Have you discussed a pre-emptive transplant? This is done before the patient needs dialysis. It may be worthwhile to ask for an evaluation.
You mention the GP. Is your husband seeing a nephrologist? Transplant is one of the treatments of renal failure, as is dialysis.Yes, there are risks with any surgery, but I hardly see it as a last resort.What is the local wait time for a non-living kidney for your husband?There's more info here http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kidney_transplant
I think they tell you to stay away from the internet because it's difficult to sort out which information is valid or important or biased.Of course everything you read here is based on different people's experiences or perceptions.As with anything on the internet, you need to use common sense and to research thoroughly.The good thing about IHD is that there is a lot of experience here, and lots of support!