at the Board table

[Everlasting]

Hi:  I attended a conference yesterday that was focusied on Victor's post-stroke situation and his discharge and participation in the community.  Victor spoke (with great difficulty) why he would like to be with me over the long weekend and then return for four more days before being discharged.  Prior to the conference I had heard the rumor that he would be discharged today and both he and myself are not ready for him to return to the community in his present state. 
     It's all about freeing up hospital beds for new patients. Others around the board supported him going home and formally discharged and continue therapy as an outpatient.  Without much ability to have input it was a done deal.  However, this morning I got a call from the physician to say that Victor will return on Tuesday for additional therapy as an in-patient.
     When the team first entered the room at the beginning of the meeting, I was seated on a "normal" chair and my wheelchair was off in a corner.  (the physician was not aware I was a wheeler while at the table).  The outcome of the meeting was that Victor would be discharged today and continue therpay as an out-patient. (Victor and I were most disappointed!) 
     This morning (Friday of the long Thanksgiving weekend) I received a call from the physician who informed me that they had changed their minds and will want Victor to return after the weekend as he had hoped. 
     I am absolutely sure that the awareness and presence of my wheelchair caused the physician to rethink how Victor would do when his partner was a wheeler.
Curious!
Everlasting

[willowtreewren]

It is always hard to second guess the reasoning of others. (And even harder to resist the urge to do so!  )

But as long as you have what you originally wanted, I would advise not looking the gift horse in the mouth.

 

Aleta

[thegrammalady]

while i'm sure you don't often play or like to play the "wheelchair" card, i'm of the firm belief that there are time you should. you know you are far more capable than people give you credit for, but sometimes it's ok to pay on other people's insecurities. best of luck to both of you on your long weekend.

[Jean]

Take advantage of any thing you can get with the wheelchair. Cry if you need to. But get all you can, be greedy. I know you dont like sympathy because you are in a chari, but if it helps then go for it.