Pre-D Rambling part 2

[Riverwhispering]

Hi everyone, I'm pretty new to this site and just read MooseMom's post about this.   Throwing in my 2Cents... here goes.

MooseMom invest in some Yaktraks, they fit on any shoes or boots and really work great with ice.  They are the best thing invented to keep you from slipping on ice.

As far as rambling about feeling tired all the time.. I can't sleep more then one or two hours tops at a time.  I get up... pee go back to bed and try again.  I feel like I'm taking naps 24/7 when I'm home.   I can't go for walks like I used to because of sciatic pain I think I got from lifting things that were too heavy. 

My GFR was 11 last month so i'm very close to being hooked up.   Here's the real sad story I have about me.... lets get ready for the pity party!!!!

I'm in my early 60s, met a guy 13 years ago, he said he had never been married and had no kids.   I married him 6 years ago... Was deeply in love and all was good in the world.  Then I found out about the time we got married that I had CKD.     Anyways on his birthday a few months ago I got a phone call from my son saying he just talked with my husband's daughter on facebook.   Within 2 days I found out that he is STILL married to someone else, they have two daughters and he has two more kids from a previous girlfriend.   Everyone thought (his mom, brothers, sisters etc) that he had died long ago because he took off and no one had seen him for years.  He actually called his mom and told her in '94 that he was dying of Lou Gehrig's disease and they assumed he was dead.    One of his daughters googled his name and age and connected the dots when it had her mom's name and my last name from before we were married. 

Anyways I found out after this all came down that he married me for my inheritance of rental properties i had with my brother and cousins and talked me into selling my share out and buying real estate here and putting his name on them.  He is a sociopath and used me for his gain.  He's been cheating on me for several years and I had no clue and he's been telling people he's my caregiver because I'm dying and we were married long ago and i'm the mom of his two kids and i talked him into remarrying me because i needed a caregiver.   I never knew about these lies until this came down three months ago.  What a difference seeing him without those rose colored glasses.

I'm waiting for a court date to undo this marriage since it's not legal and to get his name off my properties since it was from my inheritance and he hasn't worked since we've been together.   

So here I am on my own now... feeling like heck a lot of the time but i see the light at the end of the tunnel.... Hopefully this summer i can sell my rentals and move back to Calif to be near family.

thanks for letting me vent and ramble

[glochis]

I am so sorry you believed in someone not worthy of your effort. 
To think I thought my ex-husband was a cad when he walked out during cancer treatment for our daughter and then wouldn't even help care for his other 3 kids when she was sent out of state for treatment!!   
I will never understand how the bad guys can twist things around so we believe what they say. 
One thing, the people here will tell you the truth.

[MooseMom]

RW, thanks for the recommendation!  I appreciate it.

As for the rest of your post, oh man, what can possibly be said?  You may not be able to get rid of CKD, but you sure can get rid of this abysmal man, this waste of space, and good riddance, too.  It's really sucky that you have to deal with two such enormous issues, but at least one can be resolved to your satisfaction.

I would never, ever claim that there is a silver lining in having CKD, but perhaps your case is different.  When you're dealing with a life threatening illness, it gives you an excuse to batten down the hatches, turn inward and fight for your own survival.  You have no time to deal with silly buggers like lying faux-husbands.  You know what you have to do, you are doing it, and your life will be much, much better.

[Riverwhispering]

Thank you for your kind words.   One good thing is I was experiencing major depression for the last few months but that's not something I've been known for and a little over a week ago I popped out of it finally.  I'm actually excited about moving back to where I have family and from reading stuff on this website I know I'll be ok.... it's really helping me get rid of the fear of the unknown about dialysis and related stuff.   You guys are the best.

[jbeany]

Ah, time for an annulment indeed!  Hope you can find a good lawyer - you'll need it to deal with the property mess.  Good luck to you!

[Riverwhispering]

I got a good lawyer it's just that out here it takes forever to get a court date.  I'm hoping it will be early summer.   It's not an annulment or divorce because it wasn't a legal marriage in the first place since he's a bigamist.   It just needs to be proven in court and have the judge sign it off as a non marriage.

[kristina]

I am so sorry that you were treated so badly by someone you trusted.

Reading your story made me shiver and I do hope you get the judge’s signature soon.
I also hope your GFR 11% remains like that without any symptoms for a long time
and I do hope you can move back to your family soon.

Best wishes and better luck in 2012 from Kristina.