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Dialysis Discussion => Dialysis: Spouses and Caregivers => Topic started by: Poppylicious on April 18, 2012, 11:42:27 AM
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Today is the six-month anniversary of Blokey becoming the proud daddy of my left kidney. He's spending it in hospital with a creatinine of about 1000 (11.3 in AmeriSpeak).
It's his own stupid fault; he's been poorly since last Thursday but despite my constant nagging he refused to see/contact anyone. Then he obviously became worried enough to email the hospital and the transplant coordinator phoned him and told him to come to the hospital. He went this morning; a scan of Our Kidney suggested it looked okay, but his bloods were all over the place and his creatinine had rocketed to stupid levels. So he came home, grabbed some stuff and went back again. Tonight they're hoping to get everything back under control with whatever magic they have up their sleeves, and if not he may have to have a biopsy tomorrow.
*sad face*
I think he's probably incredibily dehydrated (he's had the squits and not been eating) so hopefully they're filling him with fluid.
In the meantime, I'm stuck here alone with Dora-cat because Mog-cat went missing on Sunday. I feel completely overwhelmed, both with the fact that Blokey's risked losing Our Kidney (because he's a man and of course it will be okay) and with the knowledge that Mog is almost probably definitely dead (even the cat-stealing neighbours haven't seen him) but I'll never really know for sure.
Tonight I will probably cry myself to sleep. I feel very empty. Please send me *huggles*.
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:cuddle; :cuddle; :cuddle; So sorry, but keeping good thoughts for you all. :grouphug;
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Oh Poppy, your Blokey deserves a spanking (NOT the fun kind) for not taking care of Y'all's Kidney. Please try not to panic just yet. I'm sure the good hospital people will have Blokey up and running very soon. And I hope that he has learned His Lesson!
*huggles*
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I'm so sorry to hear all this! Hold on to some hope that your kitty is wandering home right now. I've heard strange missing animal stories that ended well! And yes, Blokey should get a big time scolding from the medical staff. Unfortunately, in my experience, scolding from the significant other doesn't always take - even though it feels really good! Hang in there!
*hugs*
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Yikes, that is a crazy-high creatinine, but I think you're on the right track with dehydration. So sorry. I do have much hope that the hospital can turn this around for him.
Don't isolate yourself, Poppy. Surely galvo's available to thrash at Scrabble? Just remember your American friends are awake all through the British night so there's no reason to be sad alone. :grouphug;
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Sending you "huggles", Poppy. Also, prayers and good wishes...
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:cuddle; Sorry to hear of Blokeys problems. The Docs should be able to get him back on track in no time. Mog-cat is probably out "catting" and will return soon. I had a rottweiler who was gone for over a month before he came back home. I think he was as glad to see us as we were him. That was the last time he ever took off. I'll bet he lost 20lbs. Praying for Blokey, you and mog-cat, Bill
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:cuddle;
Hopefully, Blokey will learn a good lesson, but not a hard one from this. Any time spent in the hospital is punishment enough.
I had an indoor kitty who sneaked out and wandered off for two weeks. Came back sleek, fat, and quite pleased with himself, especially when I realized it was him yowling at the door and let him back in. Guess he didn't like the neighbor's house as well as he liked mine.
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I hope things look up for you all soon!
Men are so stubborn sometimes!!! when he gets better, give him a nice little 'love tap' on the backside!!!
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How has his day been? And yours? I hope things get better for everyone, including Mog-cat. Yes, men are stubborn - mine never listens. Hope you get some good rest. :cuddle; :cuddle;
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Oh Poppy, "huggles". Thinking of you and Blokey!
And on the cat front, our crazy cat, Hairy It, has gone missing for weeks and then just showed up meowing on the porch. Let's hope!
:flower; :flower; :flower;
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*huggles*
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Oh, Poppy,
"Huggles" and more "huggles."
:grouphug; :cuddle; :grouphug; :cuddle; :cuddle; :grouphug; :cuddle; :grouphug;
And hoping that the Mog-cat is just out prowling.
but just to cover that..... more huggles.
:'(
Aleta
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Sorry you two are going through this. I hope they get it under control fast. :cuddle;
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I am sorry your man is being so stubborn and i know how hard it is to watch someone be so darn stubborn-they wont even admit they are stubborn!! :grouphug;
And I am so sorry about your cat, I hope she finds her way home.
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Oh Poppy - I'm sending you mucho cuddles and huggles and as much as I can get away with to a lovely married lady without getting in trouble.
My heart goes out to you because in both instances everything's out of your control - you've done all you can to find mog-cat (and your dora-cat must be missing her mate!) and of course Blokey.
I don't get this "I'm a man it will be ok" kind of thing - if it's a macho or pride thing I don't know. Maybe I'm not manly enough!!! I just don't subscribe to that point of view. It's like I said to KarenInWA the day she had emergency surgery on her kidney - it's WAY better to query a concern even ifyou feel it might be nothing than to DO nothing. If you come out of it feeling like you worried about nothibng then no harm done and your mind is set at ease for knowing you've been checked BUT if it *is* something, as it has been for both KarenInWA and Blokey then it's way best to get onto it ASAP rather than hope it will go away/get better - specially with such a beautiful and precious gift that we know are frigle and prone to all kinds of things.
Hopefully though if it IS dehydration this is a case of acute "failure" (I don't want to use that term but I don't know what else) and can easily be recovered... doesn't help how you feel - alone and helpless.
I so hope that come the morning, through the day etc that both Blokey responds to fluids etc AND that you have a furry surprise in the form of an unexpected return. Maybe mog-cat was sensing the problems with Blokey and your stress and perhaps she ran off and is hiding under the house or something. You never know.
my heart goes out both as a kidney lover and a kitty lover... for best news on all counts.
:cuddle; :grouphug; :cuddle; :grouphug; :cuddle; :grouphug; :cuddle; :grouphug;
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Pops, I feels for ya. :cuddle;
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Awwww, Poppy, so sorry all this crap is landing on you right now. So hope your kitty returns, and your blokeys common sense too.
Huggles
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What they said. :grouphug; :grouphug; :grouphug;
Come home kitty. I've called and called for my cat akbah sometimes when he was off on a mission, barstard-cat that he is.
As for silly blokes who say it'll be okay there's nothing wrong there's no need to go to a doctor.... well I have one of them too. They do your head in. :banghead;
Hoping very hard that when you get time to get back to us, there's some number lower than 1000 to report. Ay-yah, 1000! No way.
>:( :'( :( :o
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Oh wow, now I remember why I love this place ... I felt really bad asking for *huggles* and I've been gifted far too many from you lovely people. I popped on before I went to bed last night and the responses thus far (up to cariad at that point) made me burst into tears. Bless little Dora, I think the violence of my crying scared her a tad!
Thank you for all your support, from the bottom of my heart.
Blokey was on a 5 hour drip last night and has had VERY expensive medication this morning (thank goodness for the NHS!!) and is now flat on his back following a biopsy. His texts sound cheery which is a very Good Thing because when he feels pessimistic at the hospital it really shows in his texts; he's not good at hiding how he's feeling. I don't know how long biopsy results take, and he hasn't said if his creatinine has gone down yet.
I don't get this "I'm a man it will be ok" kind of thing - if it's a macho or pride thing I don't know. Maybe I'm not manly enough!!! I just don't subscribe to that point of view. It's like I said to KarenInWA the day she had emergency surgery on her kidney - it's WAY better to query a concern even ifyou feel it might be nothing than to DO nothing. If you come out of it feeling like you worried about nothibng then no harm done and your mind is set at ease for knowing you've been checked BUT if it *is* something, as it has been for both KarenInWA and Blokey then it's way best to get onto it ASAP rather than hope it will go away/get better - specially with such a beautiful and precious gift that we know are frigle and prone to all kinds of things.
I know!! I think the only reason he eventually emailed (not phoned!) the hospital was because I said something about how I would be really unhappy if something happened to Our Kidney given that I'd gone through copious amounts of pain in order for him to have it! I don't ever want to say something like that to him again, because it's mean and makes me feel bad and sad. I think next time he becomes even a little bit ill I'll be contacting the doctor/hospital on his behalf. I wish I'd just done that in the first place but he was so insistent.
As for Mog ... still no sign of the rascal. I've put some ads in shops windows, spoken to lots of people and whilst walking round the neighbourhood I called for him. I've also contacted the local vets, the local RSPCA and even the environmental department of the district council (who collect deceased domestic animals from the roadside). I've done all I can so now I'm just hoping that he'll turn up, whilst being pretty positive that I'll never see him again. Everytime I look out of the window I expect to see him trotting along as if life is normal, but it's been four nights now, so ...
Thanks again for the *huggles* I appreciate them - and the support - more than you can imagine.
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Poppy, so sorry to hear your Blokey is in hospital; So it wasn't your cooking then. Don't you worry they will sort him out, men!!!!!!!!!! I have one like this also. He can not get his breath and he is going to wait till next Thursday when the nurse comes, he might be frigging dead by then, I keep threatening to call the neph but he will not hear of it. I some times lose my patience and let him get on with it. Any way I hope all goes well to-day. You take it easy and when that cat does come home, kick its butt. :Kit n Stik; Does the cat take after Blokey?
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Aw Poppy...sorry to be late with the huggles :cuddle; :cuddle; :cuddle; :cuddle; :cuddle; but maybe you can use a few more today. If not, store them up for use later 'cause they don't expire. And I also would like to kick Blokey a few times (being married to a similar "manly" man myself).... :Kit n Stik;
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another late huggler but sending some for today then :) Hope to hear some good stuff soon and hope you are doing a bit better and he's doing GREAT too!! :grouphug; :grouphug; huby calling me or there would be more :grouphug; hehe
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more huggles, and kisses from me, and hubby,
lots, and lots, and lots of love, and strength
Cas
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Just a quick update, lovelies ... Spoke to Blokey on the phone. His creatinine was 940 (10.6) this morning. Not much of an improvement, but definitely going in the right direction! He's been on a drip all day (not sure what the five hour one yesterday was; some kind of meds mixed in perhaps?), has been peeing more and has been producing more solid poo (sorry, tmi), plus he's been eating. And drinking, obviously. If this hasn't helped his creatinine go down in tomorrow's bloods then goodness knows what's going on.
They took three bits/slivers/whatever of kidney and weren't happy with any of them (too fatty apparently; that's my kidney!!) but are going to work on what they've got with a view to doing another biopsy tomorrow. Please keep your fingers crossed that creatinine has dropped enough for them to realise another biopsy will be pointless.
We were supposed to be going out on Saturday to a comedy show, our first proper night out in yonks, but are giving the tickets to friends. He'll be out by then (I remain positive of this) but it's easier to sort out alternative arrangements that be left with two wasted tickets. I honestly thought that a transplant would put paid to having to worry about cancelling plans, but it doesn't. *sigh*
I keep hearing Mog meowing loudly outside the window but when I go to it he isn't there, nor does he come when I open the door and call him. The stupid cat is breaking my heart!
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Oh, Pops..... more *huggles* :grouphug;
Yes, please, please let's keep that trend going. Oh, MEN!!!!! Grrr.
And don't give up hope on the Mog-cat. :pray;
Another round of *huggles* to you.
And when you get a chance, hit that Blokey up the side of the head..... so maybe next time he will listen up!
:grouphug; :grouphug;
Aleta
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Dropped in to see how you are going. 940, its not much to write home about is it, and yet its an improvement, so, good. Come on kidney. If you know what's good for you... Meanwhile is it Mog out there in the garden, or are you hallucinating? By your description I couldn't be sure if it wasn't some kind of Wuthering Heights moment. Come home Mog! Dammit!! I wonder if Mog won't come home till the kidney is safely home too? Sometimes animals are odd like that.
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just saw this, i've been in hiding lately. hope all is going better huggles. you are loved. :cuddle;
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Poppy are you suggesting that you're hearing Mog for real or perhaps in your mind?
As for the slow decline in the creat - this is positive. It's the right direction. With KarenInWA's recent experiences with kidney trauma her creat has been quite slow to come down, but comign down it is - I would be encouraged by this drop - we all want it to be much more of course, but if the trend is down that is what is important - also another key is if his other labs are getting back into line, like the K and phos - if those are getting more normal that's a great sign.
c'mon Mog be a sweetheart and come back from your adventure - mum needs you!
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Meanwhile is it Mog out there in the garden, or are you hallucinating? By your description I couldn't be sure if it wasn't some kind of Wuthering Heights moment.
Poppy are you suggesting that you're hearing Mog for real or perhaps in your mind?
It's all in my head! I don't like being alone at home because I hear things (both real and imagined!) (Or, he's meowing somewhere far away and I can hear him because I'm his Mummy; weirder things have happened in the world!) Last night I heard scrabbling at an inside door and just assumed it was Dora but when I went to investigate she was fast asleep on the settee. I've checked all round the house; he's definitely not indoors!
Richard, I've been concentrating so much on the creatinine that I haven't even found out about his other levels. Stupid me. He thinks he'll be in till Monday at least now. A whole weekend of Hospital food ... mmmm, yummy!! He's supposed to be peeing into a measuring jug (well, not quite but you know what I mean) but he keeps forgetting so they probably think he's lying when he says he's been peeing more than what they're seeing. He's a plonker sometimes.
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Ow dear Poppy, everything is crossed, asked my Dad for prayers. If he keeps drinking, and eating his creat should be down. Can't say anything else.... Is there no-one you can call to come and be with you?
I'll be thinking of you
lots, and lots of love Cas
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Some more "huggles" for you!! :cuddle; :cuddle; :cuddle; :cuddle; :cuddle; :cuddle;
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Poppy , I hope Blokey continues to improve . I thought I was the only one that had one like this ! Is it possible that the cat could be stuck somewhere - under the house or in a shed or similar ? One of my cats is 16 years old and behaves very strangely when Laurie is in hospital . Hope you find him . thinking of you and wishing you both well .
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AAAaaahhhh Poppy I've only just seen this!
Massive *huggles* to you and keeping fingers crossed over the weekend thats his levels go back down :grouphug;
Also hoping Mog reappear v soon x x x
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Big huggles and lots of them! :grouphug; :grouphug; :grouphug; :grouping;
I have said prayers for your Blokey and poor Mog-cat :'(. I have cried many a night over a lost kitty. One of my cats (when I was a kid) used to always get out, sometimes she'd be gone for days, even a week or so. Sometimes they get brought in by good Samaritans and don't "escape" for a while.
Are you sure Mog-cat is outside and not trapped somewhere in the house? My cat got into the ducts once, and another got above the bar in our basement, above the ceiling tiles. This cat would get under the stairs, too, and cry and cry (only kitties and once can fit under the stairs). At first couldn't figure out where she was. She wasn't really stuck, though, just stupid! We were babysitting her, and she liked to explore.. Sometimes they get behind walls when you have drywall work, and they are notoriously stubborn about coming home if they do get out, sometimes they stare and cry at you, then run away when you approach! So frustrating! Did you open a seldomly-used storage space or something? I wish I could help you look, but it's a long trip from Michigan!
I hope Blokey's kidney gets back into shape quickly. I understand that you think it was a low blow to point out that you went through a lot to give it to him, but it was necessary to say. He wasn't listening to anything else! What could you do? My husband has been saying that once his kidney is inside of me, I will be his slave forever bwahahaha...
...it is the ultimate trump card. Hopefully Someone else matches up better!. I know I'd be in big trouble if I put off calling the hospital.
What caused this trouble, was it a stomach bug that got out of hand, or did a rejection event make him sick? You poor things, saying prayers for you, and I hope that all is right very soon!
:pray; :bestwishes; :pray;
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Dropping in to see how you are and provide more huggles :grouphug; :grouphug; :grouphug;
I love MomoMcSleepy's comments, they are spot on about everything.
Including the loss of a small kitten. I have lost track of whether Mog is kitten sized. When we lived in houses with louvre windows and had kittens, they used to sleep on the louvres, a lovely breezy place for a kitten in the tropics. But they grow so fast, little cat-things, and quickly acquired enough weight to CLOSE THE LOUVRE if they lounged too far as they snoozed. They would then slide down between the closed windows and the flyscreen, till they were lying on their backs at the bottom of the window space. We'd come home to find bleating cats stuck behind closed louvre windows, sometimes hard to extract.
Maybe telling kitten stories isn't such a good idea, my cats make me cry more than my husband, when they are sick or lost, I just can't cope.
:( :( :grouphug; :grouphug; :pray; :pray;
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Went to Hospital today. Blokey's creatinine was down to just over 300 this morning (3.4 in AmeriSpeak) ... Huzzah! A MASSIVE improvement on Wednesday's 1000, I'm sure you'll all agree. I think the general consensus is dehydration. I'm thrilled that MY kidney is so good at getting itself back on track! All other levels are seemingly fine too. They're monitoring fluid intake and output still, but he came off the drip this morning. Now we just need the creatinine to reduce more and become normal (in Blokey's case normal appears to be about 150) and that should be this little adventure behind us. I suspect it all began because of a little bug.
Nasty little bug :Kit n Stik;.
Apparently Dr. (Yummy) Neph. said that when he saw Blokey's blood results on Wednesday he was completely convinced they were looking at a huge rejection episode, but there were/are no (other) signs of rejection whatsoever.
:2thumbsup;
As for Mog ... still no sign. There is absolutely nowhere he could be in the house, or under it. Somebody has suggested that I need to go out at about 4am and walk round the neighbourhood calling for him. It makes sense ... no daytime noise, plus noise travels better at night so he might hear me and I might hear him if he is trapped in a garage or shed. I must remember to set my alarm and hope that I don't wake anybody up with my Mog calling baby voice!
Thanks for your continued love, hugs and support.
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Glad to hear blokey is better. Sorry still no moggy. One miracle at a time, I guess.
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300. Thank god! That's more like it.
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Good about hubby, and good idea about Mog. :thumbup;
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Sam-cat and Auggie-dog don't get along. Sam took off. We live in the wild woods so there is no telling what happened to Sam. I miss old Sam. Of course Sam isn't the first cat who went missing here; Tiger and Pickles took off once. Found Pickles. Sam would jump on thwe desk beside my computer and tap me on the shoulder begging for treats that he knew were in the drawer here. I'll go looking for him tomorrow.
Now Poppy, all men aren't, well, they can't be . . . whenever they, uh, Oh never mind.
gl
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ok phew... that number sounds A LOT better! :bandance; you must both be feeling relieved. lets hope it keeps heading down.......
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Still sending *huggles* to you, Poppy.
I'm very, very glad to hear of Blokey's improvement. :cuddle;
:'( over Mog.
Aleta
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So glad about Blokey, and hoping you get your little Mog back!
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I so sorry for all you have been thru in the last week. :cuddle;
I hope you find your mog. Its so sad when you kitty goes missing. but coming from experience one of our cats went missing for a week and I thought we had lost her and she came back. Also my sister lost her cat for almost 2 week and came back. Don't lose hope. :grouphug;
Have you check the shelters? Or put up signs?
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I made Blokey come food shopping this morning ... he wasn't a happy bunny and made me feel guilty because he "felt tired" ... !
Have you check the shelters? Or put up signs?
I have yes, and he is microchipped so if found the vets and shelters will scan him and send him home. Also spoken to neighbours and whatnot. I keep calling him and expecting to see him everytime I look out of the window (plus, I can still hear meowing [in my head]!!) but I'm resigned to the fact that I'll probably never see him again.
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Still, I like to think that he's having an amazing adventure somewhere and is happy, because that helps. Blokey has decided that he's in Reading, which is a town the other side of England. Maybe it's true (he has been known to get in cars, silly cat.)
;D
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Aw Poppy... :cuddle; :cuddle; :cuddle;
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Just saw this.... it was a quick drama but glad all is well ... except for MogCat. If it is a male he may still show up. Catten around.
:grouphug;
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Just saw this.... it was a quick drama but glad all is well ... except for MogCat. If it is a male he may still show up. Catten around.
:grouphug;
that's definitely possible, is he still intact?
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that's definitely possible, is he still intact?
Gosh no ... he had his balls chopped off when he was eight months old!
A local cat was hit by a car and killed on Saturday just over the road. As I'd gone knocking on doors the owner was able to track me down yesterday (love the fact that somebody kept my leaflet about Mog) and I was able to tell him who picked his cat up. We were chatting and he informed me that Mog would go round his house and terrorise his chickens! That's my boy! The last thing I do every night is call him in and I still expect him to come trotting along! I expect that the day I stop calling him will be the day I subconsciously accept I'm never going to see him again ... still, Dora is being naughty enough for two now!
Blokey went back to work yesterday so you can imagine how happy he is. Tomorrow he has a clinic appointment and *fingers crossed* his creatinine will be practically 'normal'. He forgot to take his tablets on Sunday night, despite me saying to him, Have you taken your tablets? and him replying, Well d'uh! Of course! We've decided that next time I ask he has to humour me and just check!
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Blokey went back to work yesterday so you can imagine how happy he is. Tomorrow he has a clinic appointment and *fingers crossed* his creatinine will be practically 'normal'. He forgot to take his tablets on Sunday night, despite me saying to him, Have you taken your tablets? and him replying, Well d'uh! Of course! We've decided that next time I ask he has to humour me and just check!
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Well, duh! Of course he does!
I keep checking to see if Mog cat has returned. :'(
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I keep checking to see if Mog cat has returned. :'(
If Mog returns you'll be one of the first to know because I'll be announcing it joyously on Fb, probably complete with pictures of a happy reunion!
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I just read through this whole thread, and I am glad your hubby is feeling better.
As for Mog, my parents had a cat, Mr. Chipps, and Mr. Chipps ran off one day and we couldn't find him. We assumed he had gotten eaten by a coyote, but 2 months later my brothers friend said she had seen him at another friends house. Apparently, he decided he liked living in someone elses garage, miles away. We brought him home, cleaned him up and he never took off again. Hopefully Mog is just hanging around with some new friends. I have found in all my years of owning cats, male cats tend to have the most wanderlust.