Update on my 82 yr old daddy----not much longer now...

[RhondaQ]

Hi Everyone..

I just want to thank each and every one of you for your sincerest good wishes and prayers.  We are now on a minute to minute watch with my dad as he's not able to keep down fluids or food.  The hospice nurse visited yesterday and said that she cannot hear a blood pressure and his heart is beating rapidly to compensate....breathing is shallow.  The vomiting has been the worst part thus far....toxins have nowhere to go as he hasn't dialyzed in at least 5 weeks or more (his decision as most of you know).  Today was the first day this week that he has decided to leave the bedroom and sit in his recliner to visit in between little cat naps and that's a good thing.  Our little chihuahua Buddy Boy has been playing "watch dog" and woke me up twice during the night to check on dad as he sensed something wrong.  Dad had been vomiting quite a bit and was extremely weak and shaky.  It's pretty much more of the same today.....and he's not very coherant, so we are not able to enjoy but a tad of conversation here and there.  At least it's something, right?  I think for the most part that the end is near.........God has been good......it's like He's put the blinders on for dad so that he's not aware of everything that's going on and for that we have been truly blessed.

I pray for each and every one of you that wellness and good spirits follow you from day to day and that you are able to spend quality time with those that you love.  We never know what's around the corner, but I always believe that for every unfortunate thing that happens in our lives, a good thing arises.  When my mother passed away in 1998 due to metastatic cancer of the lung and liver our lives were shattered or so it seemed, but we recognized the good that came out of her leaving this earth was that it brought us closer to our daddy.  Growing up he was so busy working that we felt like strangers for the longest time, but finally got the opportunity to become very close and actually KNOW each other and do things together.  I AM SO GRATEFUL!  Had he gone before my mother, opportunity would have passed us by.....I'm so sure of that.  We often question life and/or tragedy, suffering and loss, but this has proven to me that GOOD things do come to those who wait.  I'm sure something good will come out of this too, even though right now we don't know what it is or when it will happen.........

Love and blessings to each and every one of you and to those you are closest to..::HUGS::

LIVE EACH DAY TO IT'S FULLEST

By the way, for what it's worth and despite the fact that my dad has been so confused as of late, he did mention something to me last night that made me realize there MUST life after death........When he woke up, he said that he had been in the middle of "crossing barriers" and wondered what he was supposed to do next......?  He's also heard laughter and sensed that someone was standing behind him, but wasn't sure who this person was or what they wanted.  So what was this barrier he was referring to?  Crossing over from life to death, or life to "another life"? 








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[angela515]

I hpe your dad isn't going thru any pain, or much pain. Good luck hun. 

[Sara]

Thank you so much for thinking to keep us updated during this difficult time.   

[goofynina]

God Bless you all... 

[Bajanne]

Thank you so much for sharing this with us.  Even though I relived a bit my father's last days, it was not with grief, but with thankfulness that I was able to be there for him, even as you must feel now where your father is concerned.
Be assured of my prayers on his behalf (and yours) at this time. 
If it is not too much for you, please keep us posted.

[kitkatz]

I will light a candle in my heart for your father tonight.  I hope all is well with him and I hope he crosses peacefully from the arms of his loved ones into the arms of loved ones on the other side.

[Sluff]

Thank you for sharing this special time of your life with us. I went through this with both parents so I understand you may have mixed emotions but it does seem that God helps our loved ones in their crossing over. If I were you I would be happy he heard laughing so you now know he is on his way to a better place. Thank God he was able to share that with you.

Good Luck We are with you.

 

[Rerun]

Rhonda, thank you for updating us on your Dad's progress.  I guess "progress" is the word.  Dialysis is a hard road and when you choose to stop the walk it can be hard on the whole family.  Please let him know that we are all thinking of him and tell him "Rerun thinks he is a hero."

[Amanda From OZ]

I will pray for you all. I hope he passes peacefully, to his new life.

[letaek]

I will keep your father in my prayers.

[nextnoel]

Rhonda, my prayers are with you and your Dad and the rest of your family.  How wonderful that your father heard laughter - I just love that thought!

[stauffenberg]

Dignitas is an organization of physicians in Switzerland who, operating legally within Swiss law, will, for a purely nominal fee, give any terminally illl person an extremely gentle death by an overdose of morphine, so that the patient just goes quietly to sleep, with no pain, no difficult breathing, no nausea, vomiting, just peace.  Did you ever consider that option for your father when he was still able to travel?

[Sluff]

This thread is being locked because Rhonda's Father has passed away.








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