things happen in life.

Unfortunately you won't be able to get rid of me so easily!!! 

[del]

Me either!!!  I have a tough skin!!!

[cariad]

I also miss his humor, Hanify, but I did not relish interacting with him, and that's a huge problem on a support group. I think Des nailed it - you cannot dish for your own amusement, then complain when it is turned back on you. Naturally, we all get fed up and ticked off at times, but taking it out on other people here through passive aggression and sly insults toward other members really puts me off. I cannot be the only one who saw his leaving as inevitable.
 
It would be wonderful to have him back, minus the vitriolic posts and PMs to others. And to clarify, I never felt personally attacked by him.

[MIbarra]

I miss his thoughts too. Especially in the "What's for Supper?" But if it his choice to stay away, maybe that is the "healthiest" choice he can make for himself right now.

And I'm with Richard... You all won't get rid of me that easily either, because I don't feel you should let one opinion or one PM of one person get in your way of your communicating with others. I love talking to people here on IHD and hearing about their similar or not so similar experiences. There's a lot to learn and share here by everyone so I'm staying!

As I overheard one of my 2nd graders say the other day trying to console a crying one.. "You can't be so sensitive.. You're in second grade, dude. Who cares what he said?"

[Mizar]

I have to agree with, Cariad.  Anyone, who, comes to this Site, is Hurting, either, Physically or Emotionally, or they are dealing with Someone who is. Being Nice to Others, is not a Character Flaw, it's just being, Nice.

[monrein]

Well I feel silly!  I'm here all the time but seem to have missed the fact that he left.  I always feel badly when people leave in this way but sometimes they come back and I hope he does.

[kellyt]

I enjoyed chatting with Dan in the chat room and although he's never offended me personally, I feel for the ones here who feel they have been disrespected or attacked.  Communicating with strangers on the computer really is difficult because we can't see facial expression, body language, etc.

I hope he pops in every now and then and maybe decide to return.  And if anyone left because of him, I hope they come back too!

 

[rose1999]

I can't be here as much as I was in the past, but when I am here I sure do miss seeing the posts of those who helped me through difficult times with their humor, wisdom, concern, or even their irreverence -  Flip, Stauff, AnnaBanana, Boxman, Sluff, Cindy, David13, Rose and others.

I'm still around, just hurting badly from my losses so being a bit quiet, but I still think of you all every day.  I'll be back to form soon. 

[Zach]

There's a Root Beer float in the chat room with your name on it Dan!

 

[Des]

what do you mean you changed your signature?
I email Dan so we still "talk" several times a day -- I miss him too and I miss Flip Bob --

signature is the "stuff" you write at the bottom of each post

[willowtreewren]

I have to agree with, Cariad.  Anyone, who, comes to this Site, is Hurting, either, Physically or Emotionally, or they are dealing with Someone who is. Being Nice to Others, is not a Character Flaw, it's just being, Nice.

Communicating with strangers on the computer really is difficult because we can't see facial expression, body language, etc.

My thoughts, too. And I would venture a strong suspicion that Dan is among those hurting, too. He posted about his struggle with clinical depression. I thought I could tell by his posts when he was struggling the most.

Aleta

[pelagia]

I can't be here as much as I was in the past, but when I am here I sure do miss seeing the posts of those who helped me through difficult times with their humor, wisdom, concern, or even their irreverence -  Flip, Stauff, AnnaBanana, Boxman, Sluff, Cindy, David13, Rose and others.

I'm still around, just hurting badly from my losses so being a bit quiet, but I still think of you all every day.  I'll be back to form soon. 

[kitkatz]

I think that as members of a support group we have to remember everyone is in a different stage of the disease and treatment. We all are looking for different things when we come here.  We as support members need to remember to meet that person where they are and remember we may be in a different place physically. mentally and emotionally.

[paddbear0000]

Dan and Lucinda both left??!! Why? I disappear for a "depression break" and this happens! Crap, that makes me very sad.

[Hanify]

I thought Lucinda had changed her mind, and was going to stay around.  Dan has left because he feels that he is misinterpreted constantly here.  He really doesn't mean to put anyone's back up, and is unsure why he does.  So he's decided it's better for all if he stays away.  He speaks as honestly here as he does in real life, and doesn't have a problem in real life, so there you go.  I think in real life at a party or something, you would easily say to someone that they were being silly, or an idiot or something, or if you were talking about politics say, you would say 'oh rubbish - such and such is an idiot' and noone would care.  But online, those kind of comments come out differently somehow.  Does any of this make sense?