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Title: Dialysis Lost Another Soul
Post by: Stacy Without An E on June 11, 2009, 10:38:11 PM
Today at 11am, my Uncle Tommy was buried due to complications related to Dialysis.

Tommy was a vibrant, hilarious, quick witted, genial gentleman.  He was also a father, grandfather, uncle, husband, Marine, policeman.  And one hell of a great guy to boot.

Two years ago he was prescribed a medication that caused his kidneys to fail.  He began Dialysis shortly afterward.

One week ago he suffered a massive heart attack and passed away.  His heart just couldn't handle the burdens of Dialysis.

Spin the sands of time to the present day.  His funeral was earlier today and over a hundred people attended.

I have so many regrets related to his passing. 

Why am I so wrapped up in my illness that I didn't make the time to ask about his.

Why didn't I take the time to drive the two hours to visit more?

Why does a tainted soul like myself continue to live while someone so loved and cared for was taken too early?

Thank you for everything Tommy.  Laugh, and smile, and rest in peace.

Title: Re: Dialysis Lost Another Soul
Post by: okarol on June 11, 2009, 10:46:43 PM
I am  :cuddle; sorry for your loss Stacy. Be kind to yourself, please. You have a lot to deal with. 
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Post by: Wattle on June 11, 2009, 10:57:37 PM

I too am sorry for your loss Stacy.  :cuddle;

And as Okarol said.. Please don't be hard on yourself. Dialysis has me    :boxing;  day by day, I barely have the time or energy to catch up with anyone.
You have had your share of problems to deal with too. I am sure he knew you cared about him.

 :cuddle; :cuddle; :cuddle;
Title: Re: Dialysis Lost Another Soul
Post by: breezysummerday on June 11, 2009, 11:08:59 PM
                             

                               :cuddle;   
Title: Re: Dialysis Lost Another Soul
Post by: aharris2 on June 11, 2009, 11:10:45 PM
Today at 11am, my Uncle Tommy was buried due to complications related to Dialysis.

Tommy was a vibrant, hilarious, quick witted, genial gentleman.  He was also a father, grandfather, uncle, husband, Marine, policeman.  And one hell of a great guy to boot.

Two years ago he was prescribed a medication that caused his kidneys to fail.  He began Dialysis shortly afterward.

One week ago he suffered a massive heart attack and passed away.  His heart just couldn't handle the burdens of Dialysis.

Spin the sands of time to the present day.  His funeral was earlier today and over a hundred people attended...

...Thank you for everything Tommy.  Laugh, and smile, and rest in peace.

Good words for a good man. Stacy, you have our deepest sympathy on the passing of your Uncle. Your words do him proud.
 :grouphug;
Alene and Rolando
Title: Re: Dialysis Lost Another Soul
Post by: kitkatz on June 11, 2009, 11:34:55 PM
Find some time to show yourself you are loved and cared for on the inside.   Prayers are being sent for your Uncle and for you.  :grouphug;
Title: Re: Dialysis Lost Another Soul
Post by: Joe Paul on June 11, 2009, 11:41:45 PM
Sorry for your loss, may he rest in peace  :grouphug;
Title: Re: Dialysis Lost Another Soul
Post by: KICKSTART on June 12, 2009, 03:49:07 AM
My thoughts are with you  :cuddle;
Title: Re: Dialysis Lost Another Soul
Post by: tamara on June 12, 2009, 04:03:39 AM
Stacy, if anyone knew the answers to the questions that your asking yourself, it would be your uncle.

Don't punish yourself on the why's but remember the times you had.

Take Care

Tamara xxxx oooo

Title: Re: Dialysis Lost Another Soul
Post by: paul.karen on June 12, 2009, 04:21:50 AM
Sorry for your loss Stacy.

Your uncle sounded like a great man.
Title: Re: Dialysis Lost Another Soul
Post by: Rerun on June 12, 2009, 04:30:09 AM
Uncle Tommy sounds like he was a great guy.  It must run in the family.

                               :cuddle;
Title: Re: Dialysis Lost Another Soul
Post by: monrein on June 12, 2009, 04:52:43 AM
Sad news Stacy but your tribute to Tommy was lovely.   :cuddle; :grouphug; :cuddle;
Title: Re: Dialysis Lost Another Soul
Post by: cariad on June 12, 2009, 07:07:28 AM
My condolences, Stacy. It is clear from your words how much you loved and admired Tommy.


Title: Re: Dialysis Lost Another Soul
Post by: dyannalw on June 12, 2009, 07:17:04 AM
I'm so sorry for  your loss. You are in our thoughts and prayers.   :grouphug;
Title: Re: Dialysis Lost Another Soul
Post by: BigSky on June 12, 2009, 07:25:20 AM
My condolences.

Sorry for your loss Stacy.
Title: Re: Dialysis Lost Another Soul
Post by: greco02 on June 12, 2009, 07:28:05 AM
Sorry for your loss.   You do a lot for all of us.  Be kind to yourself.
Title: Re: Dialysis Lost Another Soul
Post by: rose1999 on June 12, 2009, 07:33:30 AM
Sorry for your loss, it sounds as if the world has lost another dear soul, but you are loved too - by all of us here. 
Title: Re: Dialysis Lost Another Soul
Post by: willowtreewren on June 12, 2009, 09:53:26 AM
I am sending supporting thoughts and condolences to you, Stacy. I am sorry for the loss you are feeling, and hope that your memories of your uncle keep him alive within you.

Aleta
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Post by: Laurie on June 12, 2009, 10:22:30 AM
Sorry for your loss.  :grouphug;
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Post by: glitter on June 12, 2009, 10:33:45 AM
I am so sorry for your loss, it sounds like you loved and respected him very much.  :grouphug;
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Post by: Romona on June 12, 2009, 01:25:35 PM
I am so sorry for your loss Stacy.  :cuddle;
Title: Re: Dialysis Lost Another Soul
Post by: paris on June 12, 2009, 01:47:34 PM
Stacy, your words were beautiful.   My thoughts are with you and your family as you grieve.   :grouphug;
Title: Re: Dialysis Lost Another Soul
Post by: Darthvadar on June 12, 2009, 02:08:59 PM
Oh Stacy...

I'm very sorry to hear of your loss...

May your uncle rest in peace...

Take heart from your friends here... Don't be too hard on yourself... Nobody understood the situation you're in yourself more than your uncle did... He knew the physical, emotional, and psychological side of it better than most... He's not holding anything against you, so don't hold anything against yourself...

Lots and lots of  :grouphug;...

I and my mum will be thinking of, and praying for you...

May God bless and protect you and all of your family...

Regards...

Darth...
Title: Re: Dialysis Lost Another Soul
Post by: Sunny on June 12, 2009, 03:56:19 PM
I am so sorry to hear about your Uncle. May he rest in peace.
I hope you know you are a valued person and shouldn't be so hard on yourself. Living with kidney disease isn't easy and all you can do is the best you can within your abilities. I'm sure your beloved Uncle would have understood.
Title: Re: Dialysis Lost Another Soul
Post by: Stacy Without An E on June 12, 2009, 11:11:00 PM
I wish to thank each and every one of you for your kind and compassionaite comments.  I just finished blogging about my Uncle and writing the condolence note to my aunt.  The grief will follow me like an unwanted shadow, but the memories will last me until the end of my days.

Thanks again everyone.  Its always comforting to know you're always present.
Title: Re: Dialysis Lost Another Soul
Post by: Bajanne on June 13, 2009, 07:11:14 AM
I am so sorry for your loss.  But thank you so much for sharing that beautiful life with us.  I can totally empathize with you.  I lost my brother just the year before I went on dialysis.  He too had a heart attack after 10 years on dialysis.  But we have our memories, don't we. My caring thoughts are with you at this time. :cuddle;
Title: Re: Dialysis Lost Another Soul
Post by: sewerrat4u on June 13, 2009, 09:50:25 AM
Stacy ,You replied to me one time and I want to extend my deepest condolences to you and your family.

  Your posts and blogs have helped me in the past and I hope you can find comfort and peace soon.
Title: Re: Dialysis Lost Another Soul
Post by: Darthvadar on June 13, 2009, 10:28:14 AM
Thinking of you again today, Stacy...

God bless you.... :grouphug;

Darth...
Title: Re: Dialysis Lost Another Soul
Post by: del on June 13, 2009, 05:53:20 PM
Stacey, your uncle may not be here in body anymore but his memories will always remain in your heart.  :cuddle;
Title: Re: Dialysis Lost Another Soul
Post by: Slywalker on June 15, 2009, 09:58:47 AM
Dear Stacy - so sorry to hear your news.  Sounds like your Uncle was a real gem.  Please don't beat yourself up too much about not seeing him as much as you would have liked.  Take comfort in your memories of this dear man.

"May Angels lead him in......"

take care

 :grouphug;