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« on: March 14, 2012, 04:34:06 PM »
We got the call from our nephew this afternoon that Carl's sister had taken her life. Our brother-in-law found her when he got home from work today.  She had been on dialysis for about 6 years, but had much trouble. Her bones were like egg shells and the day before Carl's transplant she broke both hips when she missed her chair and hit the floor. Although she had a willing donor lined up for a paired exchange, she was deemed too weak to survive the surgery.

She was in lots of pain and I think it just became too much.

I hate this disease.

When death comes into our lives, it is important to take stock, though. Life is sweet and precious. Live each day and be glad for each morning that you wake up and have another day to enjoy.

RIP Deborah. Your fight is over. I wish you could have had an easier path like your brother. I know it was hard for you to see him lead such  a healthy life despite kidney failure. It wasn't fair that you suffered so much. I also wish you had found your way here for the support you could have found. I knew that if I told you about IHD, you never would have visited, but I did tell your dear husband. I do wish things could have been better for you.

xoxoxoxox   :'(

Aleta
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Wife to Carl, who has PKD.
Mother to Meagan, who has PKD.
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Carl transplanted with cadaveric kidney, February 3, 2011. :)
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« Reply #1 on: March 14, 2012, 04:48:30 PM »
I'm so sorry for your loss.        :(      My condolensces to you and your family.       :grouphug;
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Renal Failure at age 38 (2010) came about 2 hrs close to dying. Central line put in an emergency.
Began dialysis on Aug 15, 2010.
Creatine @ time of dialysis: 27. I almost died.
History of High Blood Pressure
I have Neuropathy and Plantar Fasciitis in My Feet
AV Fistula created in Nov. 2011, still buzzing well!
Transplanted in April, 2013. My husband and I participated in the Living Donor paired exchange program. I nicknamed my kidney "April"
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« Reply #2 on: March 14, 2012, 05:02:29 PM »
Prayers to you and yours Willow...a new angel is born... :angel;



Conchman,
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« Reply #3 on: March 14, 2012, 05:13:45 PM »
Sorry Aleta. This is such an awful disease for sure!  May she RIP, and now has no more burdens to bear!

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« Reply #4 on: March 14, 2012, 05:14:58 PM »
 :grouphug; :grouphug; :grouphug;
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« Reply #5 on: March 14, 2012, 05:21:12 PM »
Thank you....

We are still in shock.
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« Reply #6 on: March 14, 2012, 08:31:11 PM »
That's so sad. I hope she has found peace. My sympathies to the family.
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« Reply #7 on: March 14, 2012, 10:27:29 PM »
Oh, Aleta, I'm so sorry.  :grouphug;
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« Reply #8 on: March 15, 2012, 02:23:58 AM »
How terribly sad, Aleta...

May she rest in peace...

Darth...

God saw the road was getting rough,
 The hill was hard to climb;
 He gently closed those loving eyes
 And whispered “Peace Be Thine.”


The weary hours, the days of pain,
 The sleepless nights have passed;
 The ever patient worn-out frame
 Has found sweet rest at last.


God Saw that you were weary
 So He did what He knows best.
 He came and stood beside you,
 And whispered, “Come and rest.”


You bid no one a last farewell,
 Not even a goodbye.
 You were gone before we knew it,
 And only God knows why.
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« Reply #9 on: March 15, 2012, 03:28:02 AM »
That's hard news Aleta.   :grouphug; :grouphug;  Thinking of you and Carl.
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wife of Gregory, who is the kidney patient: 
1986: kidney failure at 19 years old, cause unknown
PD for a year, in-centre haemo for 4 years
Transplant 1 lasted 21 years (Lucy: 1991 - 2012), failed due to Transplant glomerulopathy
5 weeks Haemo 2012
Transplant 2 (Maggie) installed Feb 13, 2013, returned to work June 17, 2013 average crea was 130, now is 140.
Infections in June / July, hospital 1-4 Aug for infections.

Over the years:  skin cancer; thyroidectomy, pneumonia; CMV; BK; 14 surgeries
Generally glossy and happy.

2009 - 2013 PhD research student : How people make sense of renal failure in online discussion boards
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« Reply #10 on: March 15, 2012, 03:31:15 AM »
That is so very sad.

Garth, that is a beautiful poem.
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Healthy people may look upon me as weak because of my illness, but my illness has given me strength that they can't begin to imagine.

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« Reply #11 on: March 15, 2012, 04:31:41 AM »
I'm so sorry for your loss.

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« Reply #12 on: March 15, 2012, 05:29:52 AM »
Aleta, I'm so sorry to hear about the death of your sister-in-law.   Life IS sweet and precious, as you have wisely said.  Deborah was part of this community, whether she joined or not.  In that sense, your loss is our loss too.  God bless you and Carl.
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« Reply #13 on: March 15, 2012, 06:08:46 AM »
I wanted to offer my condolences.  It can be a fine line between when life is worth living and when it's not - I'm sorry to hear she crossed that line.
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« Reply #14 on: March 15, 2012, 06:23:23 AM »
Aleta my heart is with you and your loved ones.  It's so sad  :grouphug;
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« Reply #15 on: March 15, 2012, 06:50:01 AM »
Moe *huggles* for both of you.
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« Reply #16 on: March 15, 2012, 07:27:54 AM »
Poppy, thanks for the huggles, and more of them..... That means so much.

And everyone, kidney failure affects all of us.... we need to stand strong against it.  :cuddle;

Aleta
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« Reply #17 on: March 15, 2012, 08:41:57 AM »
We just heard from our niece. There is not going to be a funeral. And oh, the irony. All of our brother-in-law's family will be visiting for his son's wedding on Saturday. So sad.

Plugger, I so get what you are saying..... She had a very hard time of it, and I realize that it just got to be more than she could bear.

She had been giving hints that her husband took as casual comments.....

Thanks everyone for caring.

Aleta
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« Reply #18 on: March 15, 2012, 12:32:09 PM »
willowtreewren, That is so sad. Thinking about you and your family.
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« Reply #19 on: March 15, 2012, 02:54:51 PM »
So so sad. But so understandable. My condolences, aleta.
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« Reply #20 on: March 15, 2012, 03:32:47 PM »
I wish for you and your family to have peace of heart. I am sorry for your loss.  :grouphug;
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« Reply #21 on: March 15, 2012, 07:12:04 PM »
This sad news is making my cry.   :'(   I am so sorry for your loss.  My heart goes out to her husband and the family. 
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« Reply #22 on: March 15, 2012, 11:56:21 PM »
 :cuddle; So sorry Aleta, best wishes to you and Carl.
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« Reply #23 on: March 16, 2012, 06:11:51 AM »
God bless her soul.  I'm sorry for your loss.  It sounds like she was suffering so at least that came to an end.   :grouphug;
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« Reply #24 on: March 16, 2012, 06:22:44 AM »
It is sad when a loved one goes. Hugs to your family.
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