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Title: Facebook brou ha ha
Post by: paris on April 25, 2010, 05:50:42 PM
I created a huge "discussion" on my facebook page.  I simply put statistics regarding organ donation as my status.  ( # of people on the list, how long the wait time is, etc).   It was going along just fine, until my cousins boyfriend posted that he always checks NO when asked if he wants to donate his organs.   His reasoning?  Because we are not good enough Christians if we have to rely on scientific medical interventions.  All we need to do is pray. God heals us if we just believe hard enough and pray the right way.   Let me just say, all Hell broke loose.  Even WillieandWinnie gave Neil a piece of her mind (thanks for the support!).  It is causing some family upsets.  Now he has pm'd me and asked me to delete my entire thread so it will "die down" and everyone can move on.   NO WAY!    My status was just for information. Who would have ever expected an idiot relative to go on a rant about how we aren't good Christians?   By the way,  this is Gracie's (the orphan from Haiti) Mommy's boyfriend.   Some of us are extremely concerned about Katy's future with this nut case. How can anyone believe he will get good medical help if they are in an emergency?   I just needed to vent here for a moment.   So, if you're on facebook and want to get really worked up, please read and comment ----- because I am not deleting my thread!     Thanks for reading!  I am done    :rofl;
Title: Re: Facebook brou ha ha
Post by: karen547 on April 25, 2010, 05:58:46 PM
Wow, that really is messed up. I mean I have nothing against religious people, I just happen to not be very religious myself. I hate it when someone goes and shoves their religion down someones throat like that. To say what he did, well he must be pretty ignorant.
Title: Re: Facebook brou ha ha
Post by: okarol on April 25, 2010, 06:10:32 PM
May God bless him with excellent health all of his days.
Title: Re: Facebook brou ha ha
Post by: paris on April 25, 2010, 06:30:09 PM
He just sent me a pm saying he will be glad to come to North Carolina and "lay his hands" on me to heal me!!  He isn't getting close enough to lay anything on me!!!!!   If I just believe enough-------       I guess this is an entire site of atheists. Why else would we all have kidney failure?  I replied to him by simply saying that I would be praying for him.
Title: Re: Facebook brou ha ha
Post by: Rerun on April 25, 2010, 06:47:04 PM
I wrote this big long thing, but I've decided to not touch this one except to say that we need to lay hands on your niece to be healed from dumb love and dump this guy.

Title: Re: Facebook brou ha ha
Post by: Sluff on April 25, 2010, 06:56:02 PM
Sounds a little like my sister.  :rofl;
Title: Re: Facebook brou ha ha
Post by: paris on April 25, 2010, 07:31:06 PM
I wrote this big long thing, but I've decided to not touch this one except to say that we need to lay hands on your niece to be healed from dumb love and dump this guy.



You made me laugh!!  Please Lord let Katy see the light before she goes any farther in this relationship! 
Title: Re: Facebook brou ha ha
Post by: kitkatz on April 25, 2010, 07:51:21 PM
 :Kit n Stik; :Kit n Stik; :Kit n Stik;
Title: Re: Facebook brou ha ha
Post by: galvo on April 25, 2010, 08:21:36 PM
I'd happily lay my fists hands on him.
Title: Re: Facebook brou ha ha
Post by: MooseMom on April 25, 2010, 08:39:47 PM
How arrogant of this guy to think that he knows the mind of God.  Perhaps he should consider the possibility that God helps those who help themselves...and others,  and that God has given us the ability to stretch our minds through science and our hearts through organ donation. 
Title: Re: Facebook brou ha ha
Post by: circleNthedrain on April 25, 2010, 08:47:05 PM
Im a beliver in the power of prayer....if the boat is sinkin', pray, and row like hell for the shore!
Title: Re: Facebook brou ha ha
Post by: Mimi on April 25, 2010, 09:14:27 PM
The religion of Christian Science believes only in spiritual healing and some will let their families and even themselves die before seeking medical treatment.  I believe God gave us medical doctors and nurses as a way of healing the body when it is sick and diseased.  I also believe in the power of prayer to be used along with doctors, nurses, and medicines.  I hope your neice realizes what she is getting into with this man.  I will be praying for them.
Title: Re: Facebook brou ha ha
Post by: Chris on April 25, 2010, 09:37:24 PM
Guess I ahould pay more attention on Facebook rather than what has happened in the news about Facebook.
 
Thing that sticks in my mind is that Christianity supports and other religions support organ donation according to what I have read from NKF and UNOS.
 
I don't want him touching me either
Title: Re: Facebook brou ha ha
Post by: Wallyz on April 25, 2010, 09:46:49 PM
Bad things don't happen to you if you have enough faith. Just look at Jesus. He had perfect faith and nothing bad ever happened to him. Plus, that guy Job. It says right there in the Bible he did horrible things to deserve all that illness and loss.
Title: Re: Facebook brou ha ha
Post by: RichardMEL on April 25, 2010, 10:09:00 PM
I think karma will come back to this guy at some stage. The irony would be if he needed an organ transplant, or some kind of serious medical intevention at some stage. My grandmother on one side was a christian scientist (or whatever you call believers in Christian Science - what an ironic name btw) and it was sad when she was dying she refused medical care. Hey, that's her right absolutely.

I am not religious and I don't want to get into a big debate about that (we know how these tend to go here on IHD!) but I will say this - I find it objectionable for someone - anyone - to push their views on someone else (eg: "If you just pray hard enough you'll be healed" - which by inference suggests if you don't get magically healed that somehow you're not a good enough person in the eyes of God? I though God was all knowing, all loving, etc??). I have no issue with this guy's personal choice to not donate - it's his body and he can do what he likes - but to be pushing that stuff onto others, that gets my nose out of joint.

As for the "I'll come and lay my hands on you to heal you" yeah... ummm... scary?!! I'd write back and say "Sure, but only if we do it in a sauna with some stem cells...."

Title: Re: Facebook brou ha ha
Post by: Jean on April 25, 2010, 11:00:15 PM
Im tellin you Paris, you do need a local hit man. If you ever see him, knock him upside the head for me, will you please?
Title: Re: Facebook brou ha ha
Post by: Darthvadar on April 26, 2010, 05:42:24 AM
There's ALWAYS one, isn't there???...

Don't take down the thread.... Let it run it's course!... If nothing else, if he gets a hard time from family members, so be it... Might get him to think with his head (the one with the ears!)... Sorry, couldn't resist that!......

Perhaps it'll teach him to engage brain before accelerating mouth!.....

Grrrrrrrr!!!!!!.....

Darth....
Title: Re: Facebook brou ha ha
Post by: looneytunes on April 26, 2010, 05:53:56 AM
Paris, I got steamed by reading this....I hope Katy comes to her senses soon;  before he leads her into a Jamestown situation.  What an absolute nutcase.  I agree with RM.....his inference is that if we are not healed through the power of prayer, then somehow we are not good enough.  That is NOT the God I know.   
Title: Re: Facebook brou ha ha
Post by: paris on April 26, 2010, 06:01:16 AM
Thank you friends for your comments.  I have received emails from several family members who all are concerned about this guy and Katy's relationship (including Katy's Mom).  I am not the only one who thinks he is nuts.   I keep thinking about the story of the man on top of his house while the flood waters rise around him.  A row boat comes, but he refuses to get on "God will save me"   A helicoptor comes to rescue him, "No, God will save me".   Finally  he plees to God " God why did you forsake me?"   God relied, " I sent a boat and a helicoptor!".    :rofl;   We are expected to help ourselves and each other.   Thanks for helping me by listening.   :cuddle;
Title: Re: Facebook brou ha ha
Post by: karen547 on April 26, 2010, 06:17:34 AM
Wallyz are you saying that if we all prayed enough we wouldnt all have kidney disease??
Title: Re: Facebook brou ha ha
Post by: MooseMom on April 26, 2010, 08:07:08 AM
I think Wallyz is being sarcastic.
Title: Re: Facebook brou ha ha
Post by: Brightsky69 on April 26, 2010, 10:30:56 AM
paris - no offense but your cousins boyfriend is a dumb a$$ mother f*cker!
Title: Re: Facebook brou ha ha
Post by: Sunny on April 26, 2010, 01:28:57 PM
Block him from your Facebook so you don't have to deal with this wacko.
Is easy to do. A thoughtless bonehead like that has no right to have access to your Facebook page.
You'll feel so much better not having to even think about him again.(or at least it wil make it easier not ot think about him).
Title: Re: Facebook brou ha ha
Post by: Wallyz on April 26, 2010, 01:48:31 PM
I think Wallyz is being sarcastic.
Why yes, yes I am.  Karen- Jesus is referred to as being without sin, yet he was betrayed tortured and crucified.  Job was described blameless before the lord and faithful, but God allowed horrific things to be done  to him.  People who say these sorts of things (pray harder, you will be cured) have obviously never read the Bible.
Title: Re: Facebook brou ha ha
Post by: paris on April 26, 2010, 01:54:45 PM
Brightsky,   :thumbup;   Couldn't have said it better myself!

Sunny, he is defriended.   :2thumbsup;

The hard thing with this is Katy is family. This nut case isn't, but poor Katy is caught in the middle.  I found out that he had a huge blow up Easter with Katy's Mom and Grandmother. Again he was spouting his version of Christianity.   Apparently, Katy just stood there not knowing who to defend.   Katy is in her early 30's and this is her first serious boyfriend. She has a gorgeous older sister and has always lived in her shadow. Katy is large, plain and bi-polar.  Her sister is extremely worried about Katy and fears that Katy thinks this is her only chance at marraige.  She would be much better just being  a mother to Gracie and forget having a man around.   Not sure how my innocent facebook status blew up into a major family event!!  Leave it to me!   :rofl; 
Title: Re: Facebook brou ha ha
Post by: kellyt on April 26, 2010, 03:25:56 PM
 ::)    Paris, after all you've been through in your family, you should demand a screening process in order to marry into your family.   :rofl;  YOU will be the screener, BTW.   You don't need this crap.
Title: Re: Facebook brou ha ha
Post by: jbeany on April 26, 2010, 04:57:02 PM
There is a time for all things, and that includes sickness! 

He's a twit - but then he is responsible for how many more people who are now praying - for Katy to wake up!
Title: Re: Facebook brou ha ha
Post by: Stoday on April 26, 2010, 05:14:15 PM
Just look at Jesus. He had perfect faith and nothing bad ever happened to him.

Really?

"Eloi Eloi lema sabachthani?" which is translated, "My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?"
Title: Re: Facebook brou ha ha
Post by: suzyq73176 on April 26, 2010, 06:43:18 PM
I wonder how christian it is to have the ability to save a life and not do it.
Title: Re: Facebook brou ha ha
Post by: Wallyz on April 27, 2010, 07:28:45 AM
Just look at Jesus. He had perfect faith and nothing bad ever happened to him.

Really?

"Eloi Eloi lema sabachthani?" which is translated, "My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?"
Good discussion- probably should take it elsewhere so as to not threadjack.
Title: Re: Facebook brou ha ha
Post by: paris on April 27, 2010, 09:17:23 AM
I have talked with Katy's Mom and got a long email from Katy.  She is upset with Neil and embarrassed that he insulted so many of her relatives. Hopefully, this has made her aware of a huge problem that they need to address before this relationship goes any further.  The good thing is she cannot get married right now. The adoption process is ongoing and is only with Katy. If she gets married, the process would start from the very beginning.   So, maybe time will take care of the problem. 
Title: Re: Facebook brou ha ha
Post by: RichardMEL on April 28, 2010, 12:14:28 AM
Introduce Katy to me. I have always liked girls named Kate. I'll flirt my way in and remind her that not all guys are like that.  :rofl;  >:D  :rofl;

I hope she can come to her senses and realise that the first guy to show serious interest in her doesn't have to be THE ONE. I am sure she feels her options are limited at her age, and if she's as you say "large, plain and bi-polar" - well I've had plenty of "large and plain" girlfriends and they are beautiful people. If she's so unhappy with herself, body wise etc, perhaps there are things she can do FOR HER (not for anyone else) to improve that - exercise, diet, lapband, whatever.... to get her feeling more confident about herself and her ability to find a guy that better suits her.

Hopefully she'll realise that when she's constantly forced into defending her boyfriend when she probably doesn't agree with half the stuff he's spouting that it's time to move on.

I say keep the thread up. While it has fired up people I think it will have got quite a number of people thinking about the subject, and anytime that the issues of organ donation are out in the public, it  can only be good if it gets just one person to think "Yes, I want to do this." and make it happen - then it's all worthwhile.

Title: Re: Facebook brou ha ha
Post by: paris on April 28, 2010, 08:02:41 PM
Oh Richard, I wish I could have you meet Katy!  I probably didn't sound very kind when I described her.  She has spent her whole life hearing everyone tell her sister how beautiful she is and I always felt bad for Katy.  And then as a teenager, her behavior became so odd. Thankfully, her Mom found great help for her and Katy went on to college and is now a social worker.  She has a fullfilling career and now her sweet little girl, so her life is pretty good.  It would be better without Neil.   I have had more phone calls from Ohio than I ever had.  People are worried that I am upset.   I'm not; just worried for Katy and what will happen now.   Thank you for all your comments.   I will let you know if anything new happens.
Title: Re: Facebook brou ha ha
Post by: looneytunes on April 28, 2010, 08:44:01 PM
RM...you are a gem of a guy for offering to do this for Katy.  And Paris, I think it's a great idea even if they only meet online.  Maybe RM can help her realize a few things. 

I have a stepdaughter who is also a large girl with a poor self-image and is emotionally stunted.  I worry so much that she will fall for the 1st guy that comes along and pays attention to her and then he will turn out to be a jerk.  So...kudos to you RM for being willing to help. 
Title: Re: Facebook brou ha ha
Post by: thegrammalady on April 29, 2010, 03:02:02 PM
how did i miss this???? both here and on facebook. well i know how i missed it here, i'm not around as much as i used to be. but i check my friends on facebook almost every day. one consoling thought... just because he checked no to organ donation doesn't mean he won't become an organ donor. the way things are set up now if asked, his family could still say yes. not that i advocate he leave the planet, but i've always been a firm believer in "what goes around, comes around"
Title: Re: Facebook brou ha ha
Post by: Hemodoc on May 28, 2010, 08:41:54 AM
Perhaps he never heard of Luke the physician who also wrote two books of the Bible, Luke and Acts.  I have absolutely no problem with medicine and Christianity with no doubt that the vocation I spent my adult life in was where the Lord wanted me.  Prayer and faith are a very important part of our life, as well as science based remedies.  Wisdom and knowledge are a virtue in the Bible.  They are not incompatible at all.
Title: Re: Facebook brou ha ha
Post by: peleroja on May 28, 2010, 03:53:40 PM
God heals us if we just believe hard enough and pray the right way.

Looks like according to him us Atheists are totally screwed.   :rofl;