Unfortunately, figuring out dry wt is not a science - it's an art. They can only guess, no matter what they tell you. What they don't tell you is that it is your right to set your own weight. Tell them how much you want off - and adjust it according to how you feel - not what the scale says. If your mom is needing fluid every 30 minutes while she is on - I'd say they are pulling too much fluid, too fast.
I realize that I'm considered an outlaw patient but I don't see the connection between dehydration and dry weight.