I remember feeling very, very cruddy for the first few weeks after I had my catheter placed and even after I started dialysis a home on my own. I don't think the nurse was accurate when she said your mom won't get any better. While it's true that dialysis isn't a cure, neither is transplant and there are positives and negatives with both. If she's getting adequate dialysis and her blood sugars are under control, she will start to FEEL better, gradually. She'll get more energy and be able to do more of the things she enjoys again.I think we all have days when we pity ourselves. Heck, why shouldn't we? It sucks having this disease!I don't know how old your mom is, but if she's elder, I would suggest that you find ways to keep her engaged in the world around her once she's feeling better, so she doesn't get focused on her illness to the exclusion of all else. The reason we do dialysis and transplants is so we can enjoy life! If we become defined by our disease and let it rule our days, we are not enjoying the quality of life dialysis can give us. We all have good days and bad and we all struggle with fatigue, but we find our new limits and don't let the fact that our limits have changed keep us from engaging in life as much as we can.Encourage your mom that with time, things will improve and do what you can to keep her spirits up. Depression can be a slippery slope!
I think your advice is spot on, beckums70! It is too easy to become so focused on one thing that we lose sight of another and before you know it, you're feeling crummy, overwhelmed and "stuck". I liken it to falling into a deep hole and the longer one stays in the hole, the harder it is to get out of it. I think the key is to stay active and to keep thinking about the usual parts to daily living that are not kidney/dialysis related and make plans to do something every day, whether it be for fun or a chore, big or small. Keep the mind and the body going!
Blood sugar is a lot like a huge yo-yo. Most everything will make it go up. Very little will bring it down and keep it down. Exercise is a terrible word. None of this will magically work over night. It took most of a lifetime to get like this, it is going to take some time, and a little effort, not a lot, and Mum will improve, a lot.Motivation, that Mum WILL get much better, but she has to put in the effort. She has made substantial progress already. It will only get better from here on.
There was some talk about her maybe going on icodextrin overnight, but I am not sure yet if they will as they believe the 2.5% dextrose is doing a good job.
The other thing she has since got a really sore shoulder. She may not have got rid of all the air bubbles when draining in. I'm not sure, but she can't explain it.
Hi K&S, she was on a diabetic menu while in hospital, so they put the high blood sugar levels down to the dextrose and her body not being very happy with it.Her waking blood sugars are looking a bit better but the rest of the day the are through the roof. They have sent her home now and to just follow their new regime and see how it goes.The other thing she has since got a really sore shoulder. She may not have got rid of all the air bubbles when draining in. I'm not sure, but she can't explain it.Hi Charlie, yes we will be writing and testing regularly now, just to keep an eye on her blood sugars and when it spikes etc. Just have to get through this bad patch and have faith that it will improve, but as you say maybe not over night or tomorrow but hopefully soon. Thank you
Why is your mom not able to do the cycler at night? It seems like it defeats the purpose of doing PD if it takes up your whole day.
Glad to hear your mother is out of the hospital! Always better at home! Sounds like you both have a good attitude towards what needs to be done. I agree, just focus on getting thru this latest "bad patch" as you put it. I am sure once she establishes a routine during the day, they will give her the green light to try it overnite. No doubt it is overwhelming and a lot to swallow right now. Every treatment tho is a success. Kudos for doing it!