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« Reply #25 on: August 14, 2009, 09:36:52 AM »

Lucinda please do not leave because of that one person!!!  Ignore what they said in the pm - just tell them you are entitled to your opinion and to butt out!!!  I would just block that person from sending me anymore pms.  Sure hope you talked to the admins so that person can at least be warned that this behavior is unacceptable!! 
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« Reply #26 on: August 14, 2009, 12:06:12 PM »

the nature of our condition is that sometimes we are just too sensitive to the words of others, and often, we have a tendency to over-react in response to the words of some.
i figure if i have made someone angry with my words, they were probably angry to start with and are just reacting to my words out of their own frustration. it has nothing to do with my words and everything to do with their misery.
to pm you and put you down is something that only a few are stupid enough to do on this site.
those are pretty good odds, considering that there are quite a few members on the site, hey?
there's bound to be a turd amongst the roses, sometimes.
don't leave lucinda. why let a turd control your actions?
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« Reply #27 on: August 14, 2009, 12:26:57 PM »

I agree Lucinda.
You shouldnt let one person who sits in there own self pity knock you out of the place you come to to talk and share good or bad, even sad times.
Plus you were here long before they were.
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« Reply #28 on: August 14, 2009, 01:03:26 PM »

hey PK, what do you think of home P/D?
i've been doing it for about two years now, and i've pretty much come to the conclusion that i would prefer to stay on dialysis rather than get a transplant.
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« Reply #29 on: August 14, 2009, 03:27:18 PM »

But also remember that we are like a family.  In real life we have fights too - and this is a good one!!  I have said terrible things to my family at times over the years - I've thrown a drink in mys sister's face, I've slammed my mother's front door so hard that I smashed the entire pane of glass, I ran over my other sister's foot deliberately with the car -  it doesn't mean I never speak to them again.  We forgive each other and move on.  Actually - that's a good idea for a thread - things you have done in anger ... fess up people!!
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« Reply #30 on: August 14, 2009, 03:35:46 PM »

Okay, Hanify, remind me not to get you mad unless I'm wearing steel toed boots!

Honestly, Lucinda, ignore the trolls!  Stick around, we need you here!
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« Reply #31 on: August 14, 2009, 03:42:31 PM »

Good post Hanify.  We all say stupid things.  I could say one thing to several people and there could be one who interprets what I said totally wrong.  Especially online.   Hanify, you must have some fun family gatherings   :rofl;   I know what you are saying - my sister and I could have some good fights, but I love her dearly (just don't always agree with her).    By the way, great idea for a new thread.  Maybe it will give us some much needed laughs.   :2thumbsup;
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« Reply #32 on: August 14, 2009, 03:44:34 PM »

It's the Irish heritage - lots of temper tantrums!
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« Reply #33 on: August 14, 2009, 04:40:00 PM »

But also remember that we are like a family.  In real life we have fights too - and this is a good one!!  I have said terrible things to my family at times over the years - I've thrown a drink in mys sister's face, I've slammed my mother's front door so hard that I smashed the entire pane of glass, I ran over my other sister's foot deliberately with the car -  it doesn't mean I never speak to them again.  We forgive each other and move on.  Actually - that's a good idea for a thread - things you have done in anger ... fess up people!!

When I was in college I lived at home for awhile.  I got so upset at my 1 and only brother for his drinking and drugging that we got into a wicked fight.  We both said some pretty mean things to each other and were just short of a fist fight.  I stormed out of the house and lived in my Chevy Chevette (tiny car) for over a month until I saved enough money to get an apartment.  I parked on the streets near campus and snuck into the dorms to shower.  We did get over it. 
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« Reply #34 on: August 14, 2009, 04:46:24 PM »

 :grouphug; Don't go Lucinda!
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« Reply #35 on: August 14, 2009, 05:18:59 PM »

I AM THE EVIL PERSON WHOM  YOU MESSAGED ONCE TELLING ME WHAT i SHOULD NOT DO.  I MESSAGED BACK SAYING THAT i WOULD STOP.  YOU SEND A SECOND REPEATING WHAT I SHOULDN'T DO AND I MESSAGED BACK SAYING I WOULD NOT APOLOGIZE A SECOND TIME.  YOU MESSAGE THE 3 RD TIME TELL ME TO WATCH MY BLOODPRESSE AND THAT i WAS A LWAYS UPSET WITH SOMEONE.  i PMED YOU TO SAY STAY OUUT OF MY BUSINESS. 
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« Reply #36 on: August 14, 2009, 05:24:38 PM »

I AM THE EVIL PERSON WHOM  YOU MESSAGED ONCE TELLING ME WHAT i SHOULD NOT DO.  I MESSAGED BACK SAYING THAT i WOULD STOP.  YOU SEND A SECOND REPEATING WHAT I SHOULDN'T DO AND I MESSAGED BACK SAYING I WOULD NOT APOLOGIZE A SECOND TIME.  YOU MESSAGE THE 3 RD TIME TELL ME TO WATCH MY BLOODPRESSE AND THAT i WAS A LWAYS UPSET WITH SOMEONE.  i PMED YOU TO SAY STAY OUUT OF MY BUSINESS.

There is a difference between Messaging on the public board and Personally PMing someone. Also when you type in Capital letters it means you are yelling/screaming.

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« Reply #37 on: August 14, 2009, 05:33:45 PM »

I AM THE EVIL PERSON WHOM  YOU MESSAGED ONCE TELLING ME WHAT i SHOULD NOT DO.  I MESSAGED BACK SAYING THAT i WOULD STOP.  YOU SEND A SECOND REPEATING WHAT I SHOULDN'T DO AND I MESSAGED BACK SAYING I WOULD NOT APOLOGIZE A SECOND TIME.  YOU MESSAGE THE 3 RD TIME TELL ME TO WATCH MY BLOODPRESSE AND THAT i WAS A LWAYS UPSET WITH SOMEONE.  i PMED YOU TO SAY STAY OUUT OF MY BUSINESS.


There is a difference between Messaging on the public board and Personally PMing someone. Also when you type in Capital letters it means you are yelling/screaming.


He's upset at all this stuff.

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« Reply #38 on: August 14, 2009, 05:34:06 PM »

Yes,  I know.  On  both counts  Who pmed and who started this thread????
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« Reply #39 on: August 14, 2009, 05:38:09 PM »

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But also remember that we are like a family.  In real life we have fights too - and this is a good one!!  I have said terrible things to my family at times over the years - I've thrown a drink in mys sister's face, I've slammed my mother's front door so hard that I smashed the entire pane of glass, I ran over my other sister's foot deliberately with the car -  it doesn't mean I never speak to them again.

Hanify, I understand what you are saying, and I think it's great that you are able to have these run-ins with your family and get past them and find humor in them. I, however, come from an abusive family. I don't speak to my family anymore - when you try everything you can think of and you are still being screamed at and threatened, it's time to go. I also have a parent who has never apologized to me once, so I believe in the power of apologies.

Those are some spectacular stories, though.... You would so be on the naughty step in my house!   :rofl; >:D

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« Reply #40 on: August 14, 2009, 05:52:11 PM »

A naughty step?  Ooooo RichardMel...lets go over to cariad's house and check that out!!!   :rofl;
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« Reply #41 on: August 14, 2009, 07:10:57 PM »

A naughty step?  Ooooo RichardMel...lets go over to cariad's house and check that out!!!   :rofl;

 :rofl;  :rofl;  :rofl;

You're both welcome any time! Just remember, you have to be really, really bad to earn a spot on the naughty step. I trust you two are up to the challenge....  >:D
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« Reply #42 on: August 15, 2009, 05:20:09 PM »

Hell yes! Wenchie and I are both definitely capable of the naughty step!!! And I'm a little scared of Hanify just now what with her driving over peoples feet and smashing doors and stuff... maybe the other side of the world is safer for me... on the naughty step!!  :rofl;
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« Reply #43 on: August 29, 2009, 02:21:11 PM »

I can't believe I missed this, Cindy I feel Terrible that this happened!!!!! Maybe you need to take the "baby" out and get her dirty(run someone over) >:D >:D >:D I REALLY can't handle anymore people leaving this site, a break I can handle as long as you check in with Richy baby ( I hear he's on the naughty step) xoxoxoxoxo
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« Reply #44 on: August 29, 2009, 02:51:20 PM »

Mommy daddy stop fighting
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« Reply #45 on: August 29, 2009, 05:14:29 PM »

Just seeing this for the first time.  Please don't go Cindy.  If you are really going, please send me your e-mail when I pm so that I can find you when I come to Australia.  xo Linda
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