Mixed Emotions

[raidym]

Hey everyone hope you're all keeping well got a call this morning to tell me in their words I'm "2in the transplant pool . Yes I'm happy with news. Happy I've built up the strength to eventually go on the list. But now my nerves are kicking in as my family and friends want to get tested and much as I thank them from the bottom of my heart and I do it makes me cry thinking anyone would do this for me. I dread who's gonna be a match as I don't want anyone to go through pain for me.  . I'm usually upbeat and try to put a positive spin on things but I can't  get to grips with this one. Just wondering does everyone feel the same wish I knew the proper way to feel and get over it If only it would make life easy

[Poppylicious]

Firstly, Yay!!

 

Secondly,

I dread who's gonna be a match as I don't want anyone to go through pain for me.  .

Nobody who wants to donate to you will make the decision lightly (I hope!) and any pain they suffer will be the best pain in the world because it's a pain that comes from loving and caring so much that they want to make a difference to you and your life.  Just don't let them read my most recent blog entry ... ha ha!

 

[MooseMom]

But now my nerves are kicking in as my family and friends want to get tested and much as I thank them from the bottom of my heart and I do it makes me cry thinking anyone would do this for me. I dread who's gonna be a match as I don't want anyone to go through pain for me.  .

If it makes you that uncomfortable to have a living donor, there is nothing that says you have to go this route.  You could easily tell your family and friends that you are grateful for their offer but do not wish to take them up on it; you can then just stay on the cadaveric list.

I've read posts from several other IHD members who have decided not to go the living donor route for the same reason that you have outlined.  In the end, we all have to live with the consequences of our decisions, and if you really think having a living donor will be too upsetting, then don't do it.

[Whamo]

    You should be happy people love you enough to give you a kidney.   

[raidym]

I'm feeling a bit better about it today and whamo I certainly am happy and very grateful to everyone who's getting tested. I have agreed with lots of persuasion to let people get tested and I agreed that once my nieces or anyone I remember as a baby doesn't get tested the rest can go ahead and get tested. I suppose it's keeping control a little bit but makes me feel a little bit better about things... Thanks for listening and replying...xxx