A second chanceLearning to live with the threat of kidney disease helped RON AUSTIN of Allen see a higher purpose12:00 AM CDT on Friday, August 24, 2007
Editor's note: This is the second of a three-part series about Ron Austin and his family's struggle with kidney disease. The first column can be found online at www.dallasnews.com/communityopinions. The third column will appear tomorrow.It began about 1947, when my father was diagnosed with terminal Bright's disease, or kidney failure. There were no options. Dialysis hadn't been perfected and wasn't available. A transplant was out of the question.
Dad died a slow and painful death over two years. It took its toll on my family. My mom called on family and friends to help with the children. She stayed by Dad's side until the end. But he passed on to his children a potential for this mysterious disease. It was hereditary, though no one knew how or when it might strike others.
There were four children in the family. None of them showed any symptoms. All four were athletes and active in youth activities. They helped neighbors with farm and garden chores. Mom kept a close eye on the health of her four children. The only notable problem was a heart murmur in the oldest child, a boy. We grew up experiencing a life of wellness.
Then in 1973, my oldest sibling took his son to the emergency room because the son had accidentally swallowed a nickel. The routine X-ray and blood tests all patients were given revealed systemic signs of abnormal kidneys. Steven, my nephew, began getting sicker and sicker. He had end-stage renal disease.
After medical consultation in Galveston and several months of an adjusted regimen, he began weekend peritoneal dialysis treatment from Friday evening through Sunday afternoon.
He did well until both ends of a weekend treatment had to be shortened. The next Saturday, he became overloaded with fluid and went into cardiac arrest. He was awaiting a slim possibility of a juvenile renal transplant, but he never got the chance. He died at the age of 8, a third-grader.
All my siblings began to pay closer attention to their health check-ups and those of their children. In 1980, ESRD struck again. This time it was my daughter, Karen, who was a ninth-grade honor student. She had been active in drill team, choir and other activities when we lived in Arkansas.
One day when I came home, Karen was lying on the couch. Normally, she would pick at me some way. That day she just smiled weakly and wiggled a finger at me. I knew something was wrong.
After a few missed clues on her chart and a lot of lab work, she was treated with emergency peritoneal dialysis.
Karen's mother, Linda, gave her a kidney nine months later. But within the year she rejected the kidney and went on continuous ambulatory peritoneal dialysis. This was her lifeline throughout her last two years of high school and four years of college. She got her second transplant in July 1988. She went on to graduate school, got her master's and taught in a college and a Christian school before complications following hip surgery caused her death in September 2001. Hers was a fearless life of faith.
Our son experienced some blood pressure problems in elementary school, but we didn't get any indication that he was having kidney problems. The familial kidney disease struck him in January 1989. He called me about midnight from a friend's apartment to tell me he felt like he was drowning when he laid down. I suggested he sleep in a recliner to lessen his difficult breathing. A second call at four in the morning caused me great concern. I instructed him to wake his friend and get to the emergency room.
We arrived from Fayetteville after a harried four-hour drive down curvy State Highway 71. He survived, and a year later got his first transplant, but his body rejected it.
He got a second transplant in January 2003. It has been a good one and he continues to work and enjoy the freedom from the four-hour, three-days-a-week dialysis treatment. He attributes his wellness to his faith in God throughout the long ordeal.
Even though I had known my own kidneys were losing function since my college days, it still came as a shock when, in November 2003, my nephrologists informed me that I would soon need dialysis.
It was now time to tell my family. I kept the news from my mom and wife as long as I could because of the trauma they had had to deal with over the years.
We moved to the Dallas area to be closer to our son. We live in Texas now and I make my regular three-days-a-week dialysis appointments.
Reflecting on the kidney disease potential for the future, I am thankful that no other family member has developed symptoms. All nephews and nieces are in good health, and my son has no children. When he marries, we will look to good medicine and put our faith in God as we live out our lives.
Do we feel sorry for ourselves? Absolutely not. Everyone has some burden to bear.
Looking around me, I see blue skies, green grass, good neighbors, new friends and the changing seasons. God's grace for living is there for me. Anyone who seeks that power source for living will experience a real joy.
Winston Churchill said it best: "Never, never, in nothing great or small, large or petty, never give in, except to convictions of honor and good sense. Never yield to force; never yield to the apparently overwhelming might of the enemy."
Ron Austin of Allen is a retired educator and a former Voices of Collin County volunteer columnist. His e-mail address is raustinedd@hot mail.com.
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