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« on: May 06, 2013, 05:38:50 AM »
I am sad to have to notify everyone here at IHD that we have lost our second oldest Moderator Patsy Aurora Barker affectionately known to most of you as "Bajaane". She went on to be with her Lord last evening. I have no other information to pass along at this time.

As soon as we learn more we will pass it on to you.

Rest peacefully our dear Bajaane, your work on earth is over and it is now time to reap your heavenly reward that the Lord has prepared for you.



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Edited: Moved to memorial area- kitkatz, Admin
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« Reply #1 on: May 06, 2013, 05:41:32 AM »
I saw the post by her daughter on Facebook. RIP Bajaane, your fight is over.
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« Reply #2 on: May 06, 2013, 05:55:05 AM »
Ay-yah!!! This is such sad news!!!! Such a lovely lady, and an old IHD hand too.  Darn it, so sorry to read this news.  Bye lovely Bajanne!
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1986: kidney failure at 19 years old, cause unknown
PD for a year, in-centre haemo for 4 years
Transplant 1 lasted 21 years (Lucy: 1991 - 2012), failed due to Transplant glomerulopathy
5 weeks Haemo 2012
Transplant 2 (Maggie) installed Feb 13, 2013, returned to work June 17, 2013 average crea was 130, now is 140.
Infections in June / July, hospital 1-4 Aug for infections.

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« Reply #3 on: May 06, 2013, 06:04:58 AM »
 R.I.P. dear friend your labor on earth is done. No more pain, no more worry, no more tears. Now you enjoy your reward in Heaven
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« Reply #4 on: May 06, 2013, 06:24:42 AM »
May she rest in peace....

Dammit, I HATE this disease!....

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« Reply #5 on: May 06, 2013, 08:21:41 AM »
My BanannaJane.  I will miss you here on Earth but look forward to meeting you someday.  You don't have to be poked with needles anymore. 

You are such a dear soul.   :pray;
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« Reply #6 on: May 06, 2013, 08:34:32 AM »
Oh, no! Such sad news. RIP, Bajanne, you will be missed.  :'(
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« Reply #7 on: May 06, 2013, 08:48:09 AM »
So sad to hear.  May she rest in peace.
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« Reply #8 on: May 06, 2013, 09:35:46 AM »
I think I'm going to throw up.

This is horrifying news.

I hope she finds more peace with God than she did with a dialysis machine here on earth.
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« Reply #9 on: May 06, 2013, 10:43:25 AM »
There is a tribute thread here http://ihatedialysis.com/forum/index.php?board=113.0
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Jenna is our daughter, bad bladder damaged her kidneys.
Was on in-center hemodialysis 2003-2007.
7 yr transplant lost due to rejection.
She did PD Sept. 2013 - July 2017
Found a swap living donor using social media, friends, family.
New kidney in a paired donation swap July 26, 2017.
Her story ---> https://www.facebook.com/WantedKidneyDonor
Please watch her video: http://youtu.be/D9ZuVJ_s80Y
Living Donors Rock! http://www.livingdonorsonline.org -
News video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J-7KvgQDWpU
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« Reply #10 on: May 06, 2013, 10:47:12 AM »
Oh no! :( I kept meaning to tell her how absolutely lovely she looked in that last pic she posted. Another delightful soul I'll never have the chance to meet. Rest in peace, Aurora.
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« Reply #11 on: May 06, 2013, 02:14:10 PM »
Sad news indeed, Bajaane had a presence here that :grouphug; will never be forgotten. I love her, and I am so sorry for her family.
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« Reply #12 on: May 09, 2013, 11:24:04 PM »
Bajanne's daughter Sam says the "Going Home Celebration in Tortola" is Tuesday the 14th of May in the Virgin Islands, then they will have a funeral and burial in Barbados.
This is the Tuesday service location:
St. Georges Anglican Church
170 Main St., Road Town
VG1110, British Virgin Islands
Sam posted on facebook:
"Please as we celebrate this vibrant life, please wear vibrant colours or african clothes. We are rejoicing that the Lord has taken my beautiful mother home. Thanks everyone. Please keep my family in your prayers during this difficult time."
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Jenna is our daughter, bad bladder damaged her kidneys.
Was on in-center hemodialysis 2003-2007.
7 yr transplant lost due to rejection.
She did PD Sept. 2013 - July 2017
Found a swap living donor using social media, friends, family.
New kidney in a paired donation swap July 26, 2017.
Her story ---> https://www.facebook.com/WantedKidneyDonor
Please watch her video: http://youtu.be/D9ZuVJ_s80Y
Living Donors Rock! http://www.livingdonorsonline.org -
News video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J-7KvgQDWpU
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« Reply #13 on: May 10, 2013, 09:08:14 AM »
I am trying to write a tribute to Bajanne to give to SAm for the ceremony.  I have no words, only tears, but here is what I have so far.  Please help me complete it. Send more words to describe her and ideas to be included.

All I have are tears.
No words to express the feeling of loss.
A special lady has gone from our lives.
Leaving a blank spot in my heart.
The words do not come easily in this tribute.

Island woman
Grandmother
Mother
Activist
Teacher
Translator
World traveler
Bright Light
To most Bajanne
To some Bananna Jane

Cheerful
Thoughtful
Giving
Inspiring

Rich soul Kind person
Sense of humor
Dialysis patient


"Pleased be assured of my caring thoughts and prayers."
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« Reply #14 on: May 10, 2013, 09:37:29 AM »
To most Bajanne
To some Bananna Jane

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« Reply #15 on: May 10, 2013, 01:49:19 PM »
Quote from: kitkatz on May 10, 2013, 09:08:14 AM
I am trying to write a tribute to Bajanne to give to SAm for the ceremony.  I have no words, only tears, but here is what I have so far.  Please help me complete it. Send more words to describe her and ideas to be included.

All I have are tears.
No words to express the feeling of loss.
A special lady has gone from our lives.
Leaving a blank spot in my heart.
The words do not come easily in this tribute.

Island woman
Grandmother
Mother
Activist
Teacher
Translator
World traveler
Bright Light

Happy
Cheerful
Thoughtful
Giving
Inspiring

Rich soul Kind person
Sense of humor
Dialysis patient

I loved how Bajanne would comfort members by adding to her posts "Pleased be assured of my caring thoughts and prayers."
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Jenna is our daughter, bad bladder damaged her kidneys.
Was on in-center hemodialysis 2003-2007.
7 yr transplant lost due to rejection.
She did PD Sept. 2013 - July 2017
Found a swap living donor using social media, friends, family.
New kidney in a paired donation swap July 26, 2017.
Her story ---> https://www.facebook.com/WantedKidneyDonor
Please watch her video: http://youtu.be/D9ZuVJ_s80Y
Living Donors Rock! http://www.livingdonorsonline.org -
News video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J-7KvgQDWpU
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« Reply #16 on: May 11, 2013, 06:32:34 PM »
Bajanne - Joyous spirit
               Loving heart
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« Reply #17 on: May 11, 2013, 07:17:24 PM »
Quote from: okarol on May 10, 2013, 01:49:19 PM
Quote from: kitkatz on May 10, 2013, 09:08:14 AM
I am trying to write a tribute to Bajanne to give to SAm for the ceremony.  I have no words, only tears, but here is what I have so far.  Please help me complete it. Send more words to describe her and ideas to be included.

All I have are tears.
No words to express the feeling of loss.
A special lady has gone from our lives.
Leaving a blank spot in my heart.
The words do not come easily in this tribute.

Island woman
Grandmother
Mother
Activist
Teacher
Translator
World traveler
Bright Light

Happy
Cheerful
Thoughtful
Giving
Inspiring

Rich soul Kind person
Sense of humor
Dialysis patient

I loved how Bajanne would comfort members by adding to her posts "Pleased be assured of my caring thoughts and prayers."

I know that we all here at IHD have a new angel watching over us.
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« Reply #18 on: May 11, 2013, 09:47:02 PM »
This is it. Thanks for your help.


A Tribute to Bajanne
   from K. Soto and IHD Members

The words do not come easily.
All I have are tears.
No words to express the feeling of loss.
A special lady has gone from our lives.
Leaving a blank spot in our hearts.

Bajanne was:

Island woman
Grandmother
Mother
Activist
Teacher
Translator
World traveler
Dialysis patient
Bright Light

Happy
Cheerful
Thoughtful
Giving
Inspiring
Joyous spirit
Loving heart
Rich soul
Kind person
Sense of humor

I loved how Bajanne would comfort members by adding to her posts "Pleased be assured of my caring thoughts and prayers."
I know the people who knew her will keep her family "assured of their caring thoughts and prayers."
I know there is a new guardian angel in heaven to look after us.

Goodbye Bajanne, Hello Angel!
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Remember your present situation is not your final destination.

Take it one day, one hour, one minute, one second at a time.

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« Reply #19 on: May 12, 2013, 05:26:02 PM »
 :'( nice Kit.
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Jenna is our daughter, bad bladder damaged her kidneys.
Was on in-center hemodialysis 2003-2007.
7 yr transplant lost due to rejection.
She did PD Sept. 2013 - July 2017
Found a swap living donor using social media, friends, family.
New kidney in a paired donation swap July 26, 2017.
Her story ---> https://www.facebook.com/WantedKidneyDonor
Please watch her video: http://youtu.be/D9ZuVJ_s80Y
Living Donors Rock! http://www.livingdonorsonline.org -
News video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J-7KvgQDWpU
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« Reply #20 on: May 12, 2013, 08:17:30 PM »
I didn't know her, but I wish I did. :'(

It makes me sadder and sadder to learn of all the deaths this blasted disease causes.


This damned machine is supposed to save us, not kill us. -.-  :stressed;


This is why I can't pray. It does nothing, never has for me.

 :'(
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August 16th, 1996 - Born in Sacramento, CA; Born with Posterior Urethral Valves
September 2008 - Large Reconstruction, bladder augmented, stoma placed and ureters fixed
September 2010 - Needed emergency hip surgery for Slipped Capital Femoral Epithysis
September 2010 - Started Dialysis without refusal (Big mistake)
Summer/Fall 2011 - "Inactivated" on the Inactive Transplant List
October 2012 - Activated on the transplant list
November 30th, 2012 - Surgeons threatening to not to a transplant based on weight
April 25th, 2013 - Lost 25 pounds (97kg), however developed highly resistant bladder bacteria, Inactivated from list until eradicated
May 15th, 2013 - Finally cleared of the bacteria, reactivating on list imminent.
May 24th, 2013 - Reactivated on the list!
June 8th, 2013 - Transplant!
June 19th, 2013 - Dialysis Catheter officially removed and returned home from the hospital!
June 21st, 2016 - Sleeve Gastrectomy
March 11th, 2019 - Revision to Gastric Bypass
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« Reply #21 on: May 12, 2013, 10:48:57 PM »
Quote from: iKAZ3D on May 12, 2013, 08:17:30 PM
I didn't know her, but I wish I did. :'(

It makes me sadder and sadder to learn of all the deaths this blasted disease causes.


This damned machine is supposed to save us, not kill us. -.-  :stressed;


This is why I can't pray. It does nothing, never has for me.

 :'(

The machine didn't kill her, it was kidney disease, in all likelihood.
She had a strong belief in God and I believe she's in a better place.
But that's just me.
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Admin for IHateDialysis 2008 - 2014, retired.
Jenna is our daughter, bad bladder damaged her kidneys.
Was on in-center hemodialysis 2003-2007.
7 yr transplant lost due to rejection.
She did PD Sept. 2013 - July 2017
Found a swap living donor using social media, friends, family.
New kidney in a paired donation swap July 26, 2017.
Her story ---> https://www.facebook.com/WantedKidneyDonor
Please watch her video: http://youtu.be/D9ZuVJ_s80Y
Living Donors Rock! http://www.livingdonorsonline.org -
News video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J-7KvgQDWpU
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« Reply #22 on: May 13, 2013, 04:47:02 AM »
Thank you KK for this lovely tribute poem.  :thumbup;
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Pyelonephritis (began at 8 mos old)
Home haemo 1980-1985 (self-cannulated with 15 gauge sharps)
Cadaveric transplant 1985
New upper-arm fistula April 2008
Uldall-Cook catheter inserted May 2008
Haemo-dialysis, self care unit June 2008
(2 1/2 hours X 5 weekly)
Self-cannulated, 15 gauge blunts, buttonholes.
Living donor transplant (sister-in law Kathy) Feb. 2009
First failed kidney transplant removed Apr.  2009
Second trx doing great so far...all lab values in normal ranges
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« Reply #23 on: May 13, 2013, 04:53:30 AM »
RIP
Bajaane  :angel;
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Uninterrupted in-center (self-care) hemodialysis since 1982 -- 34 YEARS on March 3, 2016 !!
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No transplant.  Not yet, anyway.  Only decided to be listed on 11/9/06. Inactive at the moment.  ;)
I make films.

Just the facts: 70.0 kgs. (about 154 lbs.)
Treatment: Tue-Thur-Sat   5.5 hours, 2x/wk, 6 hours, 1x/wk
Dialysate flow (Qd)=600;  Blood pump speed(Qb)=315
Fresenius Optiflux-180 filter--without reuse
Fresenius 2008T dialysis machine
My KDOQI Nutrition (+/ -):  2,450 Calories, 84 grams Protein/day.

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« Reply #24 on: May 13, 2013, 08:22:59 AM »
Quote from: okarol on May 12, 2013, 10:48:57 PM
Quote from: iKAZ3D on May 12, 2013, 08:17:30 PM
I didn't know her, but I wish I did. :'(

It makes me sadder and sadder to learn of all the deaths this blasted disease causes.


This damned machine is supposed to save us, not kill us. -.-  :stressed;


This is why I can't pray. It does nothing, never has for me.

 :'(

The machine didn't kill her, it was kidney disease, in all likelihood.
She had a strong believe in God and I believe she's in a better place.
But that's just me.

Well, yeah, but you know what I mean.  :bow;
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August 16th, 1996 - Born in Sacramento, CA; Born with Posterior Urethral Valves
September 2008 - Large Reconstruction, bladder augmented, stoma placed and ureters fixed
September 2010 - Needed emergency hip surgery for Slipped Capital Femoral Epithysis
September 2010 - Started Dialysis without refusal (Big mistake)
Summer/Fall 2011 - "Inactivated" on the Inactive Transplant List
October 2012 - Activated on the transplant list
November 30th, 2012 - Surgeons threatening to not to a transplant based on weight
April 25th, 2013 - Lost 25 pounds (97kg), however developed highly resistant bladder bacteria, Inactivated from list until eradicated
May 15th, 2013 - Finally cleared of the bacteria, reactivating on list imminent.
May 24th, 2013 - Reactivated on the list!
June 8th, 2013 - Transplant!
June 19th, 2013 - Dialysis Catheter officially removed and returned home from the hospital!
June 21st, 2016 - Sleeve Gastrectomy
March 11th, 2019 - Revision to Gastric Bypass
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