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« on: November 09, 2009, 09:25:09 AM »

Many of you remember Inara as Leslie's caregiver. And you may also remember that she posted about her brush with suicide. Inara and Leslie need us.

Inara is in the hospital. If I am able to get the address of the hospital I will pass it on to you via PM if you are interested and want to send her a personal card.

Right now she has given up the will to live. She thinks she is not worthy of life. I am hoping that all of us who care about her will respond to this post. She will not be able to read the posts, but I will print them out, one by one and get them to her through Leslie.

I want there to be so many posts of caring and support that she will KNOW that we care and care deeply that she lives with the hope that she continues to fight for life.

Please help. I don't want to lose this friend.

With great sadness,

Aleta




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« Reply #1 on: November 09, 2009, 09:35:01 AM »

Irana...

Wishing you a speedy recovery...

Also wishing you peace, joy, health and happiness now and always...

Will be thinking of, and praying for you...

May God bless and protect you....

Love...  :grouphug;

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« Reply #2 on: November 09, 2009, 09:46:46 AM »

My loving thoughts and prayers are with her.  She has shown the world she is a loving, caring person by devoting her life to be a caregiver; a very hard job and sometimes overlooked.   She has touched the hearts of many people here.  I hope the clouds can part just enough to let a little sun shine down on her and she knows she is loved.   :cuddle;   
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« Reply #3 on: November 09, 2009, 10:17:27 AM »


My thoughts are with them both- I know how hard and thankless being a care giver can be- I know you are appreciated and loved by so many people,including here at IHD.   :grouphug; :grouphug; :grouphug; :grouphug;
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« Reply #4 on: November 09, 2009, 10:33:18 AM »

Oh sweetheart, whats brought you to this ?  :cuddle; I hope that knowing so many people out there from all around the world are thinking of you , will help raise your spirits. I really dont know what else to say ,except we want you back here with your IHD Family  :grouphug; God Bless xxx
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« Reply #5 on: November 09, 2009, 10:56:03 AM »

all of us at ihd need you. hurry up and get better. god bless you.
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« Reply #6 on: November 09, 2009, 11:03:11 AM »


I am sorry it's been so difficult Inara. I don't have any words of wisdom but I do know that people genuinely care about you and want to see you get through this. Please take care and come back to us when you can.  :grouphug; :grouphug; :grouphug;
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« Reply #7 on: November 09, 2009, 11:04:00 AM »


I do hope you get through this alright

and I wish you a speedy recovery.

My thoughts are with both of you

and I send you my kind wishes, Kristina  :grouphug;

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« Reply #8 on: November 09, 2009, 03:21:10 PM »

Inara, please get better and some back to us. You would be sorely missed on IHD. You are such a wonderful, warm and caring person, and we all love you.  :pray; :pray; :pray;
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« Reply #9 on: November 09, 2009, 03:25:05 PM »

All of us friends are still here.   Come back and join us.
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« Reply #10 on: November 09, 2009, 03:26:48 PM »

Hoping you are feeling better soon!
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« Reply #11 on: November 09, 2009, 04:08:21 PM »

Inara, I want you to know how very many people here have been touched by your struggle and also by your willingness to bravely share some of it with us.  Sadness and depression can be such dark shadows that lay in wait for us and steal away the pleasure that we can normally find in our lives.  I'm glad you're in hospital and hope that you will get some help to begin to find once again the value that we see in you so clearly but that you have lost sight of right now. 
Please stay the course and use all the resources available to you.  I want and need to see you posting again.
Sending my strongest and most positive thoughts your way and a bunch of hugs as well......Monrein
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« Reply #12 on: November 09, 2009, 04:18:16 PM »

Sending positive thoughts.   :flower;  Please know thet the people you care for do really and truly care for you as well.  Hope you get the help you need in hospital. Depression can be a very difficult thing for everyone involved.  take care.  :flower; :cuddle;
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« Reply #13 on: November 09, 2009, 04:36:18 PM »

Chronic kidney disease is such a difficult thing to deal with for all of those involved. Know that we are here for you and I hope you can get through this difficult stage in your life. Hang in there. With proper treatment, things will get better.
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« Reply #14 on: November 09, 2009, 04:47:20 PM »

Thank you, everyone. I have copied and printed all your posts so far. Each is on a separate page. If you did not include your "signature" in your post, I added who sent it.

Please keep these coming. I want to inundate Inara with well wishes to help bring her back to the land of light, love and laughter.

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« Reply #15 on: November 09, 2009, 06:28:53 PM »

Please get well for yourself and for your loved ones.  :flower;
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« Reply #16 on: November 09, 2009, 08:04:39 PM »

Hello Inara.  I am new here and I do not know you personally, but I do know what severe chronic depression is and how it tears a person up.  The good thing is that you are in a hospital where good caring people can help you.  You don't have to put on a show and tell everyone you are ok when they ask anymore.  You can be and you can now reach out and take the love and help all these people here are wanting you to have so badly.  This can be the beginning of a new chapter in your life.  With the right antidepressant and treatment, the world takes on a new wonderful feeling.  It is a feeling that something is missing.  It feels strange at first.  It is the depression lifting.  I can tell you it is a great feeling as I have felt it.  It can happen.  Please grab on to all the people who love you and care for you.  They will give you strength and the love to come back to the world.  You are a good person.  You deserve and so much more.  Please get well.
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« Reply #17 on: November 09, 2009, 08:17:10 PM »

Inara,
Please know that we all believe that this world is a much better place with people like you in it.  You are in my thoughts and prayers and I hope that you will get better and come to realize this truth.

signed with a big, huge hug,
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« Reply #18 on: November 09, 2009, 08:31:32 PM »

Inara,

You are such a caring person that you carry the troubles of everyone else on your shoulders. This would be overwhelming for anyone. I am relieved you are in a place where you can receive help and guidance in your time of need.  Please accept the help that is being offered. It will be a new chapter in your life...a wonderful new beginning.

I will keep you in my thoughts.

Pam

 
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« Reply #19 on: November 09, 2009, 08:55:12 PM »

aleta, please check your email.
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« Reply #20 on: November 09, 2009, 08:58:48 PM »

I hope you can see light at the end of the tunnel Inara.  Take every bit of help they can give you.  Thinking of you.
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« Reply #21 on: November 10, 2009, 02:10:33 AM »

You are special!!!!!!

In the world you might be just someone but to someone you are the world.

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« Reply #22 on: November 10, 2009, 07:23:05 AM »

I am so sorry that you are going through this difficult time.  You are a wonderful, caring person and there is a place for you.  I am sending you love and prayers. :grouphug; :grouphug; :grouphug;
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« Reply #23 on: November 10, 2009, 08:52:40 AM »

Inara, No one knows how you feel, but there is light at the end of the tunnel. Please look for it, and   :grouphug;  get well soon.   






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« Reply #24 on: November 10, 2009, 01:15:13 PM »

Dear Ones,

hi, this is leslie.

our precious Inara is gone.  I don't know how else to say it.  her heart stopped while she was in the hospital and they couldn't get her back.  autopsy was done this morning. god, i hate the thought of them cutting her up.

PLEASE respect her privacy.  She never gave out her real name online, but her name was Michelle.   she lived a very quiet, private life.  i don't think she ever fully recovered from the violent incident that happened to her when she was just 18.

she was the most beautiful person I've ever known, inside and out.  i'd love to share my memories of her sometime.  she was only 38.  she leaves behind me and my daughter, her gorgeous baby girl, her parents, her brother, and her husband.  we're all ....we just can't stop crying. 

please pray for us.  she'll be buried tomorrow.  and it's raining.  dear god....

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