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TRIBUTES FOR MEMBERS LOST => Rememberance For Past Members => Tribute for Hanify => Topic started by: willowtreewren on October 15, 2012, 05:56:27 PM

Title: Tribute for Hanify
Post by: willowtreewren on October 15, 2012, 05:56:27 PM
It is with a very heavy heart that I share that Hanify died today.

I'm still too upset to write any more. She was a great optimist. There is another hole in my heart.
Title: Re: Tribute for Hanify
Post by: rocker on October 15, 2012, 06:42:34 PM
 :grouphug;
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Post by: YLGuy on October 15, 2012, 07:10:12 PM
This news is so very sad.  I will miss her dearly.  May she rest in peace.
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Post by: galvo on October 15, 2012, 08:57:47 PM
So very sad, indeed. She was a good'un!
Title: Re: Tribute for Hanify
Post by: Jean on October 16, 2012, 01:21:20 AM
Indeed, she was a good un. She was my first friend at IHD. We became immediate buddies, as she did with everyone. This year she came to the States and dropped by to have dinner with us. We had such a good time. Her husband Paul is amazing and Her little girl is adorable. I will miss Bern so very, very much. RIP sweetheart.
Title: Re: Tribute for Hanify
Post by: cariad on October 16, 2012, 02:14:34 AM
Such a shock. Cannot even process it right now. So young and, yes Aleta, so relentlessly hopeful.

My thoughts are with Paul and Molly and of course, her friends on IHD.
Title: Re: Tribute for Hanify
Post by: Des on October 16, 2012, 06:41:21 AM
Another special one - She will be missed! :flower; 
Title: Re: Tribute for Hanify
Post by: willowtreewren on October 16, 2012, 06:44:44 AM
I can talk a bit more about Bern today. But the tears come easily....

Right up until she died she was joking. She always had a bright outlook and put up the good fight. But more than that, she was always thinking of ways to help others. When Dan was in the hospital, Bern was trying to arrange a way for folks to help another friend afford visiting him. And even the day she died, Bern was helping another renal patient.

And then there were all the plans she made for another mutual friend, trying to find ways for him to work around his kidney failure.

She never complained about her own condition. She did joke about it. the night before she died we were joking about ways to raise her BP so she could have that life-saving dialysis. And then it was time for her to go.....

People like Bern are few and far between. She was a ray of sunshine and a font of hope. I am not alone in grieving her.
Title: Re: Tribute for Hanify
Post by: Rerun on October 16, 2012, 07:39:15 AM
May she rest in peace.  Hugs to her family at this time of loss.

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Post by: Sluff on October 16, 2012, 10:49:07 AM
 :(
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Post by: del on October 16, 2012, 12:04:02 PM
May she rest in peace.  She was an amazing woman with a super big heart.  :grouphug; to Paul, Molly and her family.
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Post by: phyl1215 on October 16, 2012, 01:58:27 PM
May she rest in peace.
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Post by: glitter on October 16, 2012, 04:57:33 PM
I'm so sorry for the loss of one more to this hateful disease.  :grouphug;
Title: Re: Tribute for Hanify
Post by: Marsh on October 16, 2012, 07:27:09 PM
 :grouphug;
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Post by: The Lady on October 17, 2012, 10:42:47 PM
Terrible news...and so fast. Love and prayers to all her family...here and offline. :(
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Post by: billybags on October 18, 2012, 11:00:56 AM
I agree with Glitter, one more to this hateful disease. it breaks my heart when I hear of people dying from this disease because I know that they have tried so very hard to live. Such a shame.
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Post by: thegrammalady on October 18, 2012, 08:07:34 PM
i'm speachless!!! so very sad.
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Post by: Zach on October 22, 2012, 07:54:52 AM
Another IHD friend gone.
RIP

 :'(
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Post by: YellowRose on October 22, 2012, 03:02:19 PM
I do not know her but still felt sad about her passing.
Have ESRD for almost 19 years but until 2 years ago, got into in-center hemo then found this site few months ago, I did not know ESRD impact so many people and their family so much.
Lost someone to this hateful disease is really really make me sad!
Rose
Title: Re: Tribute for Hanify
Post by: RichardMEL on October 23, 2012, 12:18:07 AM
I was really shocked when I got back from my trip and saw Bern was having trouble (via FB) then her passing was a real shock to me. As others have said she was such a positive and caring character and did all she could for others. I'd always joked with her about coming over to NZ and visiting and stuff... and I never did ( I feel a great deal for her hubby, dear Molly and her entire extended family and friends at this time.

Yet another, tragic, reminder that things can change in an instant with kidney disease and again to live life!

RIP.
Title: Re: Tribute for Hanify
Post by: Lillupie on October 23, 2012, 06:31:39 AM
to clear things up. I believe that it was her heart failure and liver failure from having cancer. So it was strictly (or so it seems to me) from the cancer. Its still really sad because I liked her and talked to her on Facebook. She had cancer too and that caused the heart failure which caused her death.
Atleast that is what her daughter (i think) told me.

Lisa
Title: Re: Tribute for Hanify
Post by: Darthvadar on October 23, 2012, 08:37:56 AM
You're right, Lisa...

The type of cancer Bern had caused deposits of rogue proteins in her heart, liver and kidneys... These caused the organs to fail, and is the reason Bern's kidneys failed in the first place...

I haven't yet written a tribute to 'Our Bern'... It's still too raw... Everytime I write about her, I cry!... I adored the water this wonderful woman walked on!... LOL!....

Oh Gawd, I'm off weeping again... Pass the tissues!..

Love to all...

Darth...
Title: Re: Tribute for Hanify
Post by: looneytunes on October 28, 2012, 03:57:37 PM
My dear Bern...I will miss your wit and your optimism.  Your courage inspired so many of us.  May you rest in peace, my friend.