Have you introduced yourself yet NDXUfan? You may start with your educational background if you like but please let us know a bit about more about who we are discussing things with.
Does this sound like any group of people that we interact with, day after day?
"Nothing is easier for third party busybodies than being "understanding" and "compassionate" at someone else's expense — especially if the busybodies have their own children in private schools, as so many public school educators do.
Whether in housing, education or innumerable other aspects of life, the key to busybody politics, and its endlessly imposed "solutions," is that third parties pay no price for being wrong."