The Death of Enola Wigley

Just wanted to let you know that Enola McNeal Wigly passed away on Monday May 19th from a broken heart..........

EDITED: Moved to Tribute for NolaGail - Sluff/Admin

I'm sorry she passed away. Please go to introduce yourself and tell us more.

Please let us know if she was a member here or what the relationship is. Sorry for your loss. Please introduce yourself in the introduction section here: http://ihatedialysis.com/forum/index.php?board=14.0

Thanks

Sluff/Admin

I "goodsearched" this name and found this...

WIGLEY, Enola Gynn McNeal, 49, a resident of Deatsville, died Monday, May 19, 2008 in a local hospital. She was born April 4, 1959 in Tallassee, AL, the only daughter of the late Charlie Woodrow and Hazel Mae Parrish McNeal. She graduated from Tallassee High School in 1977 and graduated from Troy University in 1984. She was a member of Cain's Chapel UMC, where she played the piano for the early service and had served as the church secretary. She was employed with the Fine Arts Dept. of AUM as an Administrative Assistant. On Oct. 8, 1983 she married David Jefferson Wigley, III. They have one daughter, Erin Wigley (& Clay) Ferguson, one grandson, Clayton Mitchell Ferguson, Jr. and one unborn granddaughter Annabelle Grace Ferguson. She is also survived by her mother-in-law, Helen Wigley; grandmother-in-law Mary M. Brown; Sisters-in-law, Mary (Alan) Christy and Lorene (Jeff) Adams; aunt, Juanita Ballard; uncles, Linwood Helms and Larry Glass, and several nieces and nephews and cousins. Graveside services will be held on Sunday, May 25, 2008 at 1:00 p.m. in Cain's Chapel Cemetery with Rev. Ronnie Beardon officiating. Pallbearers will be Allen Harris, Allen Culpepper, Jason Culpepper, Mark Benson, Rick Robertson, and Allen Dennis. Visitation will be from 5-7 p.m. Saturday, at Gassett Funeral Home. In lieu of flowers, contributions are requested to the American Kidney Foundation.

AS it is the same name and date and references the AKF, I figure this is the Enola Wigley being brought up by SusanFulks. So young! It's a shame. BTW, Deatsville is in Alabama.

My condolances to the family and friends of Enola Wigley.

-Devon

PS. the program "goodsearch.com" is like google but you can select a charity that receives a penny for every search you do. Give it a try. Instead of making money for google, use goodsearch to make money for a non-profit. My searches benefit Pretty Bird Woman House in North Dakota - a shelter for Native American women.

I'm afraid that it looks like this was an IHD member: NolaGail. How terribly sad.

Oh that's so awful! She had a donor lined up and I believe was hoping to get a transplant in the next few months. RIP NolaGail.

Thanks for figuring it out devon and xtreme.

Oh how sad. NolaGail, you will be missed. Thank you to Devon and xtrememoosetrax for finding the details and letting us know.

Another sad goodbye...

I wrote to Susan, who started this thread. She wrote back:

"Yeah we all called her "granola".....or nola gail. Thank
you so much for your sweet kind words.....you have no idea
how much that means to me. It would be great if you could
spread the word of her death to everyone on the site. The
people here meant alot to her.....i just wanted you to know
that."

R.I.P. Nola Gail. Thank you Susan for letting us know...........another sad loss for us all and again someone young. I hope it's some small comfort to her family and friends to know that we will all miss her.

May she rest in peace.

Hugs to her family. . .

I hate this bloody disease! I'm tired of it taking so many people we love and care about. R.I.P. Nola.

Adam

Rest in peace Nola Gail.

May God bless you in your spirit life Nola Gail.

NolaGail's cousin Susan sent this note today:

Sorry....it's been a very upsetting and busy week....i
couldn't remember if i notified you guys or not.....i have
absent brain syndrome (teehee) I don't know where to
start.......Nola was not only my cousin but we were very very close
(we called her granola). She came to us in January saying
that her husband of 23 years served her with divorce
papers. I still can't understand why David did that....when i
asked him he said that Nola was not sick and that she
wouldn't clean the house and everything was filthy and nasty....i
responded by saying that they both worked and they should
do their house tasks together! I don't know if he was using
that excuse to hide something or not. I never figured
that one out......but Nola was devastated.....she was
definitely sick and was under incredible amount of STRESS.....and
then David comes along and makes her life even more
stressful. Anywho......Nola was slated for a kidney transplant in
June. She started staying off and on with us while she
went to work and found a very reliable lawyer to help her
with the divorce (David wanted Nola to pay the outstanding
debts....the house payment....and pay for HIS divorce
fee.....while she is thrown out in the middle of the street with no
where to go.....but we said not to worry.....we would help
her and she could stay with us. She felt so happy and
peaceful and very relax at our house which i thought would be
important in getting her body ready for
surgery....physically and emotionally. Meanwhile the divorce is becoming more
of a circus with her daughter adding more to it. Nola
loved her grandbaby...doodabug....and Erin is expecting
sometime in July. But when you have ALL those people living
under one roof.....it just can't be good for her well-being.

She was staying with us more than staying at her residence
in Deatsville...and she went home one weekend (i think it
was the last weekend in April) to attend a family function
at her church. It was on a Saturday. By Sunday morning she
started having seizures (she didn't go to work that
preceding Friday because she was "nausiated" and she threw up a
couple of times on Saturday before leaving...and she was
hunched over like she was in "pain" in the abdominal area.
She told me it was a gas bubble that got stuck in the port
cartridge.....but i just didn't buy that. So she goes home
and the circus is getting bigger and out of
control......Sunday morning she was having seizures.....and was rushed to
the emergency room. She spent Sunday night...Monday
night....and Tuesday night in ICU. Then she was feeling better
and they moved her to a regular room on Wednesday. But that
started the dialysis (she had not started dialysis to this
point and she was hoping she would not have to do it before
getting the transplant).....but everything changed in the
ER.....they started dialysis right away. Her blood sugar
was over 400 and her blood pressure was high. So now the
dialysis is a reality. Plus they think she had a slight
stroke because she was a little "wobble" when she walked (when
they brought her in to the ER the first time she could not
use her arms...legs...hands...etc)She stayed a week in the
hospital doing tests...she was released on Friday to
David....and he brought her over to us on Sunday so that we could
start the PD dialysis on Monday. The dialysis just was
NOT being done because she was soooooo sick....she was
constantly throwing up and couldn't keep anything in her stomach.
By Thursday i was extremely concerned about her and
decided to take her to the ER again. Her dialysis doctor said
she had pancreitis along with a kidney infection. Nola was
not doing real good at this point. They put her back in
the ER and started the dialysis.....she was in a private room
until Monday.....and then back into ICU. By Wednesday she
was heavily sedated because they hooked a feeding tube in
her nose and they didn't want her to pull it out. By
Friday she on oxygen. By Saturday night.....she had a few
seizures....and then she went flat-lined....but her heart
started back on it's own...and she went flat-lined again...but
her heart started back again. On Sunday when i went to set
up camp for the family at ICU.....she was on a
respirator...her eyes were fixed and dilated...her blood pressure and
other vital signs were way low....and her brain activity was
gone. The Doctors still don't know what is wrong with her.
Finally David said that he did not want her to stay on
Life Support if she was already "brain dead" and the
ventilator was the only thing keeping her alive. I agreed....i
knew that Nola would not want to be laying there....when she
was already gone anyway. They took her off life support on
Monday the 19th and she never took another breath.

I really don't know what happened....but i do know
this...when she was laying in bed in her room at my house...i went
in there to watch TV with her....she started crying and
saying that she was very very tired and she good not go
through life without David. I just think her body was really
tired from all the stress of the divorce and starting
dialysis. It was just too much for her to take.....and that is why
i believe she died from a broken heart. She just didn't
have the will to live without David. End of story. Thanks
for listening.....she would want you guys to know all this.
........

Thank you Susan.

Oh my! I think that is the saddest thing I have ever heard! It made me cry (and rarely does that happen since my Lexapro was upped!). Please let her family know that they are in my prayers.

This is so sad. I pray for stength for her family

and hell for her husband.

May God bless this woman in her next life.

This is so sad. All my condolences to the family. Rest in Peace, Nola Gail...