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Dialysis Discussion => Dialysis: General Discussion => Topic started by: nursewratchet on January 09, 2009, 03:24:48 AM
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OK, I have to rant :rant; I have a patient in my clinic, Mrs N. She lives in a nursing home, and has for 3 years. She has been on dialysis for 10 years (she is 59). She is married, although she tells me that the only time she sees her husband, or ANYBODY is when she comes to D. She is blind, has no legs, and has a feeding tube. The husband comes to the clinic, three times a week to make sure she "gets on". Then he leaves. She has for some time said she is "tired of this". NO SHIT!!!!! Anyway, Yesterday, she comes in, on her stretcher, crying. Husband is right behind her. I asked her what was wrong. HE said,(not letting her talk) she just doesn't want her treatemtn today. I stepped in front of him, to get to her, and asked HER. She started sobbing, and said she "didn't want to do this". I talked to her, explained to her that she would die without treatment, Like she doesn't know this after 10 years,but I have to say it). anyway, the husband is YELLING at her, to get her treatment. She says no, so I tell the ambulance people to take her back to the home. The husband makes this BIG scene, yelling at me to give her a treatment. He says he is her power of attorney, and demands her to have a treatment. I tell him, that since she is able to talk to me, his power of attorney means nothing to me, and he HAS to respect her wish, and I legally can't treat her without her consent. Anyway, he is going to report me to "somebody" GIve me a break. I have a big mouth, it will get me in trouble someday. The other patients were about to deck him. :rant; I'm still fuming!!!
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Oh heck! I agree, if the patient doesn't want to have treatment, then we should respect there wishes... especially if they have been having treatment for over ten years...as long as they understanding what they are doing then nurses, doc should go along with it. I have seen this happen at my dialysis unit, where the patient doesn't want to dialyise or do the complete 4 hours, the nurses just say to the patient you have to have it , it will save your life.... heck what can you do! I think this is a big problem!
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He must be collecting her checks HUH.
So it would benefit him to keep her alive, seeing he only sees her on Dialysis days.
Speculation of course.
Get em Nursey :clap;
PS. I hope you dont get in trouble :-(
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I think that you were right. The patient has the right to make that decision and with 10 years of experience I think she knows what she is doing. I once saw a patient that was brought in on a stretcher each time , was very old, no family ever accompanied her and she had Alzheimer's . As a volunteer I would spend time to help settle her down and the doctors agreed that sometimes it's OK for a patient to stop. We really wondered why the family allowed it. What did they get out of it!
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I know when I finally give up they better listen to me! Got to give you kudos. I hope you do NOT get into trouble over this.
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:cuddle; nursewratchet. I sure wish you worked at the clinic we went to. :bow;
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Didn't you write about this patient before about something else? Just her description seemed to familiar.
Anyway, I'm glad you stepped in. He sounds like a real winner of a person. I guess he would want his kidney back to if he donated and was going to divorce her. Whoever he reports to is going to make him look like an idiot anyway since you have witnesses anyway.
Hope day went better.
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Hey heres an idea? Can we clon nursewratchet one I want on my D team. :2thumbsup;
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Yeah, we have one like that at my center. The entire time she just moans "help." Sometimes she says she wants to die. Very upsetting to the patients.
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Clearly it seems there's something signifcant in it for the husband.. there doesn't seem to be any other obvious reason for him to be so forthright about it and ignoring HER wishes. If she wants to go and she's lucid than that is her call.. and given her situation I think I'd just want to quit too (horrible to "exist" liks that.. that is not living). I think you did the right thing and acted totally appropriately.
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He must be collecting her checks HUH.
So it would benefit him to keep her alive, seeing he only sees her on Dialysis days.
Speculation of course.
Get em Nursey :clap;
PS. I hope you dont get in trouble :-(
EXACTLY!!! He does get her SS check... :Kit n Stik;
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I think this guy should be locked away in a small room with that guy who wants his kidney back.....
:Kit n Stik;
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I think this guy should be locked away in a small room with that guy who wants his kidney back.....
:Kit n Stik;
:rofl; Lets do that AFTER he has to endure to years of Dialysis, with no vision and no legs, and no visitors. What a life!
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Actually I was just thinking you should have said "hey buddy if YOU want it so badly how about YOU do her session for her" and stick a 15 guage in his face.....
jerk!
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This thread is disturbing. That woman is his wife for God's sake. Who are we to judge how people handle a very personal and difficult situation? People expect him to happily stand by and agree to watch his wife die? You've got to be kidding. Before someone can choose do die by refusing dialysis, they need a psychological exam to rule out depression etc. And even after that, if someone is declared fit to make that choice, of course it is going to gravely affect family members. I don't understand how we can expect a family member to happily go along with a decision to refuse dialysis like it was deciding not to brush their teeth today. Of course he's going to be upset and even more upset by medical staff dismissing his concerns as meaningless even if it ultimately is the patient's choice. We don't know what goes on in his life. We aren't living it every day. From his wife's description, I can guarantee his life is more difficult that most of ours. If it was my son on dialysis and he refused it one day and the staff simply went along with his wishes, I would have done a LOT more than that man did, believe me! Whether or not the man sits by his wife's side every minute is not an indication of anything. We cannot pass judgment. We aren't living in their shoes.
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I don't agree, swramsay. Nurse Wrachet has been taking care of this patient for 10 yrs. That's more than enough time to spend with a patient to get a good idea of what their life is like. I realize not every center has nurses that get personally involved, but some of us are lucky enough to have nurses like that.
I think quality of life should count more than quantity. Blind, in a nursing home, with a feeding tube, and constantly alone doesn't sound to me like a life that counts as quality. If she wants to stop, he should be respecting her wishes.
I've been in-center this week, and spent the last two sessions sitting next to an elderly man who is senile to the point that he doesn't understand where he is or why he's there. He keeps trying to get up out of his chair and wander away. The nurses are really good with him, but I have to wonder at his family's reasoning at keeping him alive when he clearly doesn't even recognize himself in a mirror anymore, let alone any of them. I don't get the point of keeping him alive just because we have the technology to do so.
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Wow I don't care who her power of attorney is, she said no. Enough is enough, and she knows when its time. I know her husband cared about her, I can fully understand. But he has to undestand aswell that she is the one fighting. She has been fighting for so long. And she is living in a home. I worked in one.....that isn't a place to be happy about living in. She knows what she needs, and maybe she needs to let go. I don't know what to say. But if there ever comes a time and I am put in that situation, I pray I have a nurse that is willing to fight for me. You did the right thing.
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I dont think a grown person needs a permission slip if they CHOOSE not to accept a medical remedy.
If that were the case John Travolta would be up for manslaugther for refusing his child medicine that would have maybe prevented his death. It is/was against there religion.
And did you read the original post?? Only time family is around is to make sure she gets her Treatment to keep her alive. So the checks keep coming? maybe. If he was that concerned about her maybe she would live at home with him.
i hear what your saying but maybe it is the other way around.
Ps. Please tell me how his life is more difficult then any of ours?? Do you have inside info??
And yes i also am in support of assisted suicide. We put animals who are in distress down. Why should a human be FORCED to suffer if they know there ready to go elsewhere.
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All I know is when people tell me what they believe is right for me, all I want to know is...are they going to hug my child at night when he misses his mom? Or meet his first girlfriend? Or be there for his first heartbreak? Or pay the bills? As much as I respect the opinions of my medical team and adore them as people, the bottom line is, none of them can answer yes to those questions. I was not passing judgment on anything anyone did or said. I was simply disturbed by the judgment I felt was being passed on someone else. Yes, it's a difficult situation but it's still not our place to judge or make the decisions for them. If the decision to end her life is to be made, then she has the right to do that if the proper procedures take place. Even when that happens, it is still a very difficult and emotional time for anyone involved in her life and I just hope we can empathize rather than judge. You are right...I don't know what his life is like and neither does anyone else really. I certainly didn't mean to offend anyone and I apologize if I did.
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All I know is when people tell me what they believe is right for me, all I want to know is...are they going to hug my child at night when he misses his mom? Or meet his first girlfriend? Or be there for his first heartbreak? Or pay the bills? As much as I respect the opinions of my medical team and adore them as people, the bottom line is, none of them can answer yes to those questions. I was not passing judgment on anything anyone did or said. I was simply disturbed by the judgment I felt was being passed on someone else. Yes, it's a difficult situation but it's still not our place to judge or make the decisions for them. If the decision to end her life is to be made, then she has the right to do that if the proper procedures take place. Even when that happens, it is still a very difficult and emotional time for anyone involved in her life and I just hope we can empathize rather than judge. You are right...I don't know what his life is like and neither does anyone else really. I certainly didn't mean to offend anyone and I apologize if I did.
I feel for you, as a mother. I would have the hardest time letting go. But I think just hearing about what they are going through. He has had his life with his wife, he isn't holding her at night, she isn't happy. I just think she did the right thing by standing up to the family. I know what its like to be on both ends. And sometimes it takes a wonderful nurse, or doctor to stand up and defend the decision that was made. Family is always going to have a hard time letting go.
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No one's offended, swramsay. We debate these issues on here a lot, and it's always good to hear all sides of an issue. That's what Epoman started the site for!
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people been trying to offend me for years. Cant happen. But if i sounded off im sorry for that.
Your comparison to her situation are two totally different scenarios.
But I have to ask. Are you more worried about her husbands situation or hers??
Curious minds and all that kinda stuff
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in noi way is this an easy situation. power of attorney only means he can sign for her financially, it doesn't mean she's incapable. does she have a dnr? that doesn't just mean "i've had a heart attack, don't put me on a respirator" it means i can refuse to eat, refuse dialysis etc and no one not family, or medical personal can legally force me. and i guarantee a nursing facility costs more than her ss check. whatever his reasoning, it's not easy.
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But I have to ask. Are you more worried about her husbands situation or hers??
Curious minds and all that kinda stuff
I am equally concerned/care about both because both (or all) are affected and involved. Dialysis changes everyone's life - not just the patient's - on many different levels and to varying degrees that no one can fully comprehend. As a dialysis patient/cancer patient, it is not just about me. There are many sides to it all. There are many people involved. I always see and feel more sides than one. :-*
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This thread is disturbing. That woman is his wife for God's sake. Who are we to judge how people handle a very personal and difficult situation? People expect him to happily stand by and agree to watch his wife die? You've got to be kidding. Before someone can choose do die by refusing dialysis, they need a psychological exam to rule out depression etc. And even after that, if someone is declared fit to make that choice, of course it is going to gravely affect family members. I don't understand how we can expect a family member to happily go along with a decision to refuse dialysis like it was deciding not to brush their teeth today. Of course he's going to be upset and even more upset by medical staff dismissing his concerns as meaningless even if it ultimately is the patient's choice. We don't know what goes on in his life. We aren't living it every day. From his wife's description, I can guarantee his life is more difficult that most of ours. If it was my son on dialysis and he refused it one day and the staff simply went along with his wishes, I would have done a LOT more than that man did, believe me! Whether or not the man sits by his wife's side every minute is not an indication of anything. We cannot pass judgment. We aren't living in their shoes.
How do you come to that assumption if she, herself, says the only time she "sees" her husband is when she goes to dialysis. And even then he just "drops her off and leaves". ??? And, it doesn't sound like he was "upset". It sounded like he was angry and demanding. I think that if it were my husband refusing the treatment I would be on my knees crying and BEGGING him to reconsider and telling him how much I loved and needed him. I would not be yelling at him to "get on the machine".
Way to go NurseWratchet! Patients have rights.
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All I know is when people tell me what they believe is right for me, all I want to know is...are they going to hug my child at night when he misses his mom? Or meet his first girlfriend? Or be there for his first heartbreak? Or pay the bills? As much as I respect the opinions of my medical team and adore them as people, the bottom line is, none of them can answer yes to those questions. I was not passing judgment on anything anyone did or said. I was simply disturbed by the judgment I felt was being passed on someone else. Yes, it's a difficult situation but it's still not our place to judge or make the decisions for them. If the decision to end her life is to be made, then she has the right to do that if the proper procedures take place. Even when that happens, it is still a very difficult and emotional time for anyone involved in her life and I just hope we can empathize rather than judge. You are right...I don't know what his life is like and neither does anyone else really. I certainly didn't mean to offend anyone and I apologize if I did.
But this is precisely what her husband is doing (in my opinion). He is demanding that dialysis is right for her. SHE, on the other hand, is saying she wants to stop. Only she knows what is truly right for her. She is the patient, she is going through the treatment. In this particular case she is not insane.
People with cancer decide all the time to stop (or never even start) chemotherapy. To my knowledge they are not required to undergo psychological evaluation. Are they? My father stopped chemo and I don't remember anyone demanding he see a psychologist/psychiatrist. Then again, he would have told them to shove it up their arse! :rofl
Believe me, I've met NurseWratchet, been to her center, met some of her patients aand have seen her interacation with them. They adore her! :2thumbsup;
And personally I think the word "offend" gets thrown around way too much. You did not offend me at all. You have every right to express your thoughts and feelings. I truly don't know if I've ever really been offended ever. Grossed out - yes. Surprised - yes Shocked - yes. But offended....no. :cuddle;
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In my "not so humble" opinion, this woman was totally within her rights to refuse treatment. Her hubby shouldn't be yelling at her, no matter what their situation is! Our fave nursewratchet did exactly what she should've done..send the woman back to her "home". Until you've walked a mile in their shoes, I say.
Hope you don't see any fallout from this!
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This thread is disturbing. That woman is his wife for God's sake. Who are we to judge how people handle a very personal and difficult situation? People expect him to happily stand by and agree to watch his wife die? You've got to be kidding. Before someone can choose do die by refusing dialysis, they need a psychological exam to rule out depression etc. And even after that, if someone is declared fit to make that choice, of course it is going to gravely affect family members. I don't understand how we can expect a family member to happily go along with a decision to refuse dialysis like it was deciding not to brush their teeth today. Of course he's going to be upset and even more upset by medical staff dismissing his concerns as meaningless even if it ultimately is the patient's choice. We don't know what goes on in his life. We aren't living it every day. From his wife's description, I can guarantee his life is more difficult that most of ours. If it was my son on dialysis and he refused it one day and the staff simply went along with his wishes, I would have done a LOT more than that man did, believe me! Whether or not the man sits by his wife's side every minute is not an indication of anything. We cannot pass judgment. We aren't living in their shoes.
If he is of legal age, you will have no say so at all. Legally, patient choice has to be adhered to.
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And personally I think the word "offend" gets thrown around way too much. You did not offend me at all. You have every right to express your thoughts and feelings. I truly don't know if I've ever really been offended ever. Grossed out - yes. Surprised - yes Shocked - yes. But offended....no. :cuddle;
Well... I used the word "offend". From your remark, it sounds like that word is used often on this forum by other people (?). I have no idea what others mean when they use that word but if I am included in your reference to people who 'throws' the word around, this is what I meant when I used the word 'offend': I apologize if I "aroused resentment or anger or vexation and I also didn't wish to be displeasing to anyone by stating my thoughts. It does appear that I aroused some of that which is the definition of 'offend'. I used the word because it is exactly what I wanted to express in my apology. Hope that helps.
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I hope to God that if I am ever in a situation like that poor woman that my family will give me the dignity to choose how I am treated.
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I hope to God that if I am ever in a situation like that poor woman that my family will give me the dignity to choose how I am treated.
Me too Okarol. I have a Living Will, Advance Directive and my daughter has Power of Attorney and knows my wishes. I have told her I'll come back and haunt her if she doesn't abide by them.
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If I got offended easily, I couldn't do my job. No offense taken. :waving; I'm not having any part of any treatment that I don't want. My family knows that, and we should all make sure our families know what to do, and NOT to do when the time comes. :flower;
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This thread is disturbing. That woman is his wife for God's sake. Who are we to judge how people handle a very personal and difficult situation? People expect him to happily stand by and agree to watch his wife die? You've got to be kidding. Before someone can choose do die by refusing dialysis, they need a psychological exam to rule out depression etc. And even after that, if someone is declared fit to make that choice, of course it is going to gravely affect family members. I don't understand how we can expect a family member to happily go along with a decision to refuse dialysis like it was deciding not to brush their teeth today. Of course he's going to be upset and even more upset by medical staff dismissing his concerns as meaningless even if it ultimately is the patient's choice. We don't know what goes on in his life. We aren't living it every day. From his wife's description, I can guarantee his life is more difficult that most of ours. If it was my son on dialysis and he refused it one day and the staff simply went along with his wishes, I would have done a LOT more than that man did, believe me! Whether or not the man sits by his wife's side every minute is not an indication of anything. We cannot pass judgment. We aren't living in their shoes.
every person on this planet has the right to refuse medical treatment at any
given moment,without testing for depression and the like.
how can the professionals have any idea the bs that patients endure with their treatment.
walk a mile in my shoes then tell me you would'nt do the same.
ps: i have no intention to stop my treatment cause i've got to many important
things in life to consider the thought,least of all to see what my IHD family is up to.
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Good on ya nursewratchet
:clap; :clap; :thumbup; :thumbup; :clap; :clap;
How dare anyone think they have the right to make anybody have a medical procedure if they don't want to.
:Kit n Stik; :Kit n Stik; :Kit n Stik; :Kit n Stik; :Kit n Stik; :Kit n Stik; :Kit n Stik;
every person on this planet has the right to refuse medical treatment at any
given moment,without testing for depression and the like.
how can the professionals have any idea the bs that patients endure with their treatment.
walk a mile in my shoes then tell me you would'nt do the same.
I absolutely agree with you mate
A bit more bloody respect is what is needed
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I hope to God that if I am ever in a situation like that poor woman that my family will give me the dignity to choose how I am treated.
Me three.
I am offended. By the so called "husband".
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every person on this planet has the right to refuse medical treatment at any
given moment,without testing for depression and the like.
how can the professionals have any idea the bs that patients endure with their treatment.
I agree, psychologist and psychiatrist I don't believe in. To me it just a matter of their opinion of what they think how someone is and should feel. Just watch court tv and see two different of these so called doc disagree with each other on the stand.. One dispenses medications while the other just listens to you. Save the money, go to a bar or have a good friend to talk to or find an online forum. People should have the sole right o choose what they want to do in life without having to jump through these modern day loops of "talking about it"
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Thank you NurseW for what you did for your patient. I hope I have someone like you by my side someday.
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This article is about this very issue http://ihatedialysis.com/forum/index.php?topic=11901.0
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The key issue for me is that the patient who by all accounts is of sound mind (if not body very much :( ) and her wishes were not being respected - specially by someone as close to her or supposedly close and supportive as the husband. Yes, we have questioned the husband's motives - they may simply be "I love you I don't want you to go" or something more sinister/selfish as expressed earlier (social security, etc). Either way I'm not sure it's for us to make that call.. but the key issue is that the person herself said no. We are all the masters of our own lives and destinies.. or should be anyway I feel.. and I just wish people would be allowed to choose form themselves...
This dovetails into a discussion about euthanasia of course which could get rather protracted I feel.
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Richard, I always like to hear your views. You see things so clearly. My Mom was in a nursing home and my step father had complete control of her care. Mom would have died a few years before she did if her husband hadn't kept requesting treatments for her. He didn't monetairly benefit from her staying alive; in fact he paid quite a bit to keep her in a private room in a private facility. He just didn't want to lose her. We, as her children, knew it would be the best thing to let her just die. and we were prepared for that. But, we weren't the ones in control. The nurses knew how the children felt and were very kind to Mom and us. They tried to convince my stepdad in his decisions, but he wouldn't listen. He would just get made at the nurses and us. Very hard postion for the health care team, the husband and especially the patient.
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wouldn't the checks go to the nursing home she lives in?
If that were the case John Travolta would be up for manslaugther for refusing his child medicine that would have maybe prevented his death. It is/was against there religion.
His son WAS on anti-seizure medications, and they do believe in modern medicine- they just do not support psychiatric drugs
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wouldn't the checks go to the nursing home she lives in? Her ss goes to the nursing home, but she has a nice retierment check. She worked her whole life.
If that were the case John Travolta would be up for manslaugther for refusing his child medicine that would have maybe prevented his death. It is/was against there religion.
His son WAS on anti-seizure medications, and they do believe in modern medicine- they just do not support psychiatric drugs
EDITED:Fixed quote tag error-kitkatz,Moderator
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And personally I think the word "offend" gets thrown around way too much. You did not offend me at all. You have every right to express your thoughts and feelings. I truly don't know if I've ever really been offended ever. Grossed out - yes. Surprised - yes Shocked - yes. But offended....no. :cuddle;
Well... I used the word "offend". From your remark, it sounds like that word is used often on this forum by other people (?). I have no idea what others mean when they use that word but if I am included in your reference to people who 'throws' the word around, this is what I meant when I used the word 'offend': I apologize if I "aroused resentment or anger or vexation and I also didn't wish to be displeasing to anyone by stating my thoughts. It does appear that I aroused some of that which is the definition of 'offend'. I used the word because it is exactly what I wanted to express in my apology. Hope that helps.
:)
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Its a shame the Woman wants to die, and her Husband refuses to let her have her wish. Its good you stuck up for her N.W. :thumbup; On the flip side though, I wonder what the commotion does to the other patients in the clinic. Its hard enough sometime to accept the fact that this is our life for now, being dependent on a machine for life, then we have to sit and watch or hear these kinds of dramas unfold. It brings the focus back to the fact, that this could very well be our own fate. I try not to show my emotions, but, as I said, these kinds of dramas get me thinking, as I sit for my 4 hour treatment, with no choice but to endure these mental beatings. I am not feeling sorry for myself, but for Gods sake, I do not think we other patients should have to be put through these type of punishments.
I am now stepping off my soapbox, thanks for listening - J.P.
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If I were in that woman's condition....How DARE anyone try to prolong my life...especially when all I would have to look forward to more dwindling.
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I know this may be a little late, but I've been working on my response for a few days. Sorry it's so long, but it's necessary.
The husband has absolutely no legal standing to make any of her decisions at this point! This poor woman has the law completely on her side. In this particular situation, the husband would need to be a Health Care Power of Attorney (HCPA). Being just a plain old Power of Attorney means squat when it comes to medical care. Besides, he would actually have to have the actual original copy of the HCPA in his hands, at the clinic, in order for them to force her to do dialysis that day. On top of that, he could only take over her medical care when her doctor determines that she is no longer able to make an informed decision for herself--meaning she is not lucid, or is in a vegetative state. Even if she couldn't talk, she can still make decisions as long as she can write or sign (if she's blind). The following was taken from my HCPA document (wording is standard for all HCPAs):
Subject to any specific limitations you include in this document, if your attending physician determines that you have lost the capacity to make an informed decision on a health care matter, the attorney in fact GENERALLY will be authorized by this document to make health care decisions for you to the same extent as you could make those decisions yourself, if you had the capacity to do so. The authority of the attorney in fact to make health care decisions for you GENERALLY will include the authority to give informed consent, to refuse to give informed consent, or to withdraw informed consent to any care, treatment, service, or procedure to maintain, diagnose, or treat a physical or mental condition.
HOWEVER, even if the attorney in fact has general authority to make health care decisions for you under this document, the attorney in fact NEVER will be authorized to do any of the following:
1) Refuse or withdraw informed consent to life-sustaining treatment, unless your attending physician and one other physician who examines you determine, to a reasonable degree of medical certainty and in accordance with reasonable medical standards, that either of the following applies:
a. You are suffering from an irreversible, incurable, and untreatable condition caused by disease, illness, or injury from which
i. there can be no recovery and
ii. your death is likely to occur within a relatively short time if life-sustaining treatment is not administered, and your attending physician additionally determines, to a reasonable degree of medical certainty and in accordance with reasonable medical standards, that there is no reasonable possibility that you will regain the capacity to make informed health care decisions for yourself.
b. You are in a state of permanent unconsciousness that is characterized by you being irreversibly unaware of yourself and your environment and by a total loss of cerebral cortical functioning, resulting in you having no capacity to experience pain or suffering, and your attending physician additionally determines, to a reasonable degree of medical certainty and in accordance with reasonable medical standards, that there is no reasonable possibility that you will regain the capacity to make informed health care decisions for yourself;
2) Refuse or withdraw informed consent to health care necessary to provide you with comfort care (except that, if the attorney in fact is not prohibited from doing so under (4) below, the attorney in fact is not prohibited from informed consent to the provision of nutrition or hydration to you as described (4) below). (You should understand that comfort care defined in (state) to mean (varies by state, but generally refers to nutrition, fluids or any other medical procedure, treatment, intervention or measure that would be taken to diminish pain or discomfort, but not postpone death.);
3) Refuse or withdraw informed consent to health care for you if you are pregnant and if the refusal or withdrawal would terminate the pregnancy (unless the pregnancy or health care would pose a substantial risk to your life, or unless your attending physician and at least one other physician who examines you determine, to a reasonable degree of medical certainty and in accordance with reasonable medical standards, that the fetus would not be born alive);
4) Refuse or withdraw informed consent to the provision of artificially or technologically administered sustenance (nutrition) or fluids (hydration) to you, unless:
a. You are in a terminal condition or in a permanently unconscious state.
b. Your attending physician and at least one other physician who has examined you determine, to a reasonable degree of medical standards, that nutrition or hydration will not or no longer will serve to provide comfort to you or alleviate your pain.
c. If, but only if, you are in a permanently unconscious state, you authorize the attorney in fact to refuse or withdraw informed consent to the provision of nutrition or hydration to you by doing both of the following in this document:
i. Including a statement in capital letters or other conspicuous type, including, but not limited to, a different font, bigger type, or boldface type, that the attorney in fact may refuse or withdraw informed consent to the provision of nutrition or hydration will not or no longer will serve to provide comfort to you or alleviate your pain is made, or checking or otherwise marking a box or line (if any) that is adjacent to a similar statement on this document;
ii. Placing your initials or signature underneath or adjacent to the statement, check, or other mark previously described.
d. Your attending physician determines, in good faith, that you authorized the attorney in fact to refuse or withdraw informed consent to the provision of nutrition or hydration to you if you are in a permanently unconscious state by complying with the requirements of (4)(c)(i) and (ii) above.
5) Withdraw informed consent to any health care to which you previously consented, unless a change in your physical condition has significantly decreased the benefit of that health care to you, or unless the health care is not, or is no longer, significantly effective in achieving the purposes for which you consented to its use.
Additionally, when exercising authority to make health care decisions for you, the attorney in fact will have to act consistently with your desires or, if your desires are unknown, to act in your best interest. You may express your desires to the attorney in fact by including them in this document or by making them known to the attorney in fact in another manner.
When acting pursuant to this document, the attorney in fact GENERALLY will have the same rights that you have to receive information about proposed health care, to review health care records, and to consent to the disclosure of health care records. You can limit that right in this document if you so choose.
Generally, you may designate any competent adult as the attorney in fact under this document. However, you CANNOT designate your attending physician or the administrator of any nursing home in which you are receiving care as the attorney in fact under this document. Additionally, you CANNOT designate an employee or agent of your attending physician, or an employee or agent of a health care facility at which you are being treated, as the attorney in fact under this document, unless either type of employee or agent is a competent adult and related to you by blood, marriage, or adoption, or unless either type of employee or agent is a competent adult and you and the employee or agent are members of the same religious order.
Ok, that's all I have to say (for now)!
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I just saw this thread. :stressed;
I have also stepped in and told a family member "she doesn't have to do this anymore" after seeing this poor woman drug in every other day crying and having another part of her body chopped off each month. The family is all nice and drags her in and then LEAVES for us to hear her cries and moaning. After a while of that I too wanted to stop dialysis.
IMO it is up the the Nephrologist to tell the family "Look, she/he is suffering to the point of no quality of life". But, then again they are never around either.
My sister is my POA and she knows that if I'm not aware that I'm on dialysis to pull the plug. I'll pull it myself if things get worse.
There is a point that an illness is more of a burden on the family than it is worth to being "kept alive".
It makes me sick to see a person drug into dialysis when they don't even know they are there. AND they use that lift thing like they are a piece of meat. Death comes.....dialysis prolongs it.
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thank you padbear, you did the research, i just muddled through.....................i say what she said!!!!!
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Great Paddbear.
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nursewratchet rocks! There is absolutely no way I would let my husband dictate whether I lived or died. When I decide I have had enough, it is enough. That is rightfully my decision to make, not his or anyone else in the family. No legs, no sight, feeding tube and living in a nursing home at 59, I would have given up a long time ago. I don't believe there is a lot of loving going on in that relationship and forcing his wife to endure such a life is not loving, it's abusive. You did exactly the right thing nursewratchet and there is no way you would get into trouble when you were doing as the PATIENT requested. Power to you. xx
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Padd, you really know how to research! I could have researched for hours and still only come up with a correct spelling for whatever I might have been looking up. Actually, after about 30 minutes I would have gotten sidetracked and ended up either on IHD or Facebook. ::)
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I didn't actually do any research. Except for the first paragraph, it was all from my Health Care Power of Attorney document. I just had a living will and power of attorney done a few weeks ago. I just retyped the main part of the document.