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Off-Topic => Off-Topic: Talk about anything you want. => Topic started by: Sara on November 22, 2006, 12:50:28 PM
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A friend of mine is pregnant, and is considering letting us adopt her baby rather than having an abortion. (No abortion debates please. :))Please pray that she decides to let us, and that she has a healthy and easy pregnancy, and that we are able to make this happen. I'd really appreciate it, as it could go either way at this point (it would be a big sacrifice for her to carry this child to term, in many respects). :thx;
Edit: We have also inquired about adopting a 14 year old boy that I never posted about. Prayers and good thoughts would be appreciated. If he ends up not coming home to us, he really deserves a good family, as he's been through a rough few years.
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Lots of tough choices and no easy answers . . . I hope every thing works out for all of you.
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God will work things out for the best. Thankyou for wanting to be in an unborn child's life, that speaks volumes. I pray you get to help in both child's lives.
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Sara, lots of prayers for all of you. :thumbup;
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I will pray that she chooses "Life" for that baby and I hope she chooses "you" and the parents. God Bless this whole situation.
:grouphug;
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I will for sure.... :clap;
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I'll talk to the big guy for ya. ;)
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My thoughts and prayers are with both of you, and the children.
My husband's son adopted a little boy who went to their church with his foster family. He is adorable and oh, so sweet. But, please be cautious. Mike and I were hoping to adopt a baby from a young girl we knew. She went into labor a several weeks premature (on MY birthday!) the doctors were able to stop the labor but she realized how much she and the baby's father cared about the baby when she almost lost it and they kept her! I was so heartbroken, and more so after I heard she was being neglected before she was a year old. It took me years to get over that.
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I will keep you, your friend, and the children in my prayers!
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My thoughts and prayers are with both of you, and the children.
My husband's son adopted a little boy who went to their church with his foster family. He is adorable and oh, so sweet. But, please be cautious. Mike and I were hoping to adopt a baby from a young girl we knew. She went into labor a several weeks premature (on MY birthday!) the doctors were able to stop the labor but she realized how much she and the baby's father cared about the baby when she almost lost it and they kept her! I was so heartbroken, and more so after I heard she was being neglected before she was a year old. It took me years to get over that.
What a painful situation, I am so sorry. :cuddle; Even if my friend decides to let us adopt, there's always that chance as she's farther along, or after the delivery that she will change her mind. She's the type of person who really doesn't want children, doesn't enjoy interacting with them, etc. but there's still a risk.
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Sara try to stay positive, worrying won't change anything, but if you show any doubt or fear it could invite a problem. Remain positive and supporting and things will turn out good.
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Sara, I prayed that what is best will happen! :cuddle; :2thumbsup;
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What a painful situation, I am so sorry. :cuddle; Even if my friend decides to let us adopt, there's always that chance as she's farther along, or after the delivery that she will change her mind. She's the type of person who really doesn't want children, doesn't enjoy interacting with them, etc. but there's still a risk.
Thanks for the kind words. It sounds like you have a much better situation than we did. :2thumbsup; I hope it goes well. :cuddle; I wasn't trying to be negative but I wanted you to be aware of how hard it can be when things don't go as planned. Should have known I didn't have to say that to anyone who has to deal with dialysis ;D Lean on your lawyer -- they have the benefit of experience and can be a great source of support and solid advice.
BTW, my adopted grandson is the older one in my avatar. It's remarkable how much he looks like by daughter-in-law!! No one would ever think that he is adopted. The baby looks like my husband :lol;
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All my prayers are with you. Unable to have children myself I would pee my pants if a friend approached me with this offer. I hope it works out! Let us know!
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Thinking of you hope all goes well :cuddle;
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My prayers and caring thoughts are with you and those children who need the love I am sure you can give them.
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My prayers are with you all. My father was adopted, and so was my brother; I think extremely highly of all people who love a child and are willing to give him/her a good home, whether they do it by allowing someone else to raise the child, or do it by raising the child as adoptive parents.
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Thanks for all your prayers and good thoughts. Just to update, tomorrow was the scheduled day for her abortion, I am still not sure if she's going to go through with it. I probably won't know until Tuesday. Even if she doesn't make this appointment, she could still schedule it later. :(
As for the 14 yr old, still have not been able to get anyone at agency that handles adoptions on the phone, left another message today. I may just stop by there tomorrow or Monday. In the mean time, still working on getting our house ready for a homestudy (where they come and inspect you! :o)
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Oh, Sara, I think you'd be a wonderful mom! I will keep all of you in my prayers. :grouphug;
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I adopted my oldest son who is 21yrs old. It was a little easier than what your doing because he is my ex wifes biological son, but they still did a background check and a home study,it wasn't really all that bad. Good Luck!!
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My thoughts are with you Sara, hope all goes well. :thumbup;
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Sara, I kind of hate to ask because I don't want to be intrusive, but have you heard anything? I sure do hope everything is working out for you. You're still in my thoughts and prayers. :grouphug;
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I'm happy to share any information, so don't worry about that. :lol; I found out today that the 14 year old has already been placed in a home, which is good for him. Makes me a little sad, but really it would have taken us a while before we were ready. I will find out tomorrow (Tuesday) if my friend followed through with her abortion appointment that was supposed to be on Dec 1. I'm keeping my fingers crossed.
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How soon would this happen? At what point will she be legally committed? Hope it continues to go in a positive direction for you and Joe.
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Well, it's not happening. She told me today she found out she's 14 weeks along and the pregnancy is not where it should be (I think she's meaning ectopic, in the tube rather than uterus) and that there's nothing they can do to save the pregnancy and it has to be ended. Sad. :( So we're back to square 1. We can sign up for the necessary classes to do adoption through the foster system, those classes are in Jan/Feb I think. So I guess that's something to look forward to.
Thanks everyone, for your prayers and positive thoughts on this.
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Who was it in the bible who couldn't have a child until much later in life? Nothing is impossible when we trust in God. He works in mysterious ways, I trust in that. This time of year we should all believe in that :twocents;
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Aw Sara, keep your chin up girlfriend, everything happens for a reason and maybe it just wasnt the right time for you, dont give up hope, with all of our prayers going your way something good is going to happen soon, i know it is ;) Keep the Faith Girlfriend.... We are here for you in the meantime, ok, :grouphug;
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Who was it in the bible who couldn't have a child until much later in life? Nothing is impossible when we trust in God. He works in mysterious ways, I trust in that. This time of year we should all believe in that :twocents;
Sarah, I think. ;D
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Sorry things didn't work out. I know how bad you wanted that baby. Hopefully you will succeed through other means. :cuddle;
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Thanks. :cuddle; I will keep updating as we go through the process. Onwards and upwards.
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This might sound wierd but I'll say it anyways.. You go girl
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Who was it in the bible who couldn't have a child until much later in life? Nothing is impossible when we trust in God. He works in mysterious ways, I trust in that. This time of year we should all believe in that :twocents;
Exactly!
Don't give up!
Sorry it didn't work out but keep the hope! She wasn't meant to have a baby yet and you eventually will have what you want when the time is right. Who knows, you might end up adopting a baby who's a perfect fit into your family!
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I'm so sorry for your disappointment! But better days are ahead, and in the meantime, you're still in my thoughts and in my prayers. :grouphug;
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You'll still be in my prayers. too, Sara. My cousin wanted to adopt a baby, and they told her and her husband that it would take a couple of years. They filled out the paperwork, went home, and in less than a week the agency called and told them that a mother had chosen them to adopt her baby. They were prepared to wait the two years, and they ended up with a baby in seven days!
Best of luck, and we'll be thinking of you. :grouphug;
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I am sorry,Sara. Life sometimes is so difficult. I will keep you in my prayers during this holiday season.
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I'm sorry it didn't work out, Sara. :cuddle; Maybe next time. :2thumbsup;
BTW, one of my friends has been married about 20 years. Seven years ago, after 3 years of fertility treatments, and a few attempts at AI, they gave up. They half-heartedly checked out adoption and then just moved on in their lives, loving and spoiling their nieces and nephews. A few months ago she went to her doc for a checkup -- she has had recurrent female problems since she was in her teens -- and she was 5 months pregnant!! Now they have a beautiful little girl -- so tiny and petite, a little over 6 pounds and only 18 inches long, but very healthy and beautiful. I'm sure this little miracle will be very spoiled.
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Sorry for you and Joe.