Who helps you keep sane??

[babi68]

I just have to let everyone know that I would be an absolute mess without my 14 year old daughter. She is an angel. She is constantly helping me around the house, cooking dinner(like normal teenagers would) ,but even more so. She has to deal with her disabled brother as well. My son is 16 and has autism, so as you can imagine life here is sometimes very stressful. My husband helps out where he can, but he gets very stressed with work and can work long hours.  She is an amazing person, she goes to school and has just got into a basketball scholarship program, so as you can tell I am very proud of her Liz

[Epoman]

My wife and son, my wife is my rock/foundation and my son is my future/hope. I do not know where I would be today if it were not for them.

[Rerun]

Twenty years ago when I was diagnosed with ESRD and started all this crap I was just married (two years) had both my parents, and his, and a big family on both sides for support.  Then I got my transplant and with all the drugs I just wasn't the cute perky blond that he thought he married.  He ended up cheating on me at year 10 and we divorced with hurt; rippling out to everyone.  Since then I've lost my sister to cancer at age 44 and both my parents are gone.  I live alone unless you count my two min-pins (dogs) who keep me active and willing to stick around to feed them.   So, I draw upon the Lord Jesus Christ to guide me.  He is always here and will never leave me.  He blessed me with a transplant for 17 years and now he has a different path for me.  Ultimately, He will take me home.  That's okay too.  I have two sisters left and a brother.  We are not real close.  I am blessed with LOTS of friends and that is a good thing.  If I just had a couple of friends, I'm sure I would wear them out.   

[Epoman]

Twenty years ago when I was diagnosed with ESRD and started all this crap I was just married (two years) had both my parents, and his, and a big family on both sides for support.  Then I got my transplant and with all the drugs I just wasn't the cute perky blond that he thought he married.  He ended up cheating on me at year 10 and we divorced with hurt; rippling out to everyone.  Since then I've lost my sister to cancer at age 44 and both my parents are gone.  I live alone unless you count my two min-pins (dogs) who keep me active and willing to stick around to feed them.   So, I draw upon the Lord Jesus Christ to guide me.  He is always here and will never leave me.  He blessed me with a transplant for 17 years and now he has a different path for me.  Ultimately, He will take me home.  That's okay too.  I have two sisters left and a brother.  We are not real close.  I am blessed with LOTS of friends and that is a good thing.  If I just had a couple of friends, I'm sure I would wear them out.   

My wife and I were married under a year when I was diagnosed with ESRD and I gave her the option to "walk" (get a divorce) I did not want to ruin her life, well she stuck by me and she has never complained once in 12+ years. People tell me how lucky I am to have such a great woman and I tell them "I know" 

[Rerun]

Obviously, she is pretty lucky too.   

[Iowagirl]

My mom and I have some really really good friends.

[Bajanne]

I have a wide base of sanity keepers.  First of all, my daughter and my 2 year old grandson who live with me.  Then my brothers and sisters - both by faith and by blood.  Then some tremendous relatives,friends and co-workers.

[Jamie]

Dear fellow renal readers,


  For a while "MORPHINE" for like two years in large doses helped. But caused damage in other areas. While in a different world for two years it took about 6 months to kick to pill and a 50 pound weight gain came as well.
   "Oh" I have been threw much worse. Also I have to pretty well depend on my self for the most of my support.....Jamie-G

[kitkatz]

Sane???Sane?? Who said anything about sanity around here???  *Looking for my straightjacket* 
 
I lean on my husband.  I have a friend who just started down the dialysis road and we talk hours at a time.
I also have my family, such as they are...

My daughters are out of the house now and I rely on them to be good adults.

Some days the sanity is unavailable and I go with the flow and let it have me.  Other days I have a grip on it.  Sound familiar.

Katherine

[babi68]

Sane???Sane?? Who said anything about sanity around here??? *Looking for my straightjacket*
 
I lean on my husband. I have a friend who just started down the dialysis road and we talk hours at a time.
I also have my family, such as they are...

My daughters are out of the house now and I rely on them to be good adults.

Some days the sanity is unavailable and I go with the flow and let it have me. Other days I have a grip on it. Sound familiar.

Katherine

sounds too familiar.....Liz

[kitkatz]

Yep, I am still looking for my mind..It ran out awhile ago, and never came back....

I called friend of mine today because the box was getting to small.  I was really feeling defined by my illness.  She helped me a lot.  We decided three things.

1. Get off our collective asses and get back to work.  Meaning we chose to come back here to this life when given a choice.  We both had near death experiences and were given choices to leave or come back.  Guess what our choice was???

2. We are one hell of an example!  Whether we are here to help people through our living example, or just to be here to go through whatever it is.

3. Trudge, trudge, trudge.  No matter what put one foot in front of the other and keep going!

So there it is, some wisdom. Take what you need, leave the rest.

Katherine

[kevno]

I never let my mind wander, it's far to small to be let out on it's own

Sane A good word. Up to now not me. seeing a shrink on Monday, to try to sort me out that should be fun Not a clue what she will be able to say. Most likely it will be me doing the talking as usual I think I must be a bit crazy, not having that operation on the 10th April, at least it would have been done with. Still not to worry too much I am still here alive and kicking. I will get it sorted out, it's just getting my mind to accept the operation. All will work out OK in the end.

NEVER add any trouble accepting an operation I have needed before.

I will have to wait and see what happens To see if this Prof. can help get me sane

Kevno

[kitkatz]

Sane??? Staying sane is impossible in this world. Embrace the insanity and go with it! You will have a lot more fun!   I am enjoying every minute of it!

Talking is what psychs do to let you make your own decisions!

Katherine

[okarol]

Kitkatz, you're a tough cookie!
 

[MyssAnne]

Sane? That would be my sisters and my fiancee. They don't put up with my moping and groaining, and are very good about encouraging me to do things, and making me get out of the slough of depression that hits us all now and then. They are so good about ilstening to me, just listening, letting me vent. You can't do that at cilnic....they give you advice, which is not always practical! or wanted, really, at that time!

[George Jung]

I don't know how sane he keeps me but my friends two year old son, Christian, gets the credit for keeping me going.  In my eyes, he saved my life.

[Sluff]

I don't know how sane he keeps me but my friends two year old son, Christian, gets the credit for keeping me going.  In my eyes, he saved my life.

I hope you live long enough to tell him that. 

[George Jung]

I hope you live long enough to tell him that.

Defiantly...me too.  Just in case I don't, I told his father last week.  It wasn't easy but I had to do it.  Two grown men shedding tears....it was no doubt a moment!

[goofynina]

I think a Kitty would definetly put me on my way to finding what Sane is about   But for now, my friends at IHD keep me insane, ooops, i mean sane,    my bad     luv ya'll 

[bluedove57]

The Lord Jesus keeps me sane. When I think I'm gonna lose it I go to my room and cry out to Him. He doesn't always answer but he gives me a peace of heart that allows me to go on. I have my mom who can make me insane at times but love her dearly. My 4 year mate left me for someone younger and healthy. I thought I would die. Jesus calmed my spirit and reminded me He will never leave me and I will never be alone. Some day he will call me home and give me a brand new body. I give Jesus all the credit that I've stayed sane through all these trials I've been in since my kidneys failed. I give Him all the praise and glory.

[meadowlandsnj]

My cousins daughter Angelyssa keeps me sane.  I just love her to death, we helped take care of her since she was a baby, she was a week old when I first took care of her.  I've watched her grow up into a caring, beautiful young lady of 8.  My cousin had problems so we (my parents and I) basically had her for days when her grandmother was working.  For all she went through she is very well adjusted and loving.  I hope I had a part in that.  If I never have kids I'll still fel like I had a child with her.  I want to post her picture how can I do that? 

Thanks
Donna

[goofynina]

Hi Meadowlands... We would love it if you posted a pic of "your" little one.  Please go here:  http://ihatedialysis.com/forum/index.php?topic=1227.0

Post a reply of who is in the photo (hopefully your in it too)   then click Additional Options

click on browse, find your pic that you want to post and VOILA!!!  Hope that works 

Looking forward to seeing your pic 

[meadowlandsnj]

Hi Meadowlands... We would love it if you posted a pic of "your" little one.  Please go here:  http://ihatedialysis.com/forum/index.php?topic=1227.0

Post a reply of who is in the photo (hopefully your in it too)   then click Additional Options

click on browse, find your pic that you want to post and VOILA!!!  Hope that works 

Looking forward to seeing your pic 

Thanks!  Here's her Halloween pic

[kitkatz]

I tend to throw rocks at God.  They are loaded with prayers.  I imagine the angels are ducking frequently.

[goofynina]

Donna, she is a doll, i hope she knows how lucky she has to have you in her life too!!