The Death of Enola Wigley

[Bajanne]

what kind of human being is David?   This hurt me so much, though I am glad you shared it with us.  This is so unfair!  I thank you for being there for her in her hour of need.    
Please let us know how Erin is doing.  And tell us about the homegoing.  Is there a memorial website we can check into?

[monrein]

Thanks for filling us in on the details Susan.  What a great support you were to her and it sounds as though you really understood what she was going through.  I'm sure that was important to her, especially given the inability of her husband to understand let alone be supportive.  I'm so sorry that Nola had such a tough time both physically and emotionally.  That's a lot of pain.

As awful as David's actions were on the surface, my guess is that he will experience a lot of guilt in the years to come and I hope that he will be able to make peace with himself.  If Nola loved him but he was unable to cope with her illness that's a tragedy and unfortunately it's not all that uncommon.  The spouses who stay and are supportive and help us patients to really know that we are far more than the symptoms of our disease are the rare ones.  They are heroic in my eyes and when I was much younger, my rational side almost wanted to set my husband free to continue doing the things we had always wanted for both of us.  I was not nearly so selfless however and somehow he wanted me anyway but these things can be very very complicated. 

[Sluff]

Everything aside, I have had pancreatitis once and that was the worst pain I've ever experienced, that alone could have killed me I was told. Add that to the rest of her health issues and she just didn't have a chance. High Triglycerides can be one cause of pancreatitis, mine were over 2400.

Definitely a sad story, but thanks for being there for her in her final days. 

[twirl]

 

[mcjane]

How sad, this is something you read with a lump in your throat. What a heartless bastard David is for abandoning Nola when her need of his Love & support was so great facing a transplant.

Her suffering is over & now his begins & he deserves it.

Susan, there is a special place in Heaven for you.

[flip]

I don't know what to say. It almost makes me feel glad to be alone.

[keith]

May the peace blessings and the mercy of Allah( god) be upon you, your family,and your loved ones. I know that this is one of the hardest things that a person or a family can go through, but always keep her in your thoughts and prays as we all will do

[paris]

Susan, thank you so very much for sharing the whole story with us.  How incredibly sad. You are a special person and a true angel. I am sure NolaGail was grateful for all of your support. I am sure you will miss her very much.  David, on the other hand, well------- he will get what he deserves one day.   I think many of us relate to the part " just thinks she is lazy", but it is hard to explain the depths of fatigue even to those who life with us.  I know many have also lost their spouses because they couldn't handle having a "sick" spouse.     Thank you for giving her a calm, peacful place to stay.  She was fortunate to have you.     My prayers are for all her family and friends going through this time of grief. 

[Bajanne]

We would love you to think of yourself as part of our IHD family.  Please continue to post - this family has a very large heart, and we wouldn't want to lose a caring person like you.

[annabanana]

rest in peace, NolaGail.

[glitter]

What a sad story....I am glad she had you.

[susanfulks]

   Just wanted to "fly in here for a few minutes" and tell you guys how much your kind words....thoughts....and prayers have helped us through this difficult time.  Nola would have been so happy to see all her friends leave such wonderful messages.  I wish everyone here could have met her in real life.....she was one of a kind....and she had so much love for everyone and animals especially.  She was such a special person.....and she was sooooooo proud of this web site because as she got sicker and approached the kidney transplant......and then the transplant was cancelled and she was training for PD.....this website with all you wonderful people gave her so much peace and a quite understanding of this disease and illness.  Nola got sooooo much support and answers and peace and comfort and alot of laughter and happiness.  I will never ever forget all you extraordinary special people who brought so much sunshine into Nola's life before she passed.............it truly was an honor for her to be a part of such a great bunch of people who loved her in such an amazing way.  We are doing much better...and miss her greatly...but i know she is around me...i can feel her sometimes....and since she was such a "witty" person.....there are phrases....or quotes....or stories that i come across on the computer or in reading material.....and i just want to pick up the phone so bad and share it her........i can still hear her laugh!!! She was of great joy!!   she loved the banana.......

[Sluff]

We were all blessed to have known her.

[thegrammalady]

any time any one who has registered here it is a sad day

[pelagia]

There is so much pain in this world.  You never know what the person standing next to you is really going through.  I too hope that NolaGail is in a better place.  As for David, I agree with Monrein.  At some point it's going to hit him and it will be a heavy burden to bear.

[paris]

Thank you for letting us know how you are doing.  This is a special group of people and we really do care for each other.  Anytime you want to share stories, please post.   

[LadyStardust89]

I'm so sorry about this... I don't come as often here .. I have had alot of math to do.. But I feel horrible when someone dies.. even if I didn't know them personally... I know how hard it is to lose someone I love.. And it hurts me to know someone else has to go through that...

Sometimes I feel we tend to forget the danger involved with what we "do"... Even though I'm as I like to call a "practical risk taker.." I always try to try things once.. so that I can say I did... I may be afraid to my very core.. But I try to do it anways.. Since I truly believe in never having regrets.. and living life to the fullest.. Fear should never stop you from living life.. But sometimes when something big happens like my needle slips out a bit and my bed space looks like some gruesome murder scene.. or someone at my dialysis codeing... It reminds me that I may not come home to see my dog and cat greeting me at the door... toys in tow.. Or finish that horrible book my tutor is making me read.. and luckily maybe that book on my nightstand that has been there for a year no less... It is something that scares me more than anything.I may have not known Ms.Wigley personally.. But I hope her loved ones can feel a bit better knowing we mourn along side them... Like soldiers with mourn a loss of a fellow fighter.. 
 
 

[devon]

In getting ready for my first dialysis, I have looked to the fact that perhaps for once, I'll have the time to sit and write those plays that have been forming in my head over the last couple decades.  I'd like to pen a script titled, "The Death of Enola Wigley" that might tell her story so that others will come to understand ESRD and kidney disease.  Although I was not priviledged to know here, I hope I can do her justice so others might come to know her in some small way.

-Devon

[Romona]

That sounds like a good title.

[paris]

Devon,  What a wonderful idea. We'll be looking forward to reading your scripts when you are ready to share.  I think NolaGail's family would be touched by the title.

[Sunny]

OMG!
What a sad story. Enola, god bless you and grant you the peace you deserved.