Ignorant things people have said to you

[jbeany]

So the medical field doesn't know all that much either....everytime I go to the ER, they ask for your history of course, and I have to say I had a kidney transplant before. Everytime, this is the first question after I say that.. "Which kidney?"... Which kidney WHAT?? I had a whole new kidney put in... WTF.... where do these people go to school??? .."Was is it the right or left kidney?" uhm, neither? My kidneys failed and I had a new one put in.. so I have 3 kidneys in me, all of which dont work now. 

Maybe they think it's like a heart transplant - take the old one out and put the new one in the same place?  You would think ER staff would have a clue, though.

I was talking to a lady at the bustop the other day and she was telling me about the church she goes too. As usual I just pretend Im listening and she said she would put in a prayer for me. I thought that was lovely of her until she said how many people have benefited from their prayers and that hopefully if she puts one in for me I wont need a kidney. What the??

Ooooh, I want some of that kool-aid!

[tubes]

Hmm mmm...*clears throat*
OK, I ran into this lady that lives in my building.  She looked at my arm/fistula and said; Oh my, that looks SOOOOOOO swollen. 
I told her it's not swollen. Thats just how it looks.  Then she tells me; she thinks they need to start using a different spot.    I told her there is no other spot.  This one works great, my fistula is strong and it gets bigger over time as you use it.  She just kind of shook her head and walked away.

I tell ya, it seems like I explain the same thing to the same people over and over again.  Aarrgggggg   

[angieskidney]

People just don't understand but what gets to me is when they THINK they understand more than you

[sandman]

Well, I am still learning more and more.   

[angieskidney]

Well, I am still learning more and more.   

I wasn't referring to you

[sandman]

Well, I am still learning more and more.   

I wasn't referring to you

I never said you, or anyone else here was referring to me.  I just wanted to jump in but couldn't come up with a complaint or rant about ignorant things said that dealt with dialysis or kidney failure that was not already brought up and I didn't want to sound repetitive.

[Treasure]

You should see their faces when I explain that the list is 8 years loooooooong. Usually they look to the other side....

I'm going to hell...because I usually add at that point..."and I ain't gonna live that long"   <wicked grin>


actually, when i got on the list 2 years ago, they said it would be at least a 10 year wait...(i wasn't worried, though, because i had a living donor).  but then they discovered that i had a high pra...and then i had two transfusions during my failed transplant... and unless i hire a rather effective hitman, i won't be reaching the top of any list, but the fbi most wanted.

michelle  ~  treasure     <~~~~~~~~ could be on the most attractive female prisoner list-- aready have the scars...

[sandman]

It was just the other day when I was at work, some of my fellow co-workers were picking on another co-worker.  they were discussing why the one needs to use Viagra.    Anyway, he made note that he needs several pills to to keep an erection.

I made note to him that with taking so many pills, that he needs to keep an eye on his blood pressure as high blood pressure could damage his kidneys.  His comment was I don't need kidneys to have sex.  I told him, that maybe true but you won't live long if you can't pee.  His next comment was that he could have some sort of pee bag surgically implanted.      I couldn't help but think to myself, what an idiot.  So I told him, if your kidneys fail then you can't make pee so his pee bag idea was not going to do him any good.  I also told him that if his kidneys failed, that he would need to go on dialysis.  He asked me what that was so I tried my best to explain it.

The only thing out of his mouth then was simply "Oh."  That is what your girlfriend is on, right?  :-/

[angela515]

It was just the other day when I was at work, some of my fellow co-workers were picking on another co-worker.  they were discussing why the one needs to use Viagra.    Anyway, he made note that he needs several pills to to keep an erection.

I made note to him that with taking so many pills, that he needs to keep an eye on his blood pressure as high blood pressure could damage his kidneys.  His comment was I don't need kidneys to have sex.  I told him, that maybe true but you won't live long if you can't pee.  His next comment was that he could have some sort of pee bag surgically implanted.      I couldn't help but think to myself, what an idiot.  So I told him, if your kidneys fail then you can't make pee so his pee bag idea was not going to do him any good.  I also told him that if his kidneys failed, that he would need to go on dialysis.  He asked me what that was so I tried my best to explain it.

The only thing out of his mouth then was simply "Oh."  That is what your girlfriend is on, right?  :-/

I love how people try to tell you what they would do, like they KNOW what happens... It sounds like you made him go speechless after telling him what really happens... I bet he felt stupid. 

[kitkatz]

Tell that ignorant ass, that "the Pea bag" does not prevent kidney failure.  And he can cram his opinion where the sun does not shine!

[angieskidney]

Ya people like him who think it is no big deal and that he can "just get a pee bag" don't realize that without kidneys you die and that is why we encourage people to sign their donor card. It is people like him who don't sign because they think it is no big deal.

[sandman]

I love how people try to tell you what they would do, like they KNOW what happens... It sounds like you made him go speechless after telling him what really happens... I bet he felt stupid. 

Well, I don't know how stupid I made him feel but I sure hope I gave him something to think about.

[RichardMEL]

Slight hijack.. not something ignorant that was said to me, but something ignorant that was GIVEN to me.

From my father. A dentist by trade...

So for my birthday what does he give me? A 750ml bottle of bubbly?!!

HELLO?!?!?!! WHAT WERE YOU THINKING?!?!

(note: I live alone). Who am I goint to drink it with? the cat?

the mind boggles....

So I asked him about it and he said "oh you could drink it with family etc" yeah, thanks....

[kitkatz]

I know. My Mother gave me a Mrs. Tea Maker right after I came home from starting dialysis eight years ago. What in the hell was I supposed to do with that?  I was a brand new dialysis patient and just starting to have to watch fluid gains.  Stupid gift!

[Zach]

I'd like a tea maker ... send it over to me.     

[kitkatz]

Sorry it was returned and I bought nightgowns to hang out in while I was ill.

[MattyBoy100]

I'd like a nightgown!

[jbeany]

Okay - I want my official club membership card now!
 
I got my dialysis schedule - it's T-TR-Saturday, starting at noon.  The family Christmas party for my side of the family is scheduled for Saturday.  I don't expect them to change it - it's been scheduled for almost two months now, and everyone else has reworked their schedules to fit.  But I did tell dad and stepmom that I would be arriving late, since the party will be starting at 4, and I have an hour and half drive from the center to their place. 

Stepmom says "Can't you just skip it?

[tubes]

Stepmom says "Can't you just skip it?

skip it.....well, unfortunately i do it often.  especially if i go to my moms for the weekend.  i wont come home till monday night so i missed monday dialysis.  then i have to go sat, sun, mon and tues without dialysis.

anyways...............

i was talking to a co-worker about doing dialysis becuz my kidneys dont work.  she asked, which one? ? ?   LOL
that made my day.....

[angela515]

Okay - I want my official club membership card now!
 
I got my dialysis schedule - it's T-TR-Saturday, starting at noon.  The family Christmas party for my side of the family is scheduled for Saturday.  I don't expect them to change it - it's been scheduled for almost two months now, and everyone else has reworked their schedules to fit.  But I did tell dad and stepmom that I would be arriving late, since the party will be starting at 4, and I have an hour and half drive from the center to their place. 

Stepmom says "Can't you just skip it?

I just love it when they say "can't you just skip it"....  i'm like, were you even listening to me when I explained to you what dialysis is and why I need it? Obviously not if your saying just skip it... 

[Sara]

I'd like a nightgown!

Flannel or lace?   

[tubes]

I'd like a nightgown!

Flannel or lace?

oh oh, if ur giving 'em out.  i want lace.

i want to feel pretty, oh so pretty.

[Sara]

If you choose lace, I must insist you get the matching slippers, Tubes. 

[sandman]

If you choose lace, I must insist you get the matching slippers, Tubes. 

 

[kitkatz]

I need to see pictures of both of you so I can pick the right nightgowns. Did you want the lace teddy or the midnight blue crotchless panties?   LOL