Good Friend Dies

[Sluff]

A friend of mine died Saturday, Christy text me to let me know on Monday night. This is kind of a sad situation where my friend and his wife had been friends with me for twenty some years. we were close at one time. We had a falling out about four years ago where my friends wife made a decision that ended our friendship. I wont go into the details because at this point it doesn't matter. She was type 2 diabetic and her and I would swap war stories about blood sugar readings and what not, so we kind of shared a lot of the same health problems, diagnosis and treatments of such. What saddens me the most about our unique situation is they wanted to mend the relationship at Christmas time and I blew it off, still hurt by what she had done that affected our friendship. The other thing is I did not know she developed kidney disease and was close to starting dialysis when she died. I wish we had mended our friendship because maybe she would have joined IHD and learned more about her disease and maybe that knowledge would have changed the outcome. Maybe not.

I just wanted to share this with those who may be holding grudges toward others to let it go. I think I may even call or write my sister.

Rest in Peace Lynette Leer Both age 56. You will be missed.

[acougan]

I just wanted to share this with those who may be holding grudges toward others to let it go.

^This.

1 year after discovering CKD, i'm still trying me best to let go of old grudges, (i thought it would be easier after such a life-changer but its still dang hard)

i hope to do it soon and gain peace, haha!

p/s: RIP Sluff's friend

[galvo]

May the lady rest in peace! Solid and thoughtful post, Sluff. I know that people I thought were friends have drifted away because, I think, of their fear of my being unwell. I don't think I'm holding grudges - I've just thought 'stuff 'em'. If they want to contact me, they know how.

[thegrammalady]

forget the bad and remember the good times. but then i think you know that.

[monrein]

Sorry for the loss Sluff.  I also find that the more complex the relationship with unresolved stuff, the harder the grief.  Good post.   

[okarol]

I am so sorry.  I hope you get to meet her again.

[RichardMEL]

Yeah Sluff - good points. KD has made me realise that it's more important to hold on to what matters, and not sweat the small stuff. I am sure she knows your genuine feelings at this point and understands.

[Jean]

Sorry to hear this Sluff. R.I.P for her.

[Mimi]

Oh Sluff so sorry to hear this.  My daughter had a falling out with her
Father and before they couldn't straightened out he died.  She felt guilty for a very long time about the circumstances.  Try not to feel guilty if you  or my daughter had know that they would die you both would have tried to mend the fences.  But I believe they both know how you andd Cindy feel.  This to will past and you will finally remember the good things about the relationship.

[looneytunes]

Sluff, I am so sorry for the loss of your friend.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and the family.