It is important to have clearly stated medical directives and medical power-of-attorney arranged for the possibility that you will not be able to make decisions regarding aggressive life sustaining procedures. Don't wait. And be vocal with your loved ones about your wishes. Aleta
This following excerpt on living wills is from Charles Krauthammer's essay, "The Truth About Death Counseling." "...consider the actual efficacy of a living will. When you are old, infirm and lying in the ICU with pseudomonas pneumonia and deciding whether to (a) go through the long antibiotic treatment or (b) allow what used to be called “the old man's friend” to take you away, the doctor will ask you at that time what you want for yourself — no matter what piece of paper you signed five years ago.You are told constantly how very important it is to write your living will years in advance. But the relevant question is what you desire at the end — when facing death — not what you felt sometime in the past when you were hale and hearty, sitting in your lawyer's office barely able to contemplate a life of pain and diminishment.Well, as pain and diminishment enter your life as you age, your calculations change and your tolerance for suffering increases. In the ICU, you might have a new way of looking at things.My own living will, which I have always considered more a literary than legal document, basically says: “I've had some good innings, thank you. If I have anything so much as a hangnail, pull the plug.” I've never taken it terribly seriously because unless I'm comatose or demented, they're going to ask me at the time whether or not I want to be resuscitated if I go into cardiac arrest. The paper I signed years ago will mean nothing.And if I'm totally out of it, my family will decide, with little or no reference to my living will. Why? I'll give you an example. When my father was dying, my mother and brother and I had to decide how much treatment to pursue. What was a better way to ascertain my father's wishes: What he checked off on a form one fine summer's day years before being stricken; or what we, who had known him intimately for decades, thought he would want? The answer is obvious.Except for the demented orphan, the living will is quite beside the point. The one time it really is essential is if you think your fractious family will be only too happy to hasten your demise to get your money. That's what the law is good at — protecting you from murder and theft. But that is a far cry from assuring a peaceful and willed death, which is what most people imagine living wills are about..."Full commentary can be read here: http://www.chron.com/disp/story.mpl/editorial/outlook/6583451.htmlFor those of you unfamiliar with Krauthammer, he has been a columnist with the Washington Post since 1985, and received the Pulitzer Prize for Commentary in 1987. He began his journalism career at The New Republic, where he was a writer and editor and won the 1984 National Magazine Award for Essays and Criticism. Before going into journalism, he was a speechwriter for Vice President Walter Mondale during the 1980 presidential campaign, directed planning in psychiatric research for the Carter administration, and practiced medicine for three years as a resident and then chief resident in psychiatry at Massachusetts General Hospital. Krauthammer had a diving accident during his first year at Harvard Medical School in the early 1970s which left him paralyzed for life. Quote from: willowtreewren on June 02, 2011, 06:48:49 PMIt is important to have clearly stated medical directives and medical power-of-attorney arranged for the possibility that you will not be able to make decisions regarding aggressive life sustaining procedures. Don't wait. And be vocal with your loved ones about your wishes. Aleta