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Danally
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« on: December 12, 2008, 05:13:15 PM »
My dad passed away at the beginning of the week. His heart became to weak from all of the fluid over load. The dialysis center he went to told us that he was not complaint. I begged him to follow the dialysis diet and to limit his fluids. He told me I am doing fine. I knew he was not doing fine. I am so angry that he did not listen to his doctors. I guess he lived the way he wanted to live. The doctors said if he followed the diet and limited his fluids he could live a good life. I tried talking to him and yelling at him but nothing worked. My mom is now blaming herself. I wanted to wish all of you good luck and please follow the doctors directions, so you can live a long life.
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« Reply #1 on: December 12, 2008, 05:37:41 PM »
So sorry for your loss Danally.  :grouphug;
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« Reply #2 on: December 12, 2008, 05:39:58 PM »


Sending hugs Danally.   :grouphug; :grouphug;  I know how hard it is loosing your Dad. xoxox
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« Reply #3 on: December 12, 2008, 05:41:26 PM »
i am sorry for your loss  :grouphug;  anger is a natural reaction, and one we all here understand. hopefully your mother won't continue to blame herself, she had no control over how your father reacted to his kidney disease.  :grouphug; :grouphug;
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« Reply #4 on: December 12, 2008, 05:43:13 PM »
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« Reply #5 on: December 12, 2008, 06:35:53 PM »
Hugs  :grouphug; :grouphug; and prayers for you and your family.
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« Reply #6 on: December 12, 2008, 06:40:30 PM »
So sorry to hear of your loss.   :grouphug;
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« Reply #7 on: December 12, 2008, 07:00:13 PM »

   So sorry for your loss.  :grouphug;

                   
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« Reply #8 on: December 12, 2008, 07:08:06 PM »
I am sorry about your Dad.  Please tell your Mom not to blame herself.  It is not her fault.  Sending love and sympathy to you and your family   :grouphug;
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« Reply #9 on: December 12, 2008, 08:26:49 PM »
I'm sorry for your loss.  I'm just curious, what did he gain between runs.  Over 3 kilos?
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« Reply #10 on: December 12, 2008, 08:31:48 PM »
I'm very sorry for your loss.   :cuddle;
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« Reply #11 on: December 12, 2008, 08:38:34 PM »
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« Reply #12 on: December 12, 2008, 08:53:41 PM »
Sorry for your loss. I too know what its like to lose your dad to dialysis. Take care of yourself. 
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« Reply #13 on: December 12, 2008, 09:51:01 PM »
I am so so so so very sorry....I feel the pain you feel as too I know because my dad is very very sick. The difference is that he is following direction only to just get worse and worse everyday. Im sorry you lost your dad!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  I think you can follow all the direction you want but we have no control over what the next day brings sometimes its beyond our control.  Its a normal reaction to have guilt my mom has guilt too and its not there fault they can only do what our dads will let happen..

We have a double edge sword, my dad had a liver transplant 12 years ago and now the meds from that has given him kidney failure now and if thats not enough the Hepatitis C that caused the liver transplant is active and damaging the liver.  Its such a hard thing to go through when it is your dad I think often right now what I will do if I lose him because we sure can and I would be devastated it would literrally kill me. 

Take each day as it comes that is the only thing we can do nothing is going to make you feel better but time and only time brings less tears everyday, because when you loose someone you love it is the biggest hurt that someone can go through and there is nothing anyone can say or do to take it away.  My prayers are with you and your family and may god be with you at a time when you need him the most....
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Cirrohsis at 32 from Hepatitis C,,,,50 Liver Failure from Hep C, 52 Liver Transplant, 2000 Lymphoma from Anti Rejection Meds treated and has been fine. 
Present:  Kidney failure from Meds for the liver transplant
Hepatitis C is very very active which is damaging the liver they are worried that he may need a liver transplant to, but until he is strong enough to get the liver biopsy.  And now he is hit with blood infection that he caught in the hospital ( i feel from nurses being not gentle enough with him)....
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« Reply #14 on: December 12, 2008, 10:34:03 PM »
My condolences to you and your family  :grouphug;
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« Reply #15 on: December 12, 2008, 11:03:16 PM »
You have my sympathy.  I lost my Dad 43 years ago and I still miss him.  You and your family will be in my prayers.

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« Reply #16 on: December 12, 2008, 11:27:00 PM »
I am so sorry for your loss.  Try not to blame anyone, your Dad lived his life as he wished and no one was to blame for that, sometimes choice is all we have left.  Like Roxanne, my Dad too lives 'by the rules' but he is slowly getting worse, maybe it is better to live the (shorter) life you enjoy than this. But I know that won't make the pain you feel go away, you and your Mum will be in my thoughts.  :grouphug;
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« Reply #17 on: December 13, 2008, 01:04:56 AM »
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« Reply #18 on: December 13, 2008, 01:29:01 AM »
I am so sorry to hear that, Danally.  My prayers are with you and your family.  Take care of yourself and hug your mother.
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« Reply #19 on: December 13, 2008, 01:31:42 PM »
My deepest condolences on the loss of your Father.  :(
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« Reply #20 on: December 13, 2008, 01:33:30 PM »
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« Reply #21 on: December 13, 2008, 02:46:00 PM »
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« Reply #22 on: December 13, 2008, 02:55:43 PM »
 :grouphug; I'm so sorry.  :cuddle;
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« Reply #23 on: December 13, 2008, 03:06:13 PM »
Oh dear  :cuddle;
My sincere condolences to you and your family :grouphug;
Your Dad lived his life as he wanted and your Mum and you shouldn't blame yourselves.
It is hard loving and caring for a loved one who makes decisions that you may not agree with - but we need to respect their decisions
Just remember all the great times and memories

Lots of love at this very sad time
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« Reply #24 on: December 13, 2008, 11:02:41 PM »
Danally,
when someone you love died, it is also like dying a little. It is hard.
Godspeed for your Dad, and prayers for your Mom and family on this very difficult time. :grouphug; :grouphug; :grouphug;
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