RANT TIME: I always knew the "answer" but I just never asked, WELL I DID AND..

[Epoman]

I'm sorry Epoman.

It's ok, I lost a Brother, but I gained a Sister, "goofynina" has shown me more love than my brother has in the last decade. 

- Epoman

[goofynina]

Epoman,  so, you say your brotherless huh?  Well, good news,  at least your not sisterless,  nope,  you got one big bad ass sister who can kick your ass in dominoes anyday of the week and twice on Sunday... And you know this, maaaaan  

[mrhecht]

Epoman, your brother sucks and doesn't deserve the term 'brother'.

[jedimaster]

Here is the Jedi again...sorry...I believe he is still your brother and he will appear as soon as he matures...give him time. I know you don't agree, but time will deliver you good news...you deserve them...

[okarol]

Epo - You may want to follow this thread on Living Donors Online - it's about family members being asked
to donate -- http://www.livingdonorsonline.org/dcforum/DCForumID7/3914.html titled "Family Rift"

~Karol

[Epoman]

Epo - You may want to follow this thread on Living Donors Online - it's about family members being asked
to donate -- http://www.livingdonorsonline.org/dcforum/DCForumID7/3914.html titled "Family Rift"

~Karol

It doesn't matter anymore, as I no longer have a brother. But thanks for the link.

- Epoman

[kelliOR]

still learning how to quote .  see below

[kelliOR]

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It doesn't matter anymore, as I no longer have a brother. But thanks for the link.

- Epoman

I no longer have a sister.  Maybe they should form a club.

Kelli

[Epoman]

I know I said I will emotionally detach myself from my brother, but I am posting here again because a few of you are kind enough and concerned enough to want to know an update and the situation, thank you for your kind PM's. And then I came across this on another thread:

Here is the link: http://ihatedialysis.com/forum/index.php?topic=2564.msg37573#msg37573

My sister's still a little worse for wear, but what she said to the surgeon right  during testing, when he was cautioning her about pain and side effects, was this: My sister's had too many "bad days" for me to remember; I can spare a few of my own to help her live like everyone else again.

It made me sad to read that, about how much one sister loves another. And it just got me thinking and wondering his thoughts at this moment, if he even thinks of me at all. It has been over 4 months now that he has not said one word to me. So that's the update for those who were wondering.

- Epoman

[Amanda From OZ]

Epoman this seems to bother you a lot (as it should) have you ever thought of going to see him and confront him about everything? i would. What do you have to lose?

[angieskidney]

Epoman this seems to bother you a lot (as it should) have you ever thought of going to see him and confront him about everything? i would. What do you have to lose?

I think he is waiting for his brother to apologize for lying and saying he would call back and then ignoring him for holidays and everything ever since.

Maybe he needs to watch this vid.

[Epoman]

Epoman this seems to bother you a lot (as it should) have you ever thought of going to see him and confront him about everything? i would. What do you have to lose?

Pride, dignity, you know the usual. What happens if I go to him and he walks away? Or he refuses to talk to me like last time. Then I get hurt all over again? 

Believe me I understand what you are saying, but I was the one who always did that in the past and I just can't do it anymore. 

- Epoman

[Sluff]

Epoman this seems to bother you a lot (as it should) have you ever thought of going to see him and confront him about everything? i would. What do you have to lose?

Pride, dignity, you know the usual. What happens if I go to him and he walks away? Or he refuses to talk to me like last time. Then I get hurt all over again? 

Believe me I understand what you are saying, but I was the one who always did that in the past and I just can't do it anymore. 

- Epoman

We need to write a letter. Tell him exactly how you feel, then the ball is in his corner but don't compromise yourself one bit.   Just my 

[Amanda From OZ]

A letter will not work with your brother, he hasn't bothered to contact you by doing something as easy as picking up the phone....... i doubt he will read the letter.. If i was you and it bothered me that much i would go confront him one more time and tell him exactly what you feel...... even if you get hurt at the end i believe it will be worth it....to finally speak to him face to face and tell him how he has made you feel.... and then if he still rejects you and your family, your bother isn't worth anymore time or effort, let alone a topic thread on this forum about him.

[glitter]

or you could just let it lay for now-maybe there are still things to think of. No pressure.

[Bajanne]

I wonder what the brother and mother are feeling right now.....

[Sluff]

I wonder what the brother and mother are feeling right now.....

My feelings exactly. They have to live with this, the rest of their lives.

[kelliOR]

I wonder what the brother and mother are feeling right now.....

the same thing went through my thoughts also, bajanne.........

[Sara]

I was wondering that too, Baj. 

[glitter]

or you could just let it lay for now-maybe there are still things to think of. No pressure.

hindsight-maybe this taught me something about avoiding conflict in my own family.

[Ohio Buckeye]

I have beeen thinking a lot about this also.
It is sad.

Here is a poem that is sooooooooooo true.

IF I KNEW
If I knew it would be the last ime
that I saw you walk out the door,
I would give you a hug and kiss
and call you back for more.

If I knew it would be the last time
I'd hear your voice lifted up in praise,
I would video tape each action and word,
So I could reply it day by day.

If I knew it would be the last time
I would spare an extra minute or two,
To stop and say "I love you"
Instead of assuming that you know that I do.

For surely there is a tomorrow,
To make up for an oversight,
And we always get a second chance
To make everything right.

There will always be another day
To say our "I love you's"
And certainly another chance
To say "anything I can do's?"

But just in case I might be wrong
and today is all I get
I'd like to say how much "I love you"
and hope you never forget.

Tomorrow is not promised to anyone
young and old alike,
And today may be the last chance you get,
To hold your loved ones tight.

So hold your loved ones close today,
whisper in their ear,
Tll them how much you love them
And that you'll always hold them dear.

Take the time to say "I'm sorry"
Please forgive me "thank you" or "It's ok"
And dif tomorrow never comes
You'll have no regrets about today.

[Sluff]

There is a lot of truth in that poem. Thanks for sharing it with us.

[okarol]

For those of you who haven't seen this before - it's 3 pages but it's an amazing thread.