How do you deal with refill happy wairesses?

[raina]

Why does everywhere have to offer free refills?  I never like having to explain why I don't want a free refill.  When I drink half my root beer, then they come all the way over with a pitcher and try to refill it I always end up all nervous and uncomfortable.  "No more for me.. I'm getting drunk here!" I sometimes say.  Waitresses don't seem to understand why I don't want more free root beer.  It gets so confusing trying to keep track of how much I drank already after refills. Its even worse with water.  One of my friends who is a waitress said her boss gets on her if he sees mostly empty glasses.  I posted this a long time ago on another forum and they suggested I just drink it at the end to avoid refills but I really like sipping it slowly throughout my hamburger.

I've been going to this new place for a few weeks and the waitress is just now starting to remember that I, for some strange reason, don't want drink refills.  She's such a happy bubbly young lady I don't want to bog her down with my troubles but she seems quite puzzled.






EDITED: Moved Thread to Proper Topic,  Dialysis General Discussion - Sluff, Moderator

[Sluff]

Personally i have no fluid restriction and I get upset when I have to beg for a refill. I'm always dry and thirsty.

When I am done I just put a knapkin on top of my glass so they know I'm done.

[raina]

Oh, sorry about the miscatagorization there.

You have no fluid restriction?  How'd you manage that?  I've had such a hard time with my fluid restriction, since fluids are, after all, my favorite thing to drink.

When I was first getting started and having problems gaining too much weight the nurse caught me crunching ice in a treatment.  I guess I crunched too much because she felt the need to actually tell me that ice counted towards my fluid intake.  Ice is just frozen water?  You don't say!

[Sluff]

Oh, sorry about the miscatagorization there.

You have no fluid restriction?  How'd you manage that?  I've had such a hard time with my fluid restriction, since fluids are, after all, my favorite thing to drink.

When I was first getting started and having problems gaining too much weight the nurse caught me crunching ice in a treatment.  I guess I crunched too much because she felt the need to actually tell me that ice counted towards my fluid intake.  Ice is just frozen water?  You don't say!

I am pre dialysis. Putting it off until my next life..hopefully.

[BigSky]

I either just tell them no thanks when they ask to refill or I let them refill it and just do not drink it.

[mrhecht]

I've often thrown my waterlogged body across the 1/2 full glass in order to stop the refills. I've snatched the glass from their hands and insisted they bring me an empty glass whereupon I pour out what they poured.  I've asked for "just a glass of ice" and insisted they bring ice only when I've been brought ice water instead. My philosophy......no explanantion needed. After 18 years of trying to figure out how to stop it, I've come to the conclusion that you just have to "guard your glass". When I'm eating out with friends or family, they help me guard it. You should see the strange looks we get when 3 different people shout out "She doesn't want any!" as they grab my glass for a refill!

[charee]

Move to Australia  We don't have refills in our restaurants only at McDonald's or Hungry Jacks but then its serve yourself.

[kitkatz]

I just gently let the waitress now I am quite happy with my half filled glass if ice and diet whatever it is.  They usually do not insist on refilling it. However those restaurants that just bring me a refill.... Now how in the hell did I manage to drink two diet sodas this morning at breakfast?  Oh yeah, it was put in front of me and I did not say no thank you!  It was good though! 

[Sluff]

I just gently let the waitress now I am quite happy with my half filled glass if ice and diet whatever it is.  They usually do not insist on refilling it. However those restaurants that just bring me a refill.... Now how in the hell did I manage to drink two diet sodas this morning at breakfast?  Oh yeah, it was put in front of me and I did not say no thank you!  It was good though! 

You deserved the diet soda for your birthday.

[kitkatz]

Yep and gonna have another diet soda tonight!

[Ohio Buckeye]

I usually let them refill it and just try not to drink a lot of it.
Usually at rest. I order water/lemon to drink.

[twirl]

get your drink in a "to go" class with a lid and a straw

I even do this at expensive restaurants.

[KICKSTART]

Refills? refills? no one refills over here  you are lucky to get your first cup !

[thegrammalady]

the problem we usually have is getting them to keep my daughters glass full.  she has been known to tell the waitress to leave the pitcher on the table. most places ask and i just say no thank you. i've never been questioned as to why. if it's a place that just brings a new glass when they see that you're low, i just don't drink it. if they just swoop in to fill it up i just put my hand over the top of the glass and say no thank you. again i've never had anyone ask why. and if they did, i'd tell them it was none of their business.

[mikey07840]

 

I borrow KitKats Stick.

Mikey 

[kitkatz]

I like it Mikey!  I have been told by a waitress that they get in trouble with management if the glasses are empty and sitting on the table.   Empties are to be picked or refilled immediately in some places.  I drive waitresses nuts, so I let them refill it, then give it to hubby or let it sit.  Sometimes, though temptation is too great and I need a  .

[angela515]

I used to tell them no thank you... and if they ever asked why, I always replied with that's none of your business... if they ever gave me that line, about management... I would probably ask to speak with management and explain not everyone on this planet is allowed to drink unlimited fluid amounts and that he needs to teach his employees not to be so nosy and a no is a no.

[flip]

Just because she refills your glass doesn't mean you have to drink it. I don't mind leaving a full glass on the table when I leave.

[kitkatz]

Sometimes, though, I paid 1.99 for that drink, I better drink it!

[Krisna]

I've never really had a problem telling them no thank you.  I've even gone so far as to put my hand over my glass as they were starting to pour after I told them no, thank you.  If they do bring me more then I use self control.  But I am usually really careful abt my fluids so I don't worry too much abt it.  I don't have and actual fluid restriction because I have been doing this so long it just comes naturally.

I agree with whoever said no explanation should be necessary.  You don't need to explain and you shouldn't have to do so!  "No thank you" should be enough.  Say loud and clear so they hear you!  And I also liked the idea of placing a napkin over the glass so they know you are done! 

Something I do when I don't want them to pour anymore is place the glass as far from the edge as I can so they can't get to it and then don't move it any closer.  This way I have a chance to make sure they know I do not want a refill before they pour it!

[KT0930]

I never really had to worry about it, as most places around here bring your drink in a huge (32 oz) glass. I would drink it so slowly that I was lucky to finish half of it before the meal was over. Since my transplant, it's great, as long as I order water to begin with...if I order a coke, I have to use some of the same tricks as y'all! (And ask for water after I finish my coke.)

[G-Ma]

I always ask for a small glass with my drink and they either bring it that way or just bring the small glass and I pour my own, that way I can keep track because I would love to "forget" some days and drink several gallons.
G Ma

[spacezombie]

This is a pet peeve of mine also. When I say I don't want another refill, you don't need to ask me again. I'm quite sure I am capable of making my own soda decisions, thank you. Also, sometimes I have some REALLY good ice just waiting for me to crunch it and the waitress goes and fills my glass with lukewarm tea before I can say no. Sometimes I ask for a separate cup of ice to crunch and don't drink enough soda to warrant a refill so that the waitress will get off my back. Anyway, I know how you feel.

I guess I could just get a beer.