How Could Someone Be So Cruel?

[jbeany]

Yup, I second Lmunchkin.  Personal Protection Orders can be written to order them to avoid all communication by any means, including facebook.  The first message he sends to you after he is served with the PPO means you can get him arraigned on a PPO violation.  Here in Michigan, it's a chunky fine or up to 90 days in jail, depending on how annoyed the judge is and how much they believe the witness.  You are going to be a vastly sympathetic witness! 

[kellyt]

He sounds damaged in some way.  Stay away from  him.  What he said iwas beyond cruel.  Sorry you had to endure that and I'm glad you didn't do anything that you would live to regret.   

[Brightsky69]

I agree with MooseMom. Just ignore the guy. Calling the police won't work...the police don't care. Calling his job, they don't care either. Save all the crazy emails from him in case you need to sue his butt in court. Or get a restraining order...not that a piece of paper would do any good.
Otherwise ignore him.

Being that he is gay, he has probably experienced the same type of bulling from his peers and public alike for most of his life. He has let that affect him to the point that he has to transfer the hate to someone he perceives as weaker than himself. Since you have kidney disease he most likely thinks your too ill or feable to do anything about his crazy rants. In turn he feels a certain amount of power and control. His seems to be dumping all of his pent up anger issues onto you and his wife. If he hasn't had one already...he sounds like he is headed for a mental breakdown.

[billybags]

beachbum, I don't like the sound of this. You two be very careful.

[cdwbrooklyn]

I’ve experienced something similar to your situation.  It was from a nurse when I was in center.  One day I needed some help and she refused to help me because (as she says) it was not her job it’s a tech job.  I got so angry at her I literally cursed her out.  She told me to hurry up and died.  I told her to die first.   Now to make a long story short, she died a year later from cancer.  I was so upset because although she told me to hurry up and die and I told her to die first, I only said it out of anger but did not really mean it in my heart.  I’ve learned in life that what you pay attention to grows.  Do not pay attention to this guy because you are not the problem.  It’s him.  If a person has to knock you to the ground to lift his self up, then the issue is with that person not the person he’s attacking.   When you see his email, delete it without reading it.  After awhile he will realize you are not paying attention to him and will move to his next victim.   Keep you head up!  You are more than he will ever be.  Materialist things are nothing if you don’t have someone to share it with.  You can have all the cars, houses, and more but if you don’t have love you are NOTHING. 

Just my two cents 

[GraphicBass]

You can't reason with crazy. Block and ignore him. If he takes more direct, non-Facebook action, nuke him — it's the only way the back off a bully who won't disengage. First step is a restraining order. In my county in Georgia, it's ridiculously easy (go to the Sheriff's Dept, swear out and affidavit, and it's done. The disadvantage is there is a hearing where he can present a defense, but be assured, the crazy will come out).

My $.02.

gary

[fearless]

I agree with those who advise getting the law involved.  Print out everything he wrote to you on FB.  It's illegal to harass and intimidate someone like that, even though it's only on FB.  The nature of his hatred makes me think he may be burying a deep self-resentment and is finding in you everything he wishes he could be.  Because he's not clear on that in his own head, his anger and self-hatred are directed toward you.  You will be helping him if you find a legal way to make him cease and desist, because he needs to learn that what he's doing is unacceptable to society at large. 

Get the restraining order.  And you could even make a claim against him for mental torture or something like that, especially because he is victimizing you as having kidney failure and for no other reason.  You didn't do anything to instigate his behavior - he simply decided he hated you because you have kidney failure (do you see how this reflects on his deep fear and self-loathing? he probably is so freakin' scared that he could never find the strength within himself to live your life with the joy that you have, and hates himself for that too - you are the easy target of his own disgust with himself)  Pity him, but don't let him get away with this crap.