having sex while on dialysis

[jedimaster]

Wanna have sex and you are on hemodialysis?...another reason to do home hemo. 

[kitkatz]

I can't quite picture that one!

[jedimaster]

It's all about tubing and piping 

[kitkatz]

I had not thought of it in quite that way before now. Peanut butter, peanut butter, peanut butter, as my sister would say as she tries to get out of the conversation!

[Sluff]

 

[Epoman]

Interesting topic (and yes I had a laugh at the literal interpretation of the topic line... hey I only wish I had good looking nurses in my unit... although the first dietician I saw is a cutie.... )

Anyway getting back to serious stuff... my experience is mixed... I don't have a loss of drive and I have no problem with the equipment per se... so no need for any little blue pills... but I have found that my energy just drains out on me and usually at the worst time! And the worst part is it just goes all of a sudden so I'll be in the middle of.. well you can imagine and then all of a sudden it's like a super drain on the battery and the energizer bunny just falls in a heap. It really sucks! And not just for me of course but for the lady I am with.. This doesn't happen all the time, but also something I do find is.. gee I hope I won't get in trouble for being too explicit here keeping in mind the various audiences but I didn't see a rule against it anyway.. whn I orgasm I find thatejaculation is really poor.. like a little trickle rather than a flood (you know what I mean, right?!)... I don't really worry about that so much as I am more concerned with my partner's enjoyment, but I guess it is another sign of the various problems caused by kidney failure.

Just back to the light hearted side of things.. I find when on hemo and the BP is dropping a little too much and I fear I am in danger of entering the Cramp Zone I tend to try to think of similar themes to the above to get things... ahem.. moving (no, I don't need a blanket!)... sometimes it helps! (blush)

I just now saw this thread. 

but I didn't see a rule against it

LOL, yeah I forgot to add the no discussing ejaculate rule. 

 

- Epoman

[Epoman]

I had not thought of it in quite that way before now. Peanut butter, peanut butter, peanut butter, as my sister would say as she tries to get out of the conversation!

Oh man finally I have a reason to post this on IHD, thank you Kitkatz. 

http://home.comcast.net/~etrata/flash/banana.swf 

ENJOY!

- Epoman

[Sluff]

Oh man finally I have a reason to post this on IHD, thank you Kitkatz. 

http://home.comcast.net/~etrata/flash/banana.swf 

ENJOY!

- Epoman

The eroticism at it's finest.

[goofynina]

I had not thought of it in quite that way before now. Peanut butter, peanut butter, peanut butter, as my sister would say as she tries to get out of the conversation!

Oh man finally I have a reason to post this on IHD, thank you Kitkatz. 

http://home.comcast.net/~etrata/flash/banana.swf 

ENJOY!

- Epoman

I am reeeeeeally starting to worry about you boss, 

[melshell]

  So..It's been a couple of days since I checked in, I'm scanning the posts, and THIS is the thread I fall into?!!  I'm a "brand new" PD'er, so I don't know how much my  will weigh in- but here goes!! -Will admit that I haven't "hooked up" while hooked up, but am thinking that I would have to agree with the other PD'ers--it's gotta feel like a waterbed? Only I'm thinking I would feel like the waterbed mattress, and one of us would end up sea sick??!! I find that mine and hubby's "appetites" haven't changed, but the mechanics certainly have!! I'm nearing 6wks post op cath. insertion, so the exit site can still be a bit tender it seems, and WHAT THE HECK ARE YA SUPPOSED TO DO WITH THE CATH?? (jus' lettin' it swing ain't the thing, and I've developed a SERIOUS tape allergy!!) *LMAO  I'm LOVING these forums!!

[goofynina]

So..It's been a couple of days since I checked in, I'm scanning the posts, and THIS is the thread I fall into?!!  I'm a "brand new" PD'er, so I don't know how much my  will weigh in- but here goes!! -Will admit that I haven't "hooked up" while hooked up, but am thinking that I would have to agree with the other PD'ers--it's gotta feel like a waterbed? Only I'm thinking I would feel like the waterbed mattress, and one of us would end up sea sick??!! I find that mine and hubby's "appetites" haven't changed, but the mechanics certainly have!! I'm nearing 6wks post op cath. insertion, so the exit site can still be a bit tender it seems, and WHAT THE HECK ARE YA SUPPOSED TO DO WITH THE CATH?? (jus' lettin' it swing ain't the thing, and I've developed a SERIOUS tape allergy!!) *LMAO  I'm LOVING these forums!!

Girlfriend, i am hearing you with the tape allergy situation (and it was me that felt like the waterbed)   lol,  you should try using Medipore - Soft Cloth Surgical Tape.  When i was using the other tapes, paper and plastic it literally made my skin raw, now it has cleared up and this tape is wonderful.  I hope you find it and give it a try,  keep us posted k, 

[kitkatz]

I had not thought of it in quite that way before now. Peanut butter, peanut butter, peanut butter, as my sister would say as she tries to get out of the conversation!

Oh man finally I have a reason to post this on IHD, thank you Kitkatz. 

http://home.comcast.net/~etrata/flash/banana.swf 

ENJOY!

- Epoman

Why, oh why did I ever give you reason to post the dancing banana??

[melshell]

Thanks goofynina, I'll check into that tape!! I've been so-o-o-o gunshy about tape since I had such a horrible reaction, that I decline even band-aids after blood draws and have been wearing men's "wife beater" T's under my clothes and cutting holes in them and taping my tube to them ever since!! <-actually it works out pretty good, but along with the men's underwear I've been wearing because I found that they are the most comfortable-the waistband hits "just right" beneath my exit site, and all that's left to do is to walk around scratching my ass, burping the alphabet, and grading the deadly potential of my farts and I will have become my brother!!!  Ya know...Hubby HAS seen me in this get up...maybe the lack of zeal isn't merely due to the mechanics of the tube??? -just kidding! 

[okarol]

From: National Kidney Federation
Notts England

Sex and dialysis treatment
   
It is possible that the tip of a peritoneal dialysis catheter might lie low in the pelvis and that sex could cause discomfort for a woman, but this does not seem to happen often. It is said that it is best to tape down a peritoneal dialysis catheter, or have some clothing over, in case your partner grabs hold of it during a moment of passion.

Research in Coventry (UK) has shown that people on peritoneal dialysis and haemodialysis both report similar sex lives (scoring 40/100 on a questionnaire). People with functioning kidney transplants did better, scoring 59/100. Although these scores do not sound very high, the general public do not score anywhere near 100.

 

[Sluff]

And I don't score at all..

[jedimaster]

Before dialysis I use to score 199.9, now I only score 199.5.  . Tonight I´ll try the UF STOP position....that might bring my score up....

[goofynina]

It is possible that the tip of a peritoneal dialysis catheter might lie low in the pelvis and that sex could cause discomfort for a woman, but this does not seem to happen often. It is said that it is best to tape down a peritoneal dialysis catheter, or have some clothing over, in case your partner grabs hold of it during a moment of passion.

Uh huh, tell me something i dont know  

[angela515]

I have no sex drive!  Well i'm single right now anyways, so I guess it don't matter, but it still bother's me. I don't have any sexual urges or desires... this has really been going on since a very young age and I have been told before it was due to being on prednisone from age 12-17 non-stop, high doses and IV doses... I have 2 kids, but honestly, I actually had sex to please my partner, I didn't actually "feel the need" to have it... or want it. I feel so, wierd and left out I guess of the actual pleasures of sex and such.

I wanna talk to a dr about hormones and see if that could help me, but I dont even bother with it right now while on dialysis since I am single anyways... but just curious to what others think?

[Laura]

Sex? What's sex? 

I am so tired when I get home from teaching and dialysis three days a week you can imagine what happens at home.  Nothing.  The sex drive is busted, broken, gone with the wind.

I'm with you!  Sex is the last thing on my mind...unless I'm watching the show "Lost".  There is way too much beefcake on that show not to at least think a little about sex!  But then again, anyone on the island is cured of whatever health problems they had when they arrived.  Where can I find an island like that? 

[Black]

...  Sex is the last thing on my mind...unless I'm watching the show "Lost".  There is way too much beefcake on that show not to at least think a little about sex!  But then again, anyone on the island is cured of whatever health problems they had when they arrived.  Where can I find an island like that? 

  Good to see another "Lost" fan.

BTW -- sorry, I just can't help the mental picture that pops into my head everytime I see this thread title --  lines flopping all over, bare fanny in the air, and nurses and techs with their hands in the air screaming, "No. No. Mr. Smith! Miss Jones!  You can't do that here!" 

[AlasdairUK]

...  Sex is the last thing on my mind...unless I'm watching the show "Lost".  There is way too much beefcake on that show not to at least think a little about sex!  But then again, anyone on the island is cured of whatever health problems they had when they arrived.  Where can I find an island like that? 

  Good to see another "Lost" fan.

BTW -- sorry, I just can't help the mental picture that pops into my head everytime I see this thread title --  lines flopping all over, bare fanny in the air, and nurses and techs with their hands in the air screaming, "No. No. Mr. Smith! Miss Jones!  You can't do that here!" 

Thanks for that  It brought a smile to my face reading your post.

[jedimaster]

That's why I'm saying that Home Hemo is the key...you even get your blood pressure and temperature monitored, PH...and, the best of all....conductivity....what can go wrong?

[Wattle]

I have just stumbled across this thread.... OMG 

From: National Kidney Federation
Notts England

Sex and dialysis treatment
   
It is possible that the tip of a peritoneal dialysis catheter might lie low in the pelvis and that sex could cause discomfort for a woman, but this does not seem to happen often. It is said that it is best to tape down a peritoneal dialysis catheter, or have some clothing over, in case your partner grabs hold of it during a moment of passion.

WHAT THE.....  Grabs hold during a moment of passion..    I think there are few other "items" someone may grab hold of at that moment and my catheter is NOT one of them!

Fresenius supply a little pouch that is made of cotton,elastic and velcro. I keep this on at ALL times and it definatley looks after my catheter in those moments of need.       

[Duane]

oooh nasty!

[Sluff]

oooh nasty!

That comment sure doesn't boost anyone's self esteem. I think it's great that the people can get over the self conscientious of the tube associated with PD. It's a fact of treatment with this type of dialysis.