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Dialysis Discussion => Dialysis: Pre-Dialysis => Topic started by: woodsman on May 04, 2011, 04:07:15 PM
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My wife who has been training/schooling to become a LPN spent the last 2+ years studying/taking exams/learning and then studying again. She went to the wall with this and tried as hard as she could. I over the last year have become a major distraction for her and i have taken away from he studies and added even more stress on a very stressful couple of years fro her with my being ill. Well with a bit less than 2 weeks to go for her degree today my Wife of 35 years told me she had failed her final exam by 2 points and therefore was let go from the program.
This broke my heart as i could see her hurting so bad, i know she tried as hard as she could she would study sometimes 6 hrs a day. But with all the crap going on with me i feel like i failed her by not supporting her more during her schooling. Now after all the money spent and her studying so hard she has to start over or move on. We are not getting any younger so i think she may just want to move ahead. I love my wife very much and being LPN was her calling because she cares so much for people. It will take sometime for her to come to grips with all this but dam 2 points and your out what a shame. She did retake it and failed again by 4 points. I am so pissed for her and it brought tears to my eyes and m,ade my heart flutter when she told me the news. I want to do something for her ro comfort her but she is really down in the dumps and really does not want to talk about it.. Any thoughts folks?? :cuddle;
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Mostly just love her....
Be willing to listen...
You have been together a long time. You know you love her and she loves you. This is one of those bumps. :cuddle;
Just be there....
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I agree with Willow. That is the most that you can do at this time. Encouragement and some cherishing will go far to help her.
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Heartbreaking for sure. I know it would give me a kick in the butt as well and im so sorry. Just not quite right, as she would do way better using her 'heart' skills than someone else with mabie a better score. Im so sorry for your sadness too as i know that position as well. Love for anothers sadness is just as bad, if not worse, than our oun personal sadness. I have no better advice than that already given. I wish you/and her something else even better to come along. :grouphug;
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what is LPN?
For my :twocents; worth, i'd be for looking for someone who has some discretionary powers because failing by 2 then 4 points tells me you know a fair bit about what you've spent the last years studying for.
i'd be explaining the circumstances of last few years how stressful its been.
if that does'nt get satisfaction. go to the media,never found anyone who likes bad publicity
after that just listen to your wife and move forward.
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Can she transfer her credits to another nursing school?
I would check. Some school make an effort to be sure their students pass, not just take your money and dump you. If it were me I would lean on the school for not preparing me. I'd ask for a refund, but I am pushy like that. :boxing;
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I'm really sorry to hear that, Woodsman. Just let her know how much you love her and appreciate her.
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Now that is the pitts!!!! More than likely it is only her nerves that made her miss 2 points and then 4 points. With a great heart like hers, she will be invited with open arms to do something else. Just stay with her and love her and dont feel guilty about this. It is not your fault. Many hugs to your wife. :cuddle; :cuddle;
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Oh, I am so sorry. Your poor wifey. I don't have anything to offer beyond what anyone else has said, but I do agree with Ang. Do they know of the circumstances and the stress your wife has been under? Could they not make some allowance of some kind?
*huggles*