kraze it's so wonderful you're about to celebrate 6 months with your beautiful gift!!I'm interested that you use the phrase "traumatize" in your post. Certainly being called and told you're 1 in 5 would be stressful and not knowing if it might be go or not would be horribly stressful, but I think if it was me (or will be potentially....) it would be so uplifting to know that I was so *close* to one. Maybe not this one... but perhaps the next sort of thing. Of course you would have had your brother's transplant scheduled till then - did you inform them of this fact? I think if it was me I would have declined the offer saying "I have a week to go till a scheduled live donor transplant" Why? Because we all know a live donor transplant is usually going to have a better outcome and I'm sure your brother was a better match for you than the cadaver.I guess this opens another area for discussion - with a pending live donation from a relative or friend if you were offered a cadaver kidney would you take it to "spare" your live donor? (I am not sure what I would do in that situation myself)
I would never be asked that. I did not sign the "Extended Criteria" form. The neph even said he wouldn't sign it at my age...I most likely need multiple transplants in life..getting an older kidney that would work for an even shorter period of time...no.