been a while, not good

[texasstyle]

thanks everyone. Each reply is meaning and I truly feel the comfort here. My mind though, is ready to blow. You just get tired of being nice all the freaking time and accepting the "abuse".

[PatDowns]

thanks everyone. Each reply is meaning and I truly feel the comfort here. My mind though, is ready to blow. You just get tired of being nice all the freaking time and accepting the "abuse".

I've kept up with your situation for quite awhile.  Abuse does not need to be put in quote marks because that exactly describes your husband's actions - towards you.  Please seek support and help for yourself.

CODA meetings are free to attend - http://www.coda.org/index.php

Offers help on a sliding scale fee - http://www.womenstherapycenter.org/

[billyM]

thanks everyone. Each reply is meaning and I truly feel the comfort here. My mind though, is ready to blow. You just get tired of being nice all the freaking time and accepting the "abuse".

keep the chin up . i know you understand how hard it seems as a sufferer , cos youve been there and saw it , and you couldnt be more supportive , and you feel like head butting a wall right now.

content yourself with the knowledge youve done everything in your power to help .

best wishes

 

[RichardMEL]

TS sweetie ... I have been reading and out here... honestly though I just did not know what to say/write at this point that wouldn't be a rehash of all the previous comments over the past few years.

Then I thought you need to know we love and support you and yes, the abuse he's doing to himself is also abusing YOU - just not in an obvious or direct way like getting drunk and belting you or stuff like that. I can't imagine how you've managed to stick through this so much - you are the personification of a saint in many ways, as difficult as that may seem to believe, because many would have just upped and left Mike to his own devices and choices long ago. You are not only true to your vows, but true to your *love* and that is a special thing. I wish somehow deep down Mike truly understands how special you are, and rare.

I worry what is happening now, not just with Mike's seeming everlasting torture (meant in a number of ways) but YOU and your emotional state.

I really know there's nothing much I can say or write with everything you are dealing with, so I won't try anymore... I just send, like many others here, big long hugs and support thoughts.

Since i'll eb a whole lot closer in a few days maybe my vibes will get through a bit more and help to give YOU some strength. You have so much yourself, but I know you can use all the support you can get. xoxo

[Whamo]

I went without dialysis for four days when my first fistula blew out.  They gave me something to keep down the potassium.  When I got a new catheter and I did get dialysis it was gnarly.  I hope things improve for you and yours.   

[cariad]

TS, dearest, he's killing himself and forcing you to watch. Do what you have to do to come to terms with the situation and let him go. I doubt it will be long now so look after yourself and detach. Sorry he's chosen this path. Simply awful. Hugs.

[lmunchkin]

If I may add, TS, this is not your fault, so please, do not blame yourself! Lord knows, your'e doing the best you can, plain & simple! 

God Bless,
lmunchkin

[RichardMEL]

Times like this I actually wish there was a "like" button on some posts on this board, like I've seen on some others....

agree totally that it's NOT TS's fault and you need to look after yourself - mind, body and soul.

[AguynamedKim]

I don't know if I missed another post but I think this was the last one by TS for a while.  Has anyone heard from her?  Reading another post by a caregivers struggles made me think of her.  I hope she's doing alright.

[lmunchkin]

I have PM'd her, so hopefully she will reply.  Been praying for Mike too, it is a tough thing for him also!

lmunchkin

[willowtreewren]

TS is having some health issues herself. She's a trooper, though.

Aleta