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« on: November 19, 2010, 04:03:20 PM »
I received an email from Bill's brother today letting me know that Bill passed away peacefully yesterday morning.  After getting over the initial shock and internal pain I thought of him and the many, many conversations we have over the past two years and decided it was time to come back to the forum.
I met Bill here at IHD and he literally saved my life.  Taking time to explain things like "What the hell is PTH?  When do I know if I need Epogen?  What do all these blood tests mean?"
Kidney disease was part of Bill's life for most of his life.  He had two transplants, spent time both on Hemo and PD.  He was an expert!  The dreadful disease took his time, his ability to walk and eventually the use of his hands, but it didn't break his spirit, his desire for adventure, his appetite for life(or good food) or his wicked, wicked sense of humor.
I will remember late night phone calls that lasted for hours, talking about everything and nothing.  Sharing stories of desert adventures that we had both enjoyed.  Tales of taking roads to nowhere...just to see where they went.  Chats about foods we couldn't eat on "kidney diets" and going into detail that made us drool and laugh.
Me listening through his pain when he lost his faithful companion "Wooley" and him listening to my trials and tribulations with children and grandchildren.
Bill and I shared a fierce independant streak and that frustrated him to no end, that he could no longer live alone, no longer get in his truck and drive to the east coast, no longer be who he wanted to be, so he made his choice and stopped dialysis. 
I see people in the forum ask often, "How long can a person go without kidney function or dialysis?"  In this case 10 days....10 very short...days.  In that time Bill spent time with family and friends and enjoyed apple pie a la mode and was at peace with his decision.
I will miss you Bill.  Give Wooley a great ear scratch for me.  Till we meet in a better place for another adventure and a strong cup of Starbucks (we will be able to get the big ones).  RIP Buddy.....love ya!
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« Reply #1 on: November 19, 2010, 04:14:41 PM »
Thank you for sharing this with us Wenchie.
Godspeed Bill, may you rest in peace.  :grouphug;
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« Reply #2 on: November 19, 2010, 04:16:39 PM »
I'm in tears and my heart hurts for Bill's family and for you.  The chat room got quite a work out with Bill and all his friends.  Thank you for sharing this news with us.  I hope he is painfree and and having a good laugh up there.  He brightened many days here with his advice and comments.  This is the hardest part about getting to know people here -- it is so hard to lose the friends we make.    Wenchie, I know you are hurting. Wish I could give you a real hug.    :cuddle;
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« Reply #3 on: November 19, 2010, 04:29:42 PM »
a big hug for you wenchie and for bill's family. i too am trying to keep tears from falling on the laptop. rest in peace bill.
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« Reply #4 on: November 19, 2010, 05:19:12 PM »
don't even know him but I am still crying...RIP another D comrade in a better place...

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« Reply #5 on: November 19, 2010, 05:26:18 PM »
RIP Bill so sad
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« Reply #6 on: November 19, 2010, 05:35:05 PM »
i had a few chats with Bill.  May he rest in peace.  :grouphug;
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« Reply #7 on: November 19, 2010, 05:37:19 PM »
I am so sorry..... I feel like I knew him because of your beautiful post.... :grouphug;
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« Reply #8 on: November 19, 2010, 06:36:08 PM »
RIP Bill.
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« Reply #9 on: November 19, 2010, 07:03:14 PM »
What an amazing tribute, Wenchi.  Bill was so sweet.  I wish I had been able to get to know him as well as you.  Rest in deep peace, Bill.  You will be missed, but thought of fondly.   :beer1;   :cuddle;
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« Reply #10 on: November 19, 2010, 07:08:09 PM »
Wonderful words, Wenchi. Hope that sharing will ease your grief.  :cuddle;
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« Reply #11 on: November 19, 2010, 07:15:42 PM »
Even though I didn't know him personally, from his posts I could tell he was a rare combination of compassion and intellect.  He fought a good fight and helped many along the way.  RIP.

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End of September 2010: after twelve days of training, we were asked to start dialyzing on our own at home, reluctantly, we agreed.
If you are on HD, did you know that Rapid fluid removal (UF = ultrafiltration) during dialysis is associated with cardiovascular morbidity?  http://ihatedialysis.com/forum/index.php?topic=20596
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« Reply #12 on: November 19, 2010, 07:38:02 PM »
Wow Wenchie.  CTD - Rest in peace until we meet again  :angel;
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« Reply #13 on: November 20, 2010, 12:09:38 AM »
RIP Bill, He was such a nice guy.
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« Reply #14 on: November 20, 2010, 02:47:13 AM »
Oh no!....

May Bill's gentle soul rest in peace...
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« Reply #15 on: November 20, 2010, 03:36:01 AM »
He is a hero.  He finally said "screw you" dialysis, and went in peace with family around him and pie and ice cream.  Someday I want to do the same.

He is at peace right now in a place with no machines.  Only coffee machines!

Thanks Wenchie for sharing this with us.
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« Reply #16 on: November 20, 2010, 04:08:45 AM »
R.I.P. Bill. You fought the good fight.
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« Reply #17 on: November 20, 2010, 04:54:28 AM »
Thanks for your lovely tribute Wenchie.  RIP Bill and thanks for being who you were. 
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Home haemo 1980-1985 (self-cannulated with 15 gauge sharps)
Cadaveric transplant 1985
New upper-arm fistula April 2008
Uldall-Cook catheter inserted May 2008
Haemo-dialysis, self care unit June 2008
(2 1/2 hours X 5 weekly)
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« Reply #18 on: November 20, 2010, 05:20:13 AM »
So sad to hear fom you Wenchie under these circumstances.

I used to chat with you and Bill in the chat room. I didn't know him that well, but we always had fun in chat and he was a nice guy.

I am sad he is gone, but that he made his choice and went on his terms is something I can appreciate and admire. My mother made a similar sort of decision herself.

RIP Bill. Best wishes to you out there in the land with endless pee and no dialysis!

Dear Wenchie, my hugs and thoughts go out to you, and Bill's family, at this time.  :grouphug; :grouphug; :grouphug;
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« Reply #19 on: November 20, 2010, 12:42:18 PM »
Bill was quite the one in the chat room. He had us in stitches much of the time. However if someone needed help he was there to help. I remember the one time I thought I was talking to a she instead of a he and said so in chat. Oh was my face red when Bill came back with a quip about a sudden change in gender??? 
It is hard to lose someone that you have talked with and been with through this maddening kidney disease. I hope he is in heaven having a fun time with no machines and a healthy well body!
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« Reply #20 on: November 20, 2010, 02:43:56 PM »

Thank you, Wenchie for your touching words.

I am very sorry and thanks for letting us know.

Kind regards from Kristina.
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« Reply #21 on: November 20, 2010, 03:22:07 PM »
R.I.P. , God bless.
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« Reply #22 on: November 20, 2010, 03:39:00 PM »
My deepest condolences to family and friends for the loss of Bill. At least he went his way.
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« Reply #23 on: November 21, 2010, 12:19:30 AM »
 :grouphug;  RIP Bill. Thank you for the advice and laughs.
 

:cuddle; Hugs to you Wenchie.

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« Reply #24 on: November 22, 2010, 08:42:24 PM »
 :grouphug;
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RIP Bill
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