3 months from beginning to operatoion

[bountyhunter_ga]

Good morning all my friends, I'm still waiting on my donor to loose weight for my transplant.
My first donor however had to stop as a donor because his brother also needed a kidney. In October my friend Tim and his brother started the process at Peidmont hospital for a transplant.
Tuesday morning thay did the operation and it was a success for all.
I guess I have been a little bumbed out about it, so my wife says she could see it on my face.
Tim is a good friend and also an ex cop.
I wish him the best and I feel a little guilty for feeling this way, I'm just tired.

Oh well I have vented enough, wish the best to my Dialysis family.

[Malibu]

I can imagine how you feel and I think I would have felt the same way.  I am sorry that had to happen.

[willowtreewren]

Hi, Bountyhunter,
I think the hardest thing is to see a kidney that you thought would be coming to you going somewhere else. It's the emotional component of our make-up that trumps the reasoning that we do.

Hugs to you. Your time will come.

Aleta

[paris]

Bountyhunter, Your reaction is very normal.  Each time I had a donor denied, it was a slap of reality, and your situation is a huge dose of reality.  I am very sorry. I will admit, there are times when I hear someone got a kidney that there is a part of me that is jealous --- why not me?  But then, I am happy for anyone who gets a kidney and have to remember it works out the way it is suppose to.   Go ahead and grieve a little. This is a very emotional ride we are on.    We are here for you   

[bountyhunter_ga]

I'm so luck to have so many of you that understand, you all are the chosen few,, thank you so much.

[monrein]

That whole I'm-really-happy-for-you-but-sure-wish-it-were-me feeling is always tough but it is possible to have those contradictory thoughts at the same time and it's also OK to express both sides of the coin.
Wanting your turn to come sooner rather than later and hope that Tim's kidney lasts forever in his brother.

[Sunny]

I can understand your feelings and you have every right to them.
It's hard dealing with issues regarding living donors. Very complicated and touchy stuff.
It should be interesting, however, to watch the process your friend is going through regarding the transplant.
Hang in there.

[bountyhunter_ga]

I went to the hospital last night to see my friend and his brother.
Every one was upbeat and feeling go.
I wished both of them well, with a tear in my eye, I think my friend understood.
Again the best to my friends out there in Dialysis land.

[RichardMEL]

mate it is very difficult. I feel your angst in a way. Like whenever I hear of someone who gets the miracle of a transplant and then nurses and stuff say to me "oh you'll be next. we know it" (they don't!). I feel so happy for those people of course, but as time goes on (in the 4th year of waiting now).. then the other day a friend of mine told me she met a guy who had a transplant just a couple of years ago (so during the time I have been waiting) and because he had been non compliant with his meds, drinking, smoking (etc) his transplant failed and he's back on Dialysis.

And you know what? that got me mad. Mad that someone basically threw away their gift and is now BACK ON THE LIST. potentially they could get another organ ahead of me (I know it's all down to matches of course) but I think I'd feel really cheated if that happened.

But, I thought about it and got less mad. What can I do? Nothing. I just have to hope my chance comes soon and when it comes it's a good kidney that gives me as much time as possible. I can't judge what happens to me against anyone else and thinking about how unfair things like that seem is not going to help anyone.

It's tough sometimes that's for sure. That just proves that we're all human.

[Malibu]

I bet you did have a tear in your eye when you went to see them in the hospital.  I don't know if I could have done it but I suppose better to just get it over with.  Well, you just have to hang around here with us for a little longer!!!

[galvo]

You stick around here, buddy!  We're with you!

[bountyhunter_ga]

If I had you guys as parents when I was a juvenile I may have do better things with my life. But getting at my age is not all that bad I spent my whole as a cop preparing for the worst  and hoping for the best if anything ever did happen.
I wish I could jut parade you guys up in front of some of the spoiled rotten kids I deal with every day, just to talk to them.
I thought I was tough but most of you have been through a lot more then me and you still keep your heads high and your mind right. God bless you for having the power  in my life when I needed, nothing else matters now.

[paris]

It is a good thing we all don't get down at the same time!  Having others to lean on sure makes all of this easier.  I would love for you and RichardMel to be the next for a new kidney.   You deserve it.    And thanks for serving and protecting      You make a difference each and every day.