A morbid subject

[Sara]

It is almost Halloween after all.     Do you want to be buried or cremated (or something else) after you die?

[Sara]

Me personally, I want to be buried in a plain wood box.  I don't want to be embalmed or anything - it creeps me out to think about that.  I don't want an open casket viewing.  I want a religious service, then put me in the ground.  I want my family to celebrate my life and remember how much I loved them.

Joe has told me he wants to be cremated and for his ashes to be put over my bed until I die.     I told him I'm going to stick him in an old coffee can in the tool shed.   

[Sluff]

I will be cremated and my son will take my ashes on the motorcycle to Mt Rushmore and Crazy Horse.

[paris]

Cremated, no viewing, memorial at my church. I want invitations sent for my "going away" party--I would like to make cd's of my favorite songs for party favors, balloons,lots of food, champayne toast, prizes for the person who can tell the funniest story about me----maybe I have been thinking about this too much!   Also, my church has a booklet that one can fill out with all your requests --type of service, musical choices, funeral home, creamation, pallbearer,where the service will be. Kind of morbid, but really made me think and by writing it down, it takes that stress off my family.  So, when the times comes, but on your party hat and join in the fun

[goofynina]

When i die i want to be stuffed and propped up on my couch so everyone can come and see me, lol, ew, that sounds gross huh?  lol,  Nah, the more i think about it, the more i want to be cremated.  I've tried to discuss this with my hubby but he wont listen 

[Sluff]

I've always wanted to learn taxidermy Goofynina..are you game?  Boy that is sick aint it?

[Epoman]

I want a PARTY, since my suffering is OVER. 

[Bajanne]

Honestly, I don't care what they do with my body.  However, I would like them to have a really lively celebration of my life.  No mournful songs, but happy rejoicing.
Given our situation, it is not really morbid, but proactive for us to think about what we would like when our beginning comes.   It would help our loved ones if they knew exactly what we wanted.  I must start writing down what I would like.

[vandie]

I want to be cremated.  My wishes are all in my will.  The less stress for everyone left when I'm gone, the better.

[Black]

I will donate any usefull organs and the rest will be cremated and shipped to FL for burial in the same plot with my younger brother, in the Red Level Cemetery.  It is very small and is the burial site for several generations of my fathers extended family.  I am distantly related to most of the people buried there.  My only funeral request is that the following be played:

Artist/Band: Paisley Brad
Lyrics for Song: When I Get Where I'm Going
Lyrics for Album: Time Well Wasted
(Feat. Dolly Parton)

When I get where I'm going
On the far side of the sky
The first thing that I'm gonna do
Is spread my wings and fly

I'm gonna land beside a lion
And run my fingers through his mane
Or I might find out what it's like
To ride a drop of rain

(Chorus:)
Yeah when I get where I'm going
There'll be only happy tears
I will shed the sins and struggles
I have carried all these years
And I'll leave my heart wide open
I will love and have no fear
Yeah when I get where I'm going
Don't cry for me down here

I'm gonna walk with my grand daddy
And he'll match me step for step
And I'll tell him how I missed him
Every minute since he left
Then I'll hug his neck

(Chorus)

So much pain and so much darkness
In this world we stumble through
All these questions I can't answer
So much work to do

But when I get where I'm going
And I see my maker's face
I'll stand forever in the light
Of his amazing grace
Yeah when I get where I'm going
There'll be only happy tears
Hallelujah
I will love and have no fear
When I get where I'm going
Yeah when I get where I'm going

Everything else is up to my nephew as he is the executor of my will and will dispose of my personal belongings.

[Ohio Buckeye]

I love that song.
I'm surprised how many people want to be cremated.
I love sitting around a fire but can't bear the thought of being in one
so I guess I want to be buried.
I'm thinking 1 viewing, a small or graveside service, a big feast with Elvis, religious
and some favorites playing.  I have a will and living will, Best friend is executor.
Don't want sons to make hard decisions and they probably would not let me go.
Hope I just leave peacefully, quietly and quickly to avoid hard decisions.
Need to think about funeral more and write it down. Got to make a list of old
friends, etc. to call. 

[Sluff]

I want a PARTY, since my suffering is OVER. 

And I'm sure you'll go to heaven after all the hell you've been through on earth.

[goofynina]

I've always wanted to learn taxidermy Goofynina..are you game?  Boy that is sick aint it?

I'd let you practice on me only if you promise to use REAL stuffing and not Stove Top    ew, what an awful thought huh? lol, 

[Ohio Buckeye]

wow, that is just too funny.
Morbid thread is turning unmorbid. 

[Epoman]

I've always wanted to learn taxidermy Goofynina..are you game?  Boy that is sick aint it?

I'd let you practice on me only if you promise to use REAL stuffing and not Stove Top    ew, what an awful thought huh? lol, 

I will mount goofyninas head like a moosehead and hang it on the wall. 

[Sara]

I love that Brad Paisley song too.  Great message.

[goofynina]

I've always wanted to learn taxidermy Goofynina..are you game?  Boy that is sick aint it?

I'd let you practice on me only if you promise to use REAL stuffing and not Stove Top    ew, what an awful thought huh? lol, 

I will mount goofyninas head like a moosehead and hang it on the wall. 

The only thing your going to be mounting is my MIDDLE FINGER,  lol

[jedimaster]

Don't know yet. What I know for sure is that I'll be donating my two defective kidneys to the Government people who doesn't support more resources for kidney research .

[kitkatz]

I love that Brad Paisley song.  It has gotten me through some tough times this past year or so. Also "When you're walking through hell keep on walking..."

Cremation or burial.... hmmmm.... I have not decided yet.  I would like to be buried in the cemetery out near Beaumont, CA if I am to be buried.

My daughters say I should be made into a diamond, yes they really do this, I looked it up.  Then they can hock me with the rest of the family jewels.  LOL.   Burned into a diamond.  Maybe that is what I will do with this old decrepit body when I am done with it.

[Rerun]

I want this defective, diseased body burned!  Then my ashes buried with my sister in Garfield, WA.  I'm going to start taking pictures of things I think are beautiful and put them on a PowerPoint presentation.  (I too think about this too much)  I need to pick some songs.  I like the Brad Paisley song except it is being sung by a Man.  I guess there is nothing wrong with that.  I like the Judd's "I know where I'm going....do you want to come to".  For religious songs:  As a Deer,  There is a Redeemer, Our God is an Awesome God.  Nice celebration of my life.  Food afterward. 

This was a good post Sara.

[Bette]

I have told my husband to do whatever brings him the most comfort.  It does not matter to me weather he buries me or has me cremated, because I will be gone.

[Bajanne]

I've always wanted to learn taxidermy Goofynina..are you game?  Boy that is sick aint it?

I'd let you practice on me only if you promise to use REAL stuffing and not Stove Top    ew, what an awful thought huh? lol, 

I will mount goofyninas head like a moosehead and hang it on the wall. 

The only thing your going to be mounting is my MIDDLE FINGER,  lol

"Now, now, now!!" says Aunty Bajanne, disapprovingly........

[Ohio Buckeye]

I was thinking about songs and I like an oldtime favorite
"What A Day That Will be".  There is neat lively song I've heard
Jessy Dixon sing "Wait Til You See My Brand New Home".  It is on
a Gaither Homecoming show.  There are so many good songs.
At my husband's we sang his favorite "Victory in Jesus" and 4 other of
his favorite newer songs and the choir sang a beautiful praise song "Worthy
is the Lamb" at my request.  He had a beautiful funeral. Some of us
wrote special memories. I think at the feast afterwards for me I want people to
share funny and good memories.

 

[okarol]

My dad died when I was 7 years old - he was 28 (amazingly he had been married 10 years and
had 3 and 3/4 kids in his short life) so all my life I thought I would probably die young. Now
I am well past 28 so I don't think about it so much. I say recycle as much of me as is feasible,
use the rest for catfood. I recently went to a funeral of a friend. They had all the cousins playing
instruments (violins, cellos, a very musical family) and a few people got up to talk about her. It
was an upbeat sort of event, not too sad. But at the end they had us all stand and said a prayer,
and through the side door of the church came a mariachi band playing the most beautiful song,
while a young man sang. That's when I lost it. Mimi would have loved it, and her family knew that.

[Ohio Buckeye]

wow, only 28 and you were only 7.  how sad.
my sons were 19 and 23 when their Dad died.  I think the 19 yr old still struggles
as he is a very quiet private person.
I know what you mean.  My oldest brother passed at 53 and the other one had a
cardiac arrest at 46 but they worked on him til they revived him and he lived in a
vegetative state 13 more yrs and passed at 59.  could not talk, walk, feed himself
and didn't appear to recognize us. He continued to live after taken off of life support.
and it's caused me to be grateful for every day I can still get out of bed and
walk, talk, etc.  he had it much worse than I do.
That's when my husband and I made a living will.
Needless to say when I hit 60 last year it was a real milestone and will be
61 in Dec. I've lived longer than any of the siblings.  I have a sister 6 yrs younger but
she is like from a different family as far as health problems and has none.
she probably has our Dad's genes and others have Mom's.