Issues with one of the techs.

[Rivy]

Hello!  I haven't posted on for awhile.  I wanted to wish everyone a Merry Christmas and the most wonderful New Year coming up.  I have been coming back here and there just to go through other post and find very interesting and up lifting.   I have been on dialysis for 4 years now, still on the kidney list for coming up on 3 years.  I am doing dialysis at one of the centers here in ABQ and it's one of the best around town.  Our manager spoils most of us with the comfort of staying 4 hours..She even ask me if I'm comfortable with the new upgrade of the center or any of the techs that is caring for me.   Well last night,  I was switch from my assigned chair to another chair across from where I normally sit. 

I heard from the tech that was caring for me that the reason that I was sitting there was that the other tech told him that I has issues with her.  "Really!"     I was thinking what sort of issues do I have with her?   I was very hurt and through my treatment I felt uncomfortable that she would tell all the other techs that.. I have this on my mind and would like to let the manager know about this.   I would like to know what issues I have with her because I get  along with all the others with no problem..

I'm asking for advise from you all in a way to write the manager in a kind way so I don't make myself feel like I'm the bad guy..

 
Rivy

[WishIKnew]

Talk to the manager privately.  It will make you feel better and clear the air.  You have to spend way too much time there to be uncomfortable!  Sounds like the new tech is stirring up unnecessary turmoil!

[Donnie]

Don't worry about it.  Even though we might not like it, techs are people with problems too.
I'm  66 years old and a very cute little tech 42 years old has been hitting on me.  She got very
angry when I let her know I've been happily married for 45 years and have never cheated on my wife.
I also told her I don't believe in old goats like me having relationships with women the same age as their daughters.

Her problem is that her husband left  for a younger woman.  She also told me her daddy has NEVER told her
he loves her.  Thus the older man infatuation?  Not only that she has filed bankruptcy due to her husband leaving.

Now I find out her mother has terminal cancer and she must be off work for about two months to care for mom.
Before I knew any of the rules governing customer/ employee relationships, I offered enough money to get her by.  Now she was real polite, but let me know in uncertain words that neither my wife or me was welcome in her life and that she was "tough" and would be OK.

Last dialysis session I saw her in the arms of a fellow tech half her age.  My guess is that since she has had no success with older men, she has turned to younger men.  That seems reasonable since she has no success with older men and can't keep a man her own age?

I was politely and thoroughly asked to stay out of her life which I am doing with no problem, except she has started to engage in personal conversation again.  And she has become angry due to my cool and reserved
attitude. (I only need to be told once!)

What does this woman want from me?  I don't have a clue!  But rather than be angry and report her to management, I'll just quietly be silent and feel sorry for her.  This woman has problems!

[lmunchkin]

Tell your manager just what you told us.  Dont let this fester or you will never feel right.  Youv'e done nothing wrong and have said nothing to the contrary.  It may be just a simple misunderstanding!

Good Luck,
lmunchkin
 

[RichardMEL]

If you feel uncomfortable bringing up the subject directly, and your new chair assignment (is it worse than the previous spot in some way?).... anyway rather than saying "another tech told me that tech X said she had problems with me" just simply ask "I'm wondering why I've been assigned a different chair because I don't really know why, and I liked where I was before..." and let the  manager suss it out. They may have some idea themselves anyway. If they seem pretty open to conversation with patients that may work - you're not accusing anyone of anything, just asking a q - I mean for all you know the tech that told you the other tech said she had problems with you may have his ownb agenda....

If you don't get any resolution there, or explanation that makes sense you could perhaps then go back to him/her (manager) and say that you had actually heard it was because *A* tech requested it due to a perceived issue, and you're confused and a bit worried because you feel like you get on well with everyone and you don't want to be upsetting the applecart, but you just need to know what's going on?

Just some thoughts anyway.