I Hate Dialysis Message Board
Dialysis Discussion => Dialysis: General Discussion => Topic started by: KICKSTART on March 19, 2010, 10:00:22 AM
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Im absolutely flattened , this may be the very thing that pushes me over the edge. Ive been near a few times while on hemo , but somehow managed to pull myself back, however i dont know if i will from this. I may not get my move. Ive had a phone call this morning from the housing to say that after 3 years wait i may not get a house (the reason im down for a house is because there are only 2 bedroom houses near my mum) They have now decided i may have to have a 1 bedroom flat. Firstly there are none near my mum and secondly when i say a flat over here (UK) i really do mean a shoe box and a shoe box where you can hear every word the person above you says, they are not soundproofed . Now in all the 3 years ive been waiting they knew it was for house near my mum , they know why. We have a points system , plus a 'who has been on the waiting list longest' and i have maximum medical points and 3 years is an exceptional long wait (most are usually 6 months) but this is because i want to be near my mum , or whats the point in moving?
I can check my position for the house on line and still im number one in the queue, but according to the housing woman this morning , she is going to review all my details , so number one means sod all. I now have to wait till wednesday when the applications for it close and even if im still top of the list it means nothing. She said if im to be offered it they will call me after wednesday. Well im heartbroken, ive waited 3 years for this and now face a very stressful few days, which is going to be bad enough on its own but with D not going well, its going to be hell. I cant do anything till wednesday , in respect of fighting my corner because i dont know one way or the other now if im going to get it. IF i dont get it ..yes i can fight , kick up an almighty stink , but it wont get me that house ..then what? I dont need all this stress and the housing woman clearly had no comprehension of what dialysis involved and was very suprised to find i hadnt had a transplant and was fine yet ! If i dont get this house i think it might destroy me.
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Oh Kickstart ... Does your mum live in quite a nice area? I'm assuming a lot of people have put a bid in for the house (is that how it works? I have vague recollections of my MiL going through the process for a bungalow a couple of years ago ... the only thing that swung it in her favour was that she lived alone in a much needed three bedroom house,) and practically match you for points?
I think it's totally out of order that they gave you the impression you would definitely be moving and then swept the carpet from under your feet so cruelly. Did she say why she was going to review all your details? Did she give you the impression that you definitely wouldn't get it? Why have they now (after three years, and at this particular time) decided that you should have a flat instead? I don't understand that bit at all. 'Tis ridiculous.
I really really really hope that Wednesday brings a sunshine-y phone call your way.
Many *huggles* ... x
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Oh, that's outrageous! I lived in the UK for a long time, and I know exactly what a "flat" is, and after all you've been through, that's not where you should be. I am so very sorry this hiccup has occurred. I can feel your disappointment on this side of the Atlantic. What a way to spend the weekend! Please do keep us posted, OK? It's so frustrating having to deal with local housing authorities!