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« Reply #50 on: December 18, 2007, 09:14:59 AM »

A man stranded on a deserted island prays to the Lord to deliver him to safety.  A few days later a man on a boat arrives and tells the stranded man to get in and he will take him home.  The stranded man adamantly says "No. The Lord will provide!".  And the man on the boat leaves.  The man continues to pray.  A few days pass and an airplane lands on the island and a woman says "Get on, I'll fly you home."  "No.  The Lord will provide!".  The man continues to pray.  Several more days pass and then a cruise ship docks and the crew instructs the man to get on board so they can take him home.  Again, "No.  The Lord will provide!"

One week later the man dies of starvation (or kidney failure).  When he arrives in heaven he asked the Lord "Why did you forsake me?  Why did you not save me from death?"  The Lord replied "Are you kidding?  I sent you a boat, an airplane and a cruise ship?"


Don't only pray for the Lord to "heal" me or to send me the perfect kidney.  Pray that he will show YOU how you can help me and many others.

That's my interpretation, anyway.   :cuddle;

And that was the author's intended message.  Thank you.
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« Reply #51 on: December 18, 2007, 09:46:08 AM »

It's such a difficult topic! I too never gave it a second thought before I had ESRD. I like to think that if a friend or relative had needed a transplant, I would have come forward. I really think I would, but I'll never know for sure. The people who have come forward are not who I would have expected -- one is a person I barely know.

When I told my best friend (who's also type O) that my brother and sister were not a match, she got really quiet, and then blurted out that she would give me a kidney if it was life or death, but she didn't want to have a big operation, so I should try to find someone else. Then she changed the subject. I felt hurt and angry -- I wished she had asked me questions and got more info about my situation. But I don't actually think her response was unreasonable. I think my hurt and anger were unreasonable -- but understandable. I've been giving her more info on what my options are and what life on dialysis involves, bit by bit. Yesterday she told me she scared to face the reality of aging, sickness and death for herself or any of her friends. I appreciated that she could be so honest.

These things are so full of conflicting emotions and so potentially hard on our relationships. It's really helpful to hear everyone talk about this subject. There are no easy answers, eh?

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« Reply #52 on: December 18, 2007, 10:05:15 AM »

If you haven't read these news stories - the first was what I experienced - and the second came out this week - I would recommend them. They give a pretty accurate account of what it's like to go through finding a donor.

http://ihatedialysis.com/forum/index.php?topic=2167.0 A test of faith in strangers

http://ihatedialysis.com/forum/index.php?topic=6232.0 Desperately Seeking a Kidney



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« Reply #53 on: December 18, 2007, 07:13:35 PM »

WOW is all I can say, On 12/16/07 I posted about not having any body in my family come forward to offer to donate after 16 months of dialysis. To nite I came home and there was a note on my cell that my sister called from Minnesota. I called her back and when I did she said she has been thinking about and researching the possibility of getting tested to donate her kidney to me. (She is O+ as am I and she is one year older) I am sitting here crying my eyes out while I type this, it is so unbelievable and overwhelming. Tomorrow she told me to call my transplant coord. to start the process. Please wish us luck...Boxman
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« Reply #54 on: December 18, 2007, 07:23:15 PM »

boxman, i'm thrilled for you hun.  :grouphug; I wish you all the luck in the world and i'll be praying it all goes well and can happen for you.  :grouphug;
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« Reply #55 on: December 18, 2007, 07:45:39 PM »

I am so so so happy for you Boxman. 


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« Reply #56 on: December 18, 2007, 08:09:23 PM »

Wow. What a difference a day can make. That's wonderful news, Boxman. Good luck.
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« Reply #57 on: December 18, 2007, 08:16:29 PM »

Excellent!   Nothing but good vibes and luck thrown your way!    :thumbup;
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« Reply #58 on: December 18, 2007, 08:45:47 PM »

that is so awesome.. :2thumbsup; :2thumbsup; :2thumbsup; :clap; :snowman; :santahat; :christmastree; :rudolph;
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« Reply #59 on: December 18, 2007, 09:27:38 PM »

OMG what great news.  thats just awesome.  i can't be more happy for you.  i hope and pray everything goes allright with the testing.    :grouphug; you can't tell me there ain't no GOD.  with news like that, santa came early for you.    :santahat;
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« Reply #60 on: December 18, 2007, 09:32:44 PM »


Your sister is an  :angel;. She cares enough to research the possibility of donating and is willing to take it a step further.

I wish you both luck   :grouphug;
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« Reply #61 on: December 18, 2007, 10:24:18 PM »

OMG what great news.  thats just awesome.  i can't be more happy for you.  i hope and pray everything goes allright with the testing.    :grouphug; you can't tell me there ain't no GOD.  with news like that, Santa came early for you.    :santahat;
She will be in town on Saturday with her husband and three sons for our family Christmas get together I won't know how to act in front of her. A million things go through your mind, for 16 months all you think about is dialysis, now the possibility of a transplant and all the pros and cons that could come with that. I tried to laid down to go to sleep but my mind is just spinning. I know it's very early in the process but it really makes your head spin...Boxman----Thanks for all the kind words!
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« Reply #62 on: December 18, 2007, 11:57:26 PM »

Made me cry to hear it Boxman. You never know where these things will lead, but it's great feeling to know someone is even considering such a gift. I was always cautiously optimistic with each potential donor. I am so happy your sister reached out to you.
xoxoxox  :cuddle;
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« Reply #63 on: December 19, 2007, 05:06:53 AM »

Boxman, that's absolutely wonderful news!!! I'm so happy to hear it! You know we're all hoping and praying the testing goes well. Merry Christmas!  :rudolph;
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« Reply #64 on: December 19, 2007, 06:34:30 AM »

Boxman, how amazing is the timing!  We are discussing pros and cons about relatives and friends donating and your lovely sister had already been researching donation. I am so thrilled for you; just to have some hope that a transplant may happen.  HOPE--my favorite word!   We are all praying this will work out well. Have a great family gathering.  :grouphug;
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« Reply #65 on: December 19, 2007, 10:26:24 AM »

Oh Boxman, this is fabulous news!!!  :yahoo; I so hope that the next stages will all go smoothly, but however things work out, you will always know that she cares enough to come forward! I'm so happy for you!!!!
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« Reply #66 on: December 19, 2007, 10:43:18 AM »

That is great. I hope it will all work out for you boxman  :thumbup;
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« Reply #67 on: December 19, 2007, 03:11:08 PM »

what fantastic news boxman good luck to you both :2thumbsup;
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« Reply #68 on: December 24, 2007, 08:46:50 PM »

My sister Lynn was in town with her husband and two of their three sons. She said it was okay to let everyone know that she will be tested. I got to make the annoucement at our family Christmas get together. I am really proud of her and the cool thing is I had the chance to bring the awareness of donation back up with that annoucement and the e-mail I sent out. People are talking about it again...Boxman
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« Reply #69 on: December 24, 2007, 11:44:01 PM »

 :2thumbsup; Bless your sister. She is an inspiration!  :cuddle;
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« Reply #70 on: December 25, 2007, 09:43:20 AM »

Thats AWSOME and so is your sister :angel;
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« Reply #71 on: December 25, 2007, 04:18:04 PM »

Boxman, i dont know how i missed this thread but this is the first i have heard and let me tell you how extremely HAPPY  :yahoo; i am for you my friend, Good luck to the both of you, i'll be sending good thoughts and prayers your way  :cuddle;
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« Reply #72 on: December 26, 2007, 10:10:11 AM »

I got to make the annoucement at our family Christmas get together. I am really proud of her and the cool thing is I had the chance to bring the awareness of donation back up

Yay Boxman!!! :bandance;
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« Reply #73 on: March 03, 2008, 05:05:36 AM »

Boxman - what ever happened?  Sorry I missed it.
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« Reply #74 on: March 03, 2008, 05:13:59 AM »

Hi Kidney4traci, well my sister was found to have an auto immune disease so she was disqualified. It was disappointing to say the leaset.
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