A summer of sadness...

[pelagia]

Dear IHD family,

Some of you will have noticed that I haven't been around much at all this summer.  It's not because I don't care about you!  I think of my IHD family often.  I miss your stories, humor and wisdom. 

This has been a summer of sadness for me.  My husband and I separated at the end of May after 33 years together.  It's not what I wanted, but I am trying to move on with my life. 

Much more difficult for me to accept right now is that, as of a week ago, my not quite 19 year old son Will is on blood pressure med. We knew his bp was rising a bit over the last school year, but the college health center doc gave us a wait and see. The link to PKD looms over us.  When he went to our doc last week for a full physical they measured protein in his urine.  The doc wants an ultrasound done right away, so I am taking Will to the hospital this Friday afternoon. I am praying that somehow the protein in the urine will be a coincidence and not an indication that something more serious is happening now.  Will had been training hard for a triathalon, and heavy exertion and emotional stress can both cause protein release, but perhaps not to the level they measured.  I don't have the lab results in hand and won't have them until Friday, which is frustrating.  I am worrying about my son's health and also about having a definitive diagnosis of PKD.

One of the most important things I have gained from participating in this community is a sense of how strong people can be during times of crisis.  It inspires me to stay strong for my own well-being and because my son needs my support. 

Please keep us in your thoughts and prayers.  I will post an update about my son when I have more news.

[twirl]

Pelegia
thank you for your pm's this summer -
I was so worried about how your son was handling your separation -
I found out I had PKD in college when I was 20
and I had no problems until many years later
I am praying for you
and thanks for planting a Cheryl flower
photo please
your dear friend,
Cheryl

[okarol]

I am sorry about all the challenges life has thrown your way but I know you'll do your best to get through it. We are all here for you and care very much how you are doing.
With Will, all you can do is take it one day at a time. Please let us know how the ultrasound goes.
 

[willowtreewren]

Oh, I am so sorry to hear this news. We ARE here for you, but from this end, warm thoughts and support seem so meager. I wish there were more I could do.

Please be strong.

 

Aleta

[willieandwinnie]

  Linda, you know we are here for you and please, please let us know about Will. I say a special pray and keep you both in my thoughts. You have been through enough. 

[Rerun]

Tell him to not let the door hit him in his TRANSPLANTED ASS on the way out!  OMG you SO don't need him.  Linda.... RUN.  His kidney won't last forever and you don't need to be his nurse and purse later on in life if this is how he is going to be.

                              OK!  sorry~  I know it must be hard.

I hope your son gets the information he needs to keep his kidneys running for as long as possible.

[MandaMe1986]

Im so sorry... I am with Rerun. 

[dwcrawford]

I have no comment about your husband except... well, maybe its what they refer to as good riddance.

But for your son, I'm so sorry.  I hope all is all right with him for a long time.  I hate when such young people have to go through these things. 

[Wattle]

   I am sorry Linda that your problems couldn't be worked out. After 33 years I am sure you both tried.

Stay positive for your son. PKD is nasty but you will both deal with "what will be". Sending hugs. xox   "

[Wenchie58]

Sorry to hear of your rough summer.  Being there for your son is obviously your place right now.  Keep your chin up and a positive attitude.  I'm hoping for the best for you and yours.

 

[Hanify]

Thinking of you and your family.

[kellyt]

 

[Jean]

 

[rose1999]

Linda, you know how sad I feel about your breakup but I didn't know about Will and I am SO sorry to hear that, neither of you deserve all of this grief.  You have been strong for me and for others on this board now we will be strong for you.   I still have issues but I am here for you, we can lean on one another.  As Rerun told me in another post - you can eat the elephant if you take it a bite at a time - such wise words, I will carry that thought with me and I hope you will too, we love you xxx

[petey]

pelagia -- you and Will are in my thoughts and prayers

[monrein]

Linda, I hope you can feel the hugs and thoughts of strength that I'm sending to you telepathically at this moment.  I know that this is a really tough time and the worries about Will must be unbearable.
You mean so much to so many of us and I want things to be better in your world. 

[lola]

Linda, I am just heartbroken for you. I pray everything with Will goes ok Friday, we're here for you. xoxoxoxo

[kitkatz]

I can only give you hugs and offer my prayers for your life to calm down a little. 

[MIbarra]

Oh I am so sorry for all of this! I will keep you and your son in my prayers. 

[Des]

It is SO sad to hear that someone can just stop being married after such a long time. My heart goes out to you. Please know that I wish you all the strength to go on. I hope and pray that your son is o.k.

Hugs

[cherpep]

I am so sorry that you are going through so much.  You have been missed here on the boards, and I'm sorry your absence hasn't been for good reasons.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your son.  Hang in there, come back when you need to talk.   

[G-Ma]

I am so sorry and pray for you and Will.  God will take care of the other one in his own time.

[Bajanne]

I am hurting along with you.  But at the same time, I know the strength of the human spirit.  My caring thoughts are with you all the way, especially concerning your son.   Be assured that your IHD family is with you for the long haul.

[paris]

Linda, I am so very sorry.  Your plate is very full and I wish we could be of more help to you.  I will keep you and Will in my prayers.  None of this is easy for him.  I can't imagine the pain and worry you are going through right now.  How are you?  Do you have family and friends to lean on right now?  You know you have all of us and we are here around the clock.     Are you doing OK?   Come here any time you want to scream or cry.  Sending you lots of love        I am sorry.

[glitter]

I hadn't posted yet, not because I don't care, but because I could not think of anything that might give you comfort..my heart goes out to your son. and of course to yourself. Finding yourself in a position you don't want to be in sucks so much. 33 years is a very long time, I am flabbergasted. I will be thinking of you, and sending positive thoughts your way. I am very sorry your going through all of this.