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Title: Pop's is in the hospital again.
Post by: MandaMe1986 on May 10, 2009, 02:13:33 PM
Dad was admitted last night.  He has an infection somewhere trying to locate it.   They are having trouble getting blood work done cause he is clotting really bad. His bp was 60/40 when they admitted him.  Up a little bit this morning but not much.  My step mom is having trouble deal with it. She is due for sugary this week.  Another week of hell ahead of us. 

My mothers grate aunt is in town tomarrow. I am suppose to host a dinner here.

A little overwhelmed at the moment. 

Prayers please.
Title: Re: Pop's is in the hospital again.
Post by: Rerun on May 10, 2009, 02:17:19 PM
Manda you are in my prayers.  Remember to take care of you first.  You will be unable to be there for anyone else if you get too run down.

Take one day at a time.

                                                 :cuddle;
Title: Re: Pop's is in the hospital again.
Post by: dwcrawford on May 10, 2009, 02:23:11 PM
Mandy, Sorry about your Dad.  Don't worry about all the other stuff.  Take care of your Dad and yourself.

Danny
Title: Re: Pop's is in the hospital again.
Post by: willowtreewren on May 10, 2009, 02:23:52 PM
When it rains, it pours and it is pouring on you right now. I'll be thinking of you Amanda. Try to get as much rest as you can and not get stressed. We want YOU to stay healthy!
Aleta
 :grouphug; :grouphug;
Title: Re: Pop's is in the hospital again.
Post by: monrein on May 10, 2009, 02:29:48 PM
Sending you strength to get through the week and I hope that your Dad improves soon.    :grouphug;
Title: Re: Pop's is in the hospital again.
Post by: twirl on May 10, 2009, 02:34:38 PM
you may have to cancel the dinner -
stepmom having surgery - dad in the hopital and two children at home

whatever you decide -- you will do your best
you are a good person
happy Mother's Day to you
Title: Re: Pop's is in the hospital again.
Post by: kellyt on May 10, 2009, 09:53:48 PM
 :cuddle; :cuddle; :cuddle; :cuddle; :cuddle; :cuddle; :cuddle; :cuddle;
Title: Re: Pop's is in the hospital again.
Post by: rose1999 on May 10, 2009, 10:33:17 PM
Prayers coming your way  :grouphug;
Title: Re: Pop's is in the hospital again.
Post by: Joe Paul on May 10, 2009, 11:16:11 PM
Your Dad is in my prayers, as well as you.
Title: Re: Pop's is in the hospital again.
Post by: MandaMe1986 on May 11, 2009, 07:36:29 AM
Thanks you guys. My dad is still really week, he says that he is feeling better. But doesn't look it. I have a feeling he is just trying to make everyone stop worrying. We all know what that is. And it seems to be working.

I am frustrated with my step mother.   I know that we all diffrent ways of dealing with stress. But ahhh my way is better dammit!  :banghead;  Yeah it sucks when you want everything to go a certain way and it doesn't even come close to that.   I know I am just being obsessive, can't  help it. Trying though, just not succeeding very well.  I just know what gets to me in the hospitall, and they seem to be asking all the wrong questions. Don't give a dam about anything else. It just is driving me crazy.  I hate not being in control. Haha.  So I am trying to step back from that a bit and let them both be adults.  For some reason it is really hard. lol. Yes I am a basket case when I get stressed.

Dinner is still on, I wish I could forget all about it.  But I will never hear the end of it. And truthfully it might be a nice distraction for a bit. It is just a complacated situation. But that is  how things usually go when it comes to my mom.  I am tempted to go out, but I can't afford that.  I have a feeling I would have to treat everyone. And just isn't in the budget.  Dinner is just one of those things that can't be avoid just trying to figure out the less of two evils.
Title: Re: Pop's is in the hospital again.
Post by: dwcrawford on May 11, 2009, 07:41:53 AM
Oh Mandy, forget the dinner.  Give them each a weiner and a twinkie and say good night.  You can't do it all...
or are you Bionic Woman?

Dan
Title: Re: Pop's is in the hospital again.
Post by: MandaMe1986 on May 11, 2009, 07:43:50 AM
I like to think I am Bionic Woman  ;)
Title: Re: Pop's is in the hospital again.
Post by: willowtreewren on May 11, 2009, 07:49:49 AM
But if you try to do more than you can, YOU will be the one who gets sick. Do take care of yourself, Amanda.  :cuddle; :cuddle;
Title: Re: Pop's is in the hospital again.
Post by: cherpep on May 11, 2009, 07:54:59 AM
For the dinner - Order Out!  Woman - you can only do so much, and you can't control everything, and you will only stress yourself out more trying to.   I realized that once I was able to step away from trying to control thins and make things happen the way I wanted them to happen, I was much happier.  I hope you can find a nice balance.  Stay calm. 
Title: Re: Pop's is in the hospital again.
Post by: MandaMe1986 on May 11, 2009, 08:01:33 AM
Yeah I know. It is just this random curse that I can't seem to brake. I know what I need to do, but I get stressed and have all this energy and can't get rid of it.  I just need to do stuff and be in control. Waiting isn't as easy as it should be for me.  I have learned to kinda counteract it. I pop emergncy-c (sp) when I get like this.  Keeps me from getting a cold.  If I could just figure out a way to sleep I would be good.  Thank God for books.  It is the only thing that keeps me steel for more then 10 mins.  Yeah trying to keep my a** calm, I think its harder then moving.

Don't know what I will decide for dinner yet.  I just don't know.
Title: Re: Pop's is in the hospital again.
Post by: MandaMe1986 on May 11, 2009, 10:30:44 PM
So today is over.  That is good. I am really tired.  My dad is out of the hospital.  I don't know if it was the right move. But what do I know?  Debbie (his wife) has her hysterectomy tomarrow morning at 8.  He has dialysis in the morning. So not to sure how tomarrow is gonna play out. If I can talk my dad into staying home for a couple days and resting up while Debbie is in the hospital that would be grate. But highly unlikely.  If you guys think I am hard headed you should met my father. He wouldn't let his wife stay with him one night while he was in the hospital. Lets see anyone get rid of him. But what can I do?  Other then be there for him when he crashes.

As for dinner we went out.  I didn't want to but did not have the energy to cook.  So that went as well as could be expected.  Now it is time for bed.

Thanks you guys for talking some sense into me  ;) 
Title: Re: Pop's is in the hospital again.
Post by: Chris on May 12, 2009, 01:06:11 AM
Sorry for being late to read this.

Great your dad is out of the hospital if it is warranted, meaning that he didn't need to stay and no rush was shown to get him out.

If he goes to see his wife, just tell him to be cautious around sick people and to wash his hands and face as a precautionary measure so he doesn't go back in.

Bullheadedness I am familiar with while on dialysis  ;D
Title: Re: Pop's is in the hospital again.
Post by: twirl on May 12, 2009, 04:49:26 AM
MandaMe -

your menu
main course -- weiners
dessert       -- twinkies
veg           -- PICKLE POPS

listen to the Texans  -- Crawford and Twirl -- that is how we do it in Texas    ha ha ha

ps   hope you like the pickle pops     :bandance; :bandance; :bandance;

and remember your birthday is almost here and that is your special day



Title: Re: Pop's is in the hospital again.
Post by: paris on May 12, 2009, 01:43:53 PM
Manda,  I truly think we are related!  It is hard to break old habits.  Taking care of everyone and doing everything are very hard habits for me to stop.  People can tell me all day long to take care of myself, but it is much easier to focus on other's problems.  You can't do it all for your Dad and his wife.   I know you are so worried about your Dad.  I will say prayers for him.   And for all of you.   Read your books, play with the kids and come to IHD!    I keep telling my daughters "don't be like me -- be nice to yourself too".    Take care, Manda.   :cuddle;
Title: Re: Pop's is in the hospital again.
Post by: MandaMe1986 on May 13, 2009, 09:34:57 AM
Yeah steping back from all the drama today.  :2thumbsup;  Went to the gym last night got in a really good work out.  Gonna finish my book I started last night and just going to hang out with the kidos.  Take it easy.

My dad is doing alright, his wife is doing alright.  I am just gonna relax. So I will be back all day today! Yey! IHD!

Title: Re: Pop's is in the hospital again.
Post by: cherpep on May 13, 2009, 10:05:51 AM
Good for you, Manda!!!  That sounds terrific.   :clap;