I am starting to seriously consider taking myself off the transplant list. Most transplants don't last. My cousin's husband had a liver transplant a few years ago, and he's dying today. I speak to others at my dialysis center, and some of them had transplants that failed, and they had to come back to dialysis anyway. Why put yourself through the aggravation?
what desert dancer said..all of it.but, i'm not the one on dialysis. we're doing Nxstage now and it is going extremely well. even so, DH still wants a transplant. its my son in law who wants to donate. i have many mixed feelings about this. he is young and healthy and wants to donate. DH wants a transplant and be off dialysis. but this is the father of my future grandbaby, i love him dearly. i can't ask him to do it, not sure i want him to do it. it would be much better if DH family would get on board and one of them donate. they don't care about the sacrifices any of us have to make, as long as its not one of them making them. then when its all done, they will most likely want to waltz in and its all downhill for them then. i don't know. we are discussing this. i am against it, but again, i am not the patient. my 2 cents is try to get his family on board, or wait on "the call". he is doing well on home hemo. we are middle aged and the thoughts/discussion of what we'd do after a transplant and he is facing getting kicked off disability/medicare and trying to find a new job with good insurance..both of us.living donation is such a tremendous gift, i'm scared for him, i love him, i want the right decision.
I have no desire whatsoever for a transplant. I'm on nocturnal dialysis and the outcomes for this modality are equivalent to a cadaveric transplant. I have a perfectly normal life. If it ain't broke why fix it? My two main reasons for not wanting a transplant are:1) the immunosuppresents, and2) the evaluation and listing processThe drugs you must take post-transplant are nasty, nasty drugs. They cause diabetes, cancer and transplant rejection just for starters, not to mention the miserable - sometimes debilitating - day-to-day side effects. On top of all that, I have no way to pay for them once the 36 month window has closed, so why the hell bother if I'm just going to have to go back to dialysis anyway?From everything I can gather about the evaluation and listing process, it's intrusive, invasive and can be humiliating. God forbid someone on the team take a dislike to you and decide to call you non-compliant or some other bullshit. I simply do not have the temperament to bow and scrape and try to prove my worthiness. I'll have no truck whatsoever with psychologists or social workers because in my experience they pathologize everything and think they know you after two minutes' conversation. I'd be inclined to tell them to kiss my and I don't think that'd go very far toward getting me on the list. Mind you, I only feel this way because I do nocturnal dialysis at home and have everything just the way I want it. If I had to be on conventional in-center I'm certain I would work toward being listed. So yeah, transplant may be considered the 'Cadillac' of treatment options, but I'm perfectly happy with my Buick.[/quote
What I would say to this is first, you cannot compare kidney and liver transplants. That is another universe entirely. The stats are pretty straightforward with kidney - 50% of kidney patients have a functioning cadaveric transplant at roughly 12 years, 50% have a functioning live donor transplant at 25 years. (There's a bit more to it than that, but those are the basics).