Do you want a transplant prior to starting dialysis?
And a general question. I assume the evaluation is primarily to determine my medical suitability to receive a transplanted organ - general health, risks, compatibility metrics, etc. That said, am I also being "evaluated" for my worthiness? will they be critiquing non-medically-significant lifestyle choices, personality, appearance, etc? I imagine they also want to feel satisfied that I'll be capable of the necessary responsibility and compliance, so I expect some sort of personality or psychological component to the evaluation, but is it going to end up more like a job interview or popularity contest than a medical evaluation?What sorts of tests and questions can I expect? Especially, what sorts of things will I be surprised by - things that they'll want to know or test that I wouldn't be expecting?
Any obvious disqualifications? Things that will absolutely prevent me from ever getting a transplant?
Speaking to why someone would not want a transplant, the most common answers I get is "I am too old," "I don't want surgery," and "I feel good on dialysis and don't want to mess that up."
Another reason is that you don't have a care partner and/or don't want to be taking anti-rejection meds for the rest of your life.
Your appearance will not have much to do with it, unless you come in and haven't bathed for two months or something crazy like that.
I guess it depends on how much you want a kidney. You are the petitioner here for a very rare and valuable "commodity." There are enough potential reasons for rejection without the barefoot/kilt issue. I'm all for "authenticity," but maybe it's not so wise in this instance.
I'd think that you'd want to take [other patients'] needs into consideration, particularly since you put a premium on being respected, you know?. Going barefoot might be interpreted as being "selfish" rather than being "authentic". Why take the risk?
A friend who has committed to looking after you post-op should be good enough. They just want to know that you can get to your post-op appointments. I'm assuming this friend is willing to drive you to your tx clinic each week for the first month or so?
My tx clinic is two hours away, and I've had many an early AM appointment. The good thing is that we made great time because there was hardly any traffic! Maybe this will be the case for you, too.
Before debating it too much call the transplant people and be upfront about your religious needs and ask what kind of accommodation they can assist with and what accommodation they need from you. I don't think you need to hide it but rather work with them. It sounds like you have had other medical issues. During that time were the medical teams able to accommodate you? Nevermind you answered this already. So that's good. Still I recommend talking about it in advance so they have some time to talk about you and get over the initial shock and so they know you are trying to help.
I'm concerned about the no shoes thing, as well as your profile tag line of "tree hugging dirt worshipper". Honestly, the dirt is most likely going to be an issue with your transplant team. I would be extremely up front with them about your lifestyle. I am saying this from the perspective that I was told I couldn't even mow my own lawn or pull weeds without a mask and gloves for at least a few months after transplant. Your immune system will be forever changed and you will have to be on immunosuppressive medications for the rest of your life. So there is the very real possibility that you could fall to an infection that you would have never affected you before. The last thing I think you would want is to hide something about yourself in order to get a kidney, only to revert back to that behavior and lose the kidney.
I'm not buying this. Who in their right mind would ever walk into a medical facility without shoes on unless it was an emergency situation. This guy wouldn't pass the psychological evaluation.